Hello people, here's my story. I've been working at a store near my house for a month , a new girl starts working there and girl trouble starts for me. One morning she shows up at the store at 5 am , on her day off and she just stood outside staring at me I ask "what's sup" she said "nothing". I went around cleaning the store 10 minutes later she was still there when I ask what's sup again she she would tell me when i got of work.

I knew something was not right then but I was not prepared for it i did not think it would happen to an ugly guy like me. She asked me if i have a girlfriend so stupidly I said no and now she is pursuing me asking me to date her I am honor to be ask out by a girl but sadly i am not interested in her or having a relationship at this point.

On the same day she asked me out I told her i was not interested and she went home a few hours later she shows up at my house. I thought she understood that I did not want to go out with her so I let her in my house since we knew each other , which turn out to be another stupid decision because all she did was stare at me and ask me why we couldn't be together, and i told her the same reason as before then she keep touching ,hugging ,almost groping me. That day I really test my merits as to hold much I could keep it in my pants because we were alone.

So, now she comes by my house everyday or waits for me when I get off work asking me to go out with her.Lucky she is not so forthcoming as before after I told her i am only interested in females who are in my culture which is Vietnamese. This is not a serious situation where I would call her a stalker because she is just a young 19 yr old girl with a crush , I guess this is a type of puppy love.

And now if anyone has advice on how to handle this situation I would greatly appreciate it. Or if a Vietnamese girl who lives in Philly pretends to be my gf i think she would stop pursuing? All comments welcome, even ones that berate me.

Sounds like stalker material.
Can't think of anything except
bluntness that might work.

One word of advice...MOVE, lol...and never look or go back.

Either call the cops or move, this isn't like a fly you can just swat.

Get 'er a bus ticket and send her on down here to West Texas!!

Wow! She's quite persistent. She will have to understand that you are not interested or you will put a restraining order on her. I know you wouldn't want to do that...and I'm sure she wouldn't want that either, but it's either that or she leaves you alone. My two cents. Hope things work out.

Sounds like you need to be a little more direct...and if the does not work maybe a restraining order is in your future??

what an odd situation

is she good looking or what

i doubt its puppy love....maybe she wants to abduct you and do dirty things to you and make you say me so horny to her

She is 19 yr old and thin so... that make her ok looking but look doesn't really matter because i am not interested in dating at the moment and she is simply not my type of girl. However, if you think by dating her once and saying that we do not fit would get her to ease off would work, then I would do it. My friends suggested me to do that but somehow I just see the situation would get worse.

We are still on friendly terms i don't that a restraining order is necessary. I would like to keep work there and live at my home, quitting and moving seems to drastic for just a small and trifling matter.

I believe that if I get a girlfriend she will stop being so persistent?

JUST SAY """NO""" ""THANK YOU""""I AM NOT INTERESTED"" """PLEASE DO NOT BOTHER ME ANYMORE'''BYE'''

Ya, already told her that then she said lets be friends and I told her I don't want to be friends with someone who keeps bothering me. Of course I said it in a friendly way because we are still coworkers. I believe that she just does not get it that I do not want to go out with her.

Sounds like a change of location is in order for you or for your friend...I sure you will think of something..If she still continues to salk you need to up front about the stalking thing with her and that if she persists a restraining order will be iminent

do not do that - do not date her at all. If she bothers you at work -report it to your supervisor so you do not put your employment in jeopardy. Tell her in no uncertain terms to stop coming to your home. If she does not stop, speak to her family if you can - before invoving law enforecement. The embarrassment of having you tell her family she is bothering you should put it to an end. But if she tries to argue with you about it then she is definitely out of line and you will need to call police - I would caution you that we do not know anything about this girl, if she has a history of violence, if she has a history of mental illness. So, please be very cautious. You may want to talk with law enforcement informally to ask their advice before actually involving them to see what they advise as they are experts.

I would just cut off all communication with her except for at work. Let her know you are not interested and that you no longer feel the friendship will work out. I would not allow her to come over and continue hanging out.

I'm currently trying to get in the navy and should be shipping out in a couple of months , so i do not want to be blunt or to direct with her like telling her family (which is a good idea without having to get the police involved) because I want to have a good working environment.

Hopefully I'll be moving away soon so I do not want get her in trouble. I have said many things like she is not my type of girl, my parents doesn't like her and that I'll be joining the navy soon to calm her down. And I really do believe that if I show her that I have found a girlfriend her obsession will become nothing more then a crush.

Maybe I'm taking this to lightly? or my thinking of getting a girlfriend to get her off me is to wishful?

I'm thinking that is a really awful reason to get a girlfriend, and this all seems like a ploy to get someone to date you...

you are right it does, i guess i'll ask my friend's sister to pretend. i think she will ease off because she does not seem that crazy ,just a bit persistent.

Wow very simple she is a stalker and seems to be very needy. Back off from her don't answer the door when she comes over. Tell her point blankly you have other things to do and you think she is spending way too much time around you that you need some space.... Hopefully she will get the hint.

Be very careful I had a similar experience that turned into a bit of a horror story. In my case telling her that I had a girlfriend just seemed to infuriate her.

Ya she seems very needy , she tells me im the first person she would like to go out with. Thankfully she stop knocking at my door when i told her my parents didn't like her. So the only time im bother by her is when im at work or getting home from work.

My job is crappy , i think if I quit i will stop being bother by her?