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..as long as both are legal,and they are fine with it,...it doesn't matter what others think,altho the difference in age may matter to some.... for those god invented the middle finger... 
i'm not in the position yet, but i bet i'd have issues if my daughter ended up dating a man 30 years her senior, or my son 20 his junior. well, don't you think it is up to your daughter or your son who they date? picture this, your daughter brings home a guy who rides a motorcylce, wears earrings, acts like a jerk, probably was in the slammer--a real good catch. But he is also your daughter's age. Now, let's say your daughter brings home a guy in a suit, driving a rolls with a chauffeur, good mannered--but 25 years older. Which one would you prefer your daughter go out with?? sure it's up to my kids. i didn't say that i'd dictate who they date. however, i don't have to like who they choose. |
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Children in their 20's do not need much parenting.........What then? Would you not date someone you found attractive, has a lot in common with you AND owned a pub,has big boobs, quite short, has a flat head (so you could rest your beer glass on her head) and knows how to fix cars? See, I just don't fit this mold at all. I don't drink, would never be caught dead in a pub, I'm not attracted to big boobs, and fixing cars does nothing for me.... When you use the expression "has a lot in common with you," part of that commonality, in my mind, is that neither one of us has kids. Some men would give their all for a woman like this.............. 
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my kids are so on their own although they live near i do not even get to see them so much.. for they all have their own lives too.. sometimes i go a couple of without seeing one of them, and i have 3 of them... so lex i highly doubt that then in some cases this would even effect you.. maybe the older you get maybe you should not pass up on trying that.. because you are cutting out most all women really.. and every cse is different as well some will mother thier kids till their kids are 40! but most dont.. perhaps their children all live in differnt states as well?
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Children in their 20's do not need much parenting.........What then? Would you not date someone you found attractive, has a lot in common with you AND owned a pub,has big boobs, quite short, has a flat head (so you could rest your beer glass on her head) and knows how to fix cars? See, I just don't fit this mold at all. I don't drink, would never be caught dead in a pub, I'm not attracted to big boobs, and fixing cars does nothing for me.... When you use the expression "has a lot in common with you," part of that commonality, in my mind, is that neither one of us has kids. Some men would give their all for a woman like this..............
Absolutely, and more power to them. She's not for me, though. |
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Well, I'm 19. Say I wanted to date a guy who was in his upper twenties, early thirties.. We are wanting different things in life. got it, but not always true. some people wanna get married when they are young, some don't. Some older men also don't want to and some younger men do. some want other things out of a relationship, or don't even want relationships. I think it is much more important to find somebody who wants the same things out of life and the relationship than to look for age. Btw, I'm saying this because I'm interested in a 19 year old, what a coincidence. 
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Edited by
Quietman_2009
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Mon 12/21/09 07:30 PM
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..as long as both are legal,and they are fine with it,...it doesn't matter what others think,altho the difference in age may matter to some.... for those god invented the middle finger...
i'm not in the position yet, but i bet i'd have issues if my daughter ended up dating a man 30 years her senior, or my son 20 his junior. well, don't you think it is up to your daughter or your son who they date? picture this, your daughter brings home a guy who rides a motorcylce, wears earrings, acts like a jerk, probably was in the slammer--a real good catch. But he is also your daughter's age. Now, let's say your daughter brings home a guy in a suit, driving a rolls with a chauffeur, good mannered--but 25 years older. Which one would you prefer your daughter go out with?? sure it's up to my kids. i didn't say that i'd dictate who they date. however, i don't have to like who they choose. except either way if the guy acts like a jerk *I* might have to take off my bunny suit and kick his azz and tell him to keep away from the kids |
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Well, I'm 19. Say I wanted to date a guy who was in his upper twenties, early thirties.. We are wanting different things in life. got it, but not always true. some people wanna get married when they are young, some don't. Some older men also don't want to and some younger men do. some want other things out of a relationship, or don't even want relationships. I think it is much more important to find somebody who wants the same things out of life and the relationship than to look for age. Btw, I'm saying this because I'm interested in a 19 year old, what a coincidence.
Ha well that's nice. I don't know. I know that two of my ex boyfriends are already married, one is regretting it. I know that I'm just looking for dating and friends. That's all I need right now. School is most important at this time in life for me. |
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Well, I'm 19. Say I wanted to date a guy who was in his upper twenties, early thirties.. We are wanting different things in life. Oh yeah I agree with that. If you're like 30, and the other person is 40, not a huge difference at all. |
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my kids are so on their own although they live near i do not even get to see them so much.. for they all have their own lives too.. sometimes i go a couple of without seeing one of them, and i have 3 of them... so lex i highly doubt that then in some cases this would even effect you.. Again, it has nothing to do with physical proximity. maybe the older you get maybe you should not pass up on trying that.. because you are cutting out most all women really.. Sure, and I'm OK with that, because that's just the way it is. It's really just an insurmountable difference in priorities -- my life revolves around writing, being creative, making up stories and putting things down on paper (or into a computer). Someone whose life has no room for a creative process, someone whose life revolves around biological functions, is not someone I'm going to be able to build a relationship with. The whole idea of reproducing is incomprehensible to me. I could no more do that than I could take a gun and shoot a hole in my foot, and say "Well, it hurts like hell, and it's really going to hamper my mobility; but it's what society expects, so I had to do it." It's true, I'm cutting out most women. I realize that. But I'd rather spend the rest of my life alone than abandon my beliefs and preferences and principles. and every cse is different as well some will mother thier kids till their kids are 40! but most dont.. perhaps their children all live in differnt states as well? Again, not the issue. |
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Someone whose life has no room for a creative process, someone whose life revolves around biological functions, is not someone I'm going to be able to build a relationship with.
are the words parent and creative mutually exclusive? and with regards to biologicial functions, sometimes when you gotta 'go', you just gotta go, creativity or not! |
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yes to some extent it does..i'm 33 my girl is 15..so when a a 18 -22 year old wants to date me its a bit creepy to me.seems he would have more in common with my daughter then me.though shes not "leagal" yet..Just to close to her age for me..
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I don't feel that age should be a factor at all, so long as there are two consenting adults involved.(And I'm not just talking "consent to sex" but also "consent to effort".) I've found both perks and disadvantages to dating older and younger people but love comes in many forms and when it does, it shouldn't be denied. It does weigh heavily what mind set and maturity levels are involved and also what you're looking for in a relationship. Marriage? Family? I find many young people aren't prepared, (life experience wise), in that aspect. High seas? Mountain climbing and adventure? Depending on how old your partner is, you have to take into account certain health problems or career obligations. On a personal level, my fiance has more than a decade on me. We like to joke about the generation gap. (He was an old school punk rocker in the early 80's and I was a mopey goth kid in the 90's.) I feel like I keep him young and playful and he keeps me focused on my priorities. They may say that like attracts like, but it's a definite that differences intrigue. I just wouldn't feel right taking a gal younger than my Daughter to her house for Christmas dinner. My Daughter is 31. |
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oh for gawdsakes ... yes it matters ... I would feel like an idiot with a 25 year old
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oh for gawdsakes ... yes it matters ... I would feel like an idiot with a 25 year old
must be one very smart 25 yo!
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Edited by
Moblodite
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Mon 12/21/09 11:36 PM
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Depends....
Where may I find a 45 year old VIRGIN!!! 
Edit.. That no longer wants to be a VIRGIN! |
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oh for gawdsakes ... yes it matters ... I would feel like an idiot with a 25 year old
so would I since I have a son that age...my limit is 10 years older than him, that keeps me at 35 and up, works for me. |
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Edited by
ArtGurl
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Mon 12/21/09 11:42 PM
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oh for gawdsakes ... yes it matters ... I would feel like an idiot with a 25 year old
must be one very smart 25 yo!
Do not encourage them! 
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oh for gawdsakes ... yes it matters ... I would feel like an idiot with a 25 year old
so would I since I have a son that age...my limit is 10 years older than him, that keeps me at 35 and up, works for me. I agree, my son is 18 so anything younger than 30 would be too creepy for both of us. Much less likely that I would have much in common with twenty something either(not impossible, but less likely). |
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Well, I guess age does matter to a certain degree. But, I think what matters most is what the individuals involved think. If a age difference of 30 years is ok, then so be it. But, if even 5 years is too much difference to one person, then it does matter.
And sccording to eharmony.com, shared values and outlook on life are the most important things for a relationship to succeed. I also think eharmony matches people within 7 years of age, supposed because research shows that to also be a good indicator of good marriages. But, I know of plenty of good marriages that have lasted, where the age difference is as much as 20 years. Also, in answer to the earlier comment about race, religion, political views and everything else, well, if people are attracted and want to be together, race, religion, even political views don't matter. It is up to the individual to determine what matters. I myself, don't really care. What is important is the woman's temperment, whether she is a tender, caring person. Whether she is intelligent, thoughtful and other personality traits that I can't really describe too well. Any race, religion, disability, or political view could easily fit that. |
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