Why is it so many people are willing to give up on a relationship for shallow reasons? Is it not a problem that we can't work out or resolve? Do you not have the patience and the resolve to know there's no no challenge we can't face and overcome? Why do so many relationships end over stupid shallow things?

When you're in a shallow relationship you're in it maximum knee-deep. When you are up to your neck into it, it's much harder to get out and leave.

for some are chicken wimps..(lol)
there was this guy i met on here over a yr and he didnt know how to brake up with me. so he stay away much as possible and gave nothing but excuse. so i waited for him to say this one word and he said it so i actually email him and broke up with him.. he was to much of a chicken. i wrote a poem about it.. and its pretty much right.
if you would like to see this poem
email me and i would be glad to give it to you

I've heard this a 1,000 times, "I'm just not happy anymore" Ah, but you were happy. What changed? Why did you wake up one day and realize why you weren't happy anymore? Keeping in mind you fell in love with this person, this person, not how much money they earn, or whether or not they have a job, or how much money they make, they are still the same person you fell in love with, what's changed?

You misunderstand. Not a shallow relationship, but shallow reasons for the other person leaving you. Or the ultimate shallowness, no reasons or closure at all. Then you're left with trying to understand the motives of a psychopath. And then you wonder why you loved them in the first place, they had you charmed or fooled.

With all due respect, I think it's you who is misunderstanding me, not the other way around. You and I are saying the same thing, in different ways. Some say potato, some say potahto.

people. they change...and attitudes. sometimes when they realize that what attracted them to you no longer attracts them...and they cannot see any way to work it out...they bail. they do not wish to remake themselves or their partner. so they throw in the towel. usually one partner wants to throw in the towel and the other is ready to work on it a little bit. but it is hard to have a party when there are only two guests and only one is in a "festive spirit".

I agree, couldn't of said it any better!

Would you really want someone to stick around if there was a conflict in what was considered shallow?

If a person fell out of love with you, for whatever reason, would you still want to deal with each other?

And of course, there's still the question of what's considered shallow? Especially in this aspect. Obviously it's important to te one person.

I was once broken up with because I had (gasp) cats. The final straw was when she came over and a cat was on a table. A table that I never used for anything but occassional storage.

And..ah..no, she wasn't allergic to cats or anything like that.

People fall in love-------------

People fall out of love--------------

People are people

We are soooooooooo complex and always trying to sort it all out and ask why..why..why

Noone knows these answers but we all pretend we do

and when we stop questioning and live life

It seems to stop happening!!!

This is what Seinfeld was all about.
Remember when Jerry broke up with
someone because..they stood too close?

Shallow people have shallow reasons.
I believe they are meant for each other.
They just need to get past the deep ones first.

Seinfeld could have run with the cat issue.

I had that happen to me in August. Mind you we have only been together for 6 months, but he decided he didn't want to be with me but had no reason to give. Even if it was a shallow reason, its better than I don't know; I just don't want to be with you anymore. He said I did nothing wrong so I was left there scratching my head.

I think sometimes you just have to let it go as, that person just wasn't ready to have the type of relationship as you were. People are shallow..lets face it. Todays society is so shallow and until we want to change it...that is how its going to be. I think to some point, everyone is shallow, everyone likes certain things. Lucky for some, there are a few people out there that go for inside beauty

Most likely the entire relationship was shallow and fake.

This is a classic end for situations of people settling for someone that is not their type (emotionally or physically). Somewhere along the way they compromised and it lead to doom.

It's always better to be single until a person's ‘complete package’ comes along; otherwise, it's a waste of time for both people.

It is NOT shallow to wait for the right person; it is not shallow to have expectations and ambitions.

IF someone is in a relationship for the wrong reasons then of course it will fall apart. To question why that happens is silly; the reason is obvious.

Why would anyone grapple over this concept? Good relationships are easy to figure out -- bad relationships are easy to figure out. Why is this so introspective?

The sky is blue; the grass is green! duh! Captain Obvious strikes again!

Pretty much the same here. In our final year, she turned psycho and her drinking got worse, which amplified her anger. I think maybe she was consumed with guilt about how she was treating me. I was willing to help her with her meltdown, and work on it together, but she was already too far gone, and I had to accept that I was losing her. This was extremely difficult for me because I deeply loved her unconditionally. She eventually wasn't willing to give the same. But in the end, I wished there had been a real honest closure, not silly mysteries that don't make sense.

Cats, I'm not sure "shallow" is the right word. I think most people find it easier to give up than to work at it. No relationship blossoms and grows without a little love, care and work. When things get rough, walking away is easy. That's the sad part. Relationships have become disposable. Peoples feelings and priorities easily replaced.

On to the next one

Hey stranger. How have you been?