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Topic: Why are you single?
sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 06/09/10 07:14 PM Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Wed 06/09/10 07:16 PM
This is a counter thread to the "why are you here"? Here is the real reason: You have made a mistake either -before -during -after your last relationship. The theory of "not my fault" doesn't work. It takes 2 to fail a relationship. Once you admit to yourself that you aren't a sweet angel who never makes a mistake and forgive yourself (we are all humans), then you are on the right track. And if you had more failed ones, than that reapplies, that you ran in the mouse wheel more times, only to fall out of it and then realized (after a while) that you weren't getting anywhere, no matter how fast or hard you were running. One thing is sure, you cannot fail if you never try and failing is not a bad thing when it comes to relationships, but take it as a challenge you have gone through. Anyone who says that they have never had a failed relationship, they are either lying, never had a relationship, or living in a fake shallow world, and most likely less experienced than you or me (supposedly anyone reading this is a single who had failed relationship(s) on this dating site. sorry - do not agree - I have made mistakes in a past relationship, but not in my last one. That was 100% him - sorry it's true. He was a total idiot and I should have broken up wiht him a lot sooner. He took me for granted and treated me like crap- used me, lied, cheated - gosh u name it he did it - like I said the only mistake I made was not getting out of it sooner. I cooked for him, put up with missed phone calls broken dates (with no fight afterwards), was sweet to him even whwen he did not deserve it,massaged him wiht oils and tried in every way to please him - I seriously did absolutely nothing wrong except staying as long as I did...finally I did break it off. He kept calling and I finally had to hang up on him. normally I'd never do that, but in this case , it felt great!

Atlantis75 Joined Wed 12/03/08 Posts: 8581	Wed 06/09/10 07:32 PM
Why does a break up have to be a "failure?" I don't feel like any of my relationships are failures...they just ended. Because 99% of the people view their single-ness as a failure of themselves or someone else's who failed them. Well, I don't Then you are the 1%

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 06/09/10 07:36 PM Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Wed 06/09/10 07:37 PM
Why does a break up have to be a "failure?" I don't feel like any of my relationships are failures...they just ended. Because 99% of the people view their single-ness as a failure of themselves or someone else's who failed them. Well, I don't Then you are the 1% me too, in that instance, yes - otherwise I 'm in the same boat as everyone else

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Wed 06/09/10 07:37 PM
(whistling) Here's a little song i wrote, you might want to sing it note for note, don't worry, be happy in every life we have some trouble, when you worry you make it double don't worry, be happy dont worry be happy now dont worry be happy dont worry be happy dont worry be happy dont worry be happy aint got no place to lay your head, somebody came and took your bed, don't worry, be happy the landlord say your rent is late, he may have to litagate, dont worry (small laugh) be happy, look at me im happy, don't worry, be happy i give you my phone number, when your worried, call me, i make you happy don't worry, be happy aint got no cash, aint got no style, aint got no gal to make you smile but don't worry, be happy cos when you worry, your face will frown, and that will bring everybody down, so don't worry, be happy don't worry, be happy now... don't worry, be happy don't worry, be happy don't worry, be happy don't worry, be happy now there this song i wrote i hope you you learned it note for note like good little children dont worry be happy listen to what i say in your life expect some trouble when you worry you make it double dont worry be happy be happy now dont worry, be happy dont worry, be happy dont worry, be happy dont worry, be happy dont worry dont worry be happy don't worry, don't worry, don't do it, be happy,put a smile on your face, don't bring everybody down like this don't worry, it will soon pass whatever it is, don't worry, be happy, i'm not worried

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Wed 06/09/10 07:38 PM
because I haven't met someone who i want to be with

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Wed 06/09/10 07:46 PM
Because Melody still refuses to propose to me.

74Drew Joined Thu 01/22/09 Posts: 4901	Wed 06/09/10 08:48 PM
i'm single because no one is prepared to deal with my awesomeness. . . .

MelodyGirl Joined Sun 01/25/09 Posts: 9452	Wed 06/09/10 09:46 PM
Because Melody still refuses to propose to me. Shees! Isn't just a cake smashing, raunchy honeymoon enough? Do you really want to wake up married?

msmyka Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 17079	Wed 06/09/10 10:24 PM
I'm still friends with all my ex's, they just weren't the right guy for me romantically.

Atlantis75 Joined Wed 12/03/08 Posts: 8581	Wed 06/09/10 10:27 PM
Because Melody still refuses to propose to me. Shees! Isn't just a cake smashing, raunchy honeymoon enough? Do you really want to wake up married? Melody's worst nightmare: Waking up on the hospital bed, with a nurse leaning over and saying: Congratulations! You have twins!

chelsea466 Joined Tue 05/11/10 Posts: 5078	Wed 06/09/10 10:29 PM
Using your logic I can simply answer; it was a 50/50 process. I have to agree.

MelodyGirl Joined Sun 01/25/09 Posts: 9452	Wed 06/09/10 10:34 PM
Because Melody still refuses to propose to me. Shees! Isn't just a cake smashing, raunchy honeymoon enough? Do you really want to wake up married? Melody's worst nightmare: Waking up on the hospital bed, with a nurse leaning over and saying: Congratulations! You have twins! Ferenc!!! Don't jinx me! My tubes are tied up tighter than tight but I can be too arrogant! shh Yes, that is my worst nightmare!

dmshadow28 Joined Wed 06/09/10 Posts: 8	Wed 06/09/10 11:32 PM
Well it was more 20/80. I know I had some faults, i'm human after all, but it was her after 15 years that found someone else unfortunately.

fifijones Joined Wed 02/24/10 Posts: 1418	Wed 06/09/10 11:52 PM
I am a little amazed in retrospect what an a**hole I could be. However........I wasn't the one that snorted meth, turned into a mean, paranoid freak and slammed my spouse into a wall.

HannahHatesBananas Joined Tue 11/17/09 Posts: 6829	Wed 06/09/10 11:56 PM
sigh I was Niave.

Wolf19 Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 6172	Thu 06/10/10 12:01 AM Edited by Wolf19 on Thu 06/10/10 12:02 AM
cause im a dog...

VacantDreamer Joined Sun 06/06/10 Posts: 228	Thu 06/10/10 12:17 AM
I'm single because I needed to get my **** together after making bad decisions while with my last girlfriend. In that relationship, I lost myself, and it's taken the better part of two years to find me again, and get my life back on track. I needed to get to this point where I am secure enough in myself and my life so I do not let the past repeat itself.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Thu 06/10/10 04:23 AM Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Thu 06/10/10 04:28 AM
i'm single because no one is prepared to deal with my awesomeness. . . . drew it's probably because everyone is afraid of your fingernails As to why I am single - I am divorced so I was married for a very long time- after that I had a few boyfreinds - nothing that lasted, and I had one on and off 5 yr relationship that was not in my best interests. Much of that post divorce stuff was prolly because I really wasn't ready to settle down. I am being careful this time. Usually I at least date - at this point, it's been about a year or so since I have even done that - just being careful - prolly too careful, trying to assess whether I really am "ready" to settle down - prolly if I met the right guy... and as someone else said - just haven't had someone ask me lately where I feel reciprocation

djpierre2 Joined Thu 06/10/10 Posts: 11	Thu 06/10/10 08:40 AM Edited by djpierre2 on Thu 06/10/10 08:41 AM
i reckon i am still single becus i require a unique WOMAN that is bs free...drama free...nag free!!! (i dont think i ask for much)

Gossipmpm Joined Tue 03/03/09 Posts: 19414	Thu 06/10/10 08:44 AM
Well I was single before Cause I didn't go out with him yet then he asked me I was no longer single we broke up single again we are back together stronger than before I am no longer single Simple!