This is a counter thread to the "why are you here"?

Here is the real reason:

You have made a mistake either

-before
-during
-after

your last relationship. The theory of "not my fault" doesn't work. It takes 2 to fail a relationship. Once you admit to yourself that you aren't a sweet angel who never makes a mistake and forgive yourself (we are all humans), then you are on the right track.

And if you had more failed ones, than that reapplies, that you ran in the mouse wheel more times, only to fall out of it and then realized (after a while) that you weren't getting anywhere, no matter how fast or hard you were running.


One thing is sure, you cannot fail if you never try and failing is not a bad thing when it comes to relationships, but take it as a challenge you have gone through.

Anyone who says that they have never had a failed relationship, they are either lying, never had a relationship, or living in a fake shallow world, and most likely less experienced than you or me (supposedly anyone reading this is a single who had failed relationship(s) on this dating site.

I have a pretty strong personality and haven't found the right one to put up with me

Why does a break up have to be a "failure?" I don't feel like any of my relationships are failures...they just ended. We learn each time, grow, become more loving..hopefully.

Which of my relationships would be the failures..the ones where I got dumped or when I was doing the dumping....

Answer thief!!!!

that's how I roll

I agree with this statement. I have learned from all of my relationships and I wouldn't change anything; no regrets. I've learned, moved on and hopefully became a better person.

I agree. The only time I see it as a failure is if I haven't learned or taken something from the relationship for future knowledge

I'm single 'cause none of the ladies on here will marry me, and I live in a town of 100 ppl

ya kim reading minds again that scarey thought lol just havent found the right person this time around

shush you

dare ya to make me lol

I'm not perfect

I made mistakes

I have learned from them

And

I'm giving myself another chance to be happy

That is all.

humm cause i cant get a date? dont ya need a date before you come un single?

I could not pick the right one for me.

My biggest problem was I believed that I could fix anything that was wrong with them instead of taking them at face value when I met them. By fix I mean love them so well they just straightened right up.

I don't know where I got the concept that a man doesn't straighten up until he falls in love. It isn't true at all as far as I can tell.

Because 99% of the people view their single-ness as a failure of themselves or someone else's who failed them.

Well, I don't

Using your logic I can simply answer; it was a 50/50 process.

Comes from being taught that one of our main goals in life is to have a successful relationship and grow old and die together.

I see a lot of people in real life confusing WANTING someone with NEEDING someone

I'm not. I'm trying to get single!