wondered when is a good time to tell your kids that life can suck sometimes? Do you think they know it? If you never actually say it, do you think they think you are stupid for not telling them and letting them think that you think life is honky dorey? I have often wondered this, is this strange? Or are there people out there, that wear rose colored glasses? I mean, at some point, life does suck, right? for everyone? and everyone at one point or another and maybe more, thinks life does stink? am I right or wrong?

I have often shared my disappointments with my kids, I would like them to see that it's not all a 'perfect world' just because you're an adult.

Mine is four and been asking questions.This worries more than death.After my wreck i have accepted death to come my way.Just worries about him sometime might lead to mine.Stress SUCKS

I know, stress does suck, I think more so when you are young, there is so much pressure in the world, I think the answer is maybe more education of the mind, does anyone else agree? Or finding something you love to do, then doing it.

I love hanging out when i get off work(stressed from work)But i still do it.Dont wanna miss a thing.For me i feel im getting drained trying to be mom and dad.But im here until i am told to punch out.Just his future scares the balls off of me

I wouldn't tell them.....let em enjoy the innocense of childhood....cause when it is gone....it is gone forever. Yes, life does indeed suck..........the kids will figure it out in thier own time.....just like the rest of us.

Well of course, I would not tell a child that, but as they get into the early 20's it can get a little rough, even before that, you know, the shaky years...well I wouldn't want to ruin a kids view of the world, but you get my drift.

I guess just like all of us, we made it, here we are talking about it, yet we all seem to be doing just fine, I worry about my son all the time and he is 19 now, and he will survive just like me, and maybe do alot better than me..

If they make to their twenty's it's a blessing from the guy up stair.Now and day's it's bananas.You remember the columbine the sniper and his so called son that he raised.Shiiiit is crazy.I'll tell my son any thing he wants to know.Yes

??????.............20!!!!

That ain't no kid...that's a full grown adult who needs to open thier eyes.

I thought you meant like an actual kid...3-12 years old

no disrepect intended....I know that your baby will always be your baby.

Yes it is a crazy world, scary, for everyone, overwhelming. No wonder kids do drugs, you'd be crazy not too...you need drugs or God.

Yes, I know...my son tells me all the time, I'm a man now..he lives with his dad, not me, has since he was in 1st grade, but sometimes I wonder what he thinks of this crazy nutty world, but when he was younger I would wonder about this.

I remember when i was seven years old riding with my uncle thought it was a fun trip to a dope house many pounds of cocaine in the trunk didnt think with me in the car hed get stopped(i threw a pop out the window)My faught no?maybe We got stopped unc had a warrant.Any thing in the car dunno we put stuff in the trunk I was a kid............but all i'm saying is i'm gonna be blunt and straight up forward with my son

I've raised my boys alone..they know it can suck. I have taught them to be grateful, focus on the positive and that there is a reason for everything...
Now they get to figure it out on their own, and they know I'm still here for them. Really, ya can love someone through just about anything.

Wow, sorry to hear that, no kid should be put in those circumstances, and your uncle, well I gotta say, he should not have done that to you, don't make your son grow up that way, try to do better by him...

I wish I'd had more of a clue when younger. That someone had said, 'yes, there are going to be days that you'll wonder how to get through them AND here are some tools...'
deep breathing, meditation, prayer. Do people today actually prepare children for whats out there? How to handle difficult people, life survival skills? These things should be taught in school. I just wonder since the planet is growing stronger awareness...or is it like when I was a kid and no one even dropped hints. Maybe they didn't have a clue themselves but doubt it.

Doubt schools will ever talk about survival to come to schools(on the bus,bus stop) but i know a 6yr old carrying a 20sack of weed has become common.It is soooooo something i think about.I want my son interacting playing sports,having that crush.BUT to be shot at for no reason.LIFE WOW Life

THEY LIVE THROUGH YOU,,,so its all in the way YOU express to them,, disapointment or failures to them
You candy coat them, til their old enough to feel more.
Then you get more involved with your explanations,,
Always trying to be optimistic about loss,,,as its ok,,maybe next-time..ect...
But as we know life at times seems like the end of the world to us.
WE try to show them,,it is just a passing.
So they don't feel that END, or doom,,they need to know thats its never over, til its excepted and that exceptance, needs to be shown
as to how they will deal with their own failures..or short-comings.
YOU do your best, and if thats not enough, then you took on to much this time..because your best is all I will ever ask from you to do...
If thats done,,I will be the proudest dad in the world,,win or lose or draw..
That was my building efforts with mine....
iTS LIKE DRUGS WE CAN TELL THEM NOT TO,,BUT THEY WILL STILL TRY UM.
As we did,,lol,
But if we show them all positives in this life,,then one wrong they feel,,can kill them...
So we have to balance that effect that it will have on them,,through
our knowing and teaching them that gains our great, but our bests
always have to be worked on to become more...
Yet, failures are always part of life as two can never be first place
Its a on going process, and if you have done good with them.
THEY will be telling YOU lifes stories,,as how YOU SHOULD EXCEPT
some losses or whatever,,but they will gave ya feed backs,,,wink,

I think my kid was about ten when I demonstrated to him that life can suck sometimes. He was complaining about not having some game system that all the kids have. He wouldn't get off the kick, kept saying how much life sucked. The next day he came home from school and found every toy gone and just a bed and dresser in his room. I said "Now your life sucks."

He freaked but it taught him an important lesson...that life can suck sometimes but it can sure suck a whole lot more so you better be thankful for what you have! He earned his things back with good behavior and he now knows that life can suck, but bitchin' and complaining about it gets ya nowhere but in a suckier situation. Best thing to do is buck up and deal with it, do what you gotta do to make life less sucky, and learn to be happy. He's 17 now and pretty aware of how life works, so hopefully his life won't suck too much!

Hardly! You need someone to discuss it with, and allow questions. Drugs or God is a cop-out on the parents part!

I understood life sucked at 8 or so, but I knew I also had my parents love and support. That is what kept me who I am, not drugs or God.