We can see where he will end up, can't we? Another old man prying on young girls because he does not want responsibilities, OR he will be a failure in emotionally supporting a partner.

age only seems to matter to people who don't have much of it

Age matters when he starts wearing depends and sex to him is just a memory.

Well, as unpleasant as that thought is, the real issue is that I just don't see myself being with somebody's mother.

I dated several older divorced women with kids when I was younger, and it doesn't work for me. I really don't have a paternal bone in my body, and the whole concept of being a parent -- or being involved with one -- is just completely alien and incomprehensible to me.

facts are women do change perhaps more than men do at all stages through their lives..i am quite frankly glad im past the spaz mode.. when does that happen around 38? to where every little thing has to be such a big ordeal.. to the woman of course. some women are worse than others.. my son went through this i told him every girl has that son..that women are just different than men.. and trust me ive seen men go through different stages as well.. they are just different things ..

naw, size doesn't matter either, it's the motion of the ocean

says all men with wee weinies

Well, I'm 19. Say I wanted to date a guy who was in his upper twenties, early thirties.. We are wanting different things in life.

but lex you would not have to have those things. for they are gone and taking care of theirselves now.. of course the mother would still love them and care about them.. just as they would their own parents perhaps.. true there is a bit more closeness i beleive with your own children.. do you perhaps think it could possibly be the feeling that you would have to share them with thier kids? because it is a tital different thing here and if u had kids you would know the difference.. however you dont have kids so i could see how u may feel if this perhaps is the issue?

I also think it matters less when the woman is younger. cause, if there is a big age diff lets say more than 20 years, the guy will die much earlier than the woman anyways. Then the the woman will still be young enough to go out and meet a new guy!!

i agree with that.... however when older there is not as much difference..not near the difference.

Children in their 20's do not need much parenting.........What then? Would you not date someone you found attractive, has a lot in common with you AND owned a pub,has big boobs, quite short, has a flat head (so you could rest your beer glass on her head) and knows how to fix cars?

I don't see that I would remotely find a guy more than 5 years younger than myself interesting for the long term kind of time a relationship would involve. I also would not want a man considerably older becasuse prematurely becomeing a caregiver and a widow does not appeal to me. Especially with the predjudices that exist about being widowed.

I personally believe when one of a partnership is dramaticlly older there is a good chance that one or the other is being exploited useually for money. A really poor basis for a relationship.

got it, but not always true. some people wanna get married when they are young, some don't. Some older men also don't want to and some younger men do.

some want other things out of a relationship, or don't even want relationships. I think it is much more important to find somebody who wants the same things out of life and the relationship than to look for age.

Btw, I'm saying this because I'm interested in a 19 year old, what a coincidence.

Exactly!!!!

Well, when I was involved with the older divorced women before, the one thing that was consistent in every case was that these women were NOT really looking for a relationship -- they just wanted someone to come in and play "Daddy." This is how I found out that I had no interest in, nor aptitude for, playing that role.

You're right, I don't have kids and there may be some subtle distinctions I can't grasp because I don't have any real frame of reference for any of that. Be that as it may, I have seen plenty of guys I know -- people from my hockey team, former co-workers, neighbors, etc. -- get mixed up with single/divorced mothers, etc., and it never works out well. And 99% of the time, the problems revolve around the kids, grown or not.

hell i had a husband like that and he was only 34 then not the depends though

well, don't you think it is up to your daughter or your son who they date? picture this, your daughter brings home a guy who rides a motorcylce, wears earrings, acts like a jerk, probably was in the slammer--a real good catch. But he is also your daughter's age. Now, let's say your daughter brings home a guy in a suit, driving a rolls with a chauffeur, good mannered--but 25 years older. Which one would you prefer your daughter go out with??

Hmmmmm. So, theoretically, me dating a woman in her late 40's, early 50's would constitute this same type of thought yes?

So....all you older chicks quit checking out me package damn it!!!

See, I just don't fit this mold at all. I don't drink, would never be caught dead in a pub, I'm not attracted to big boobs, and fixing cars does nothing for me....

When you use the expression "has a lot in common with you," part of that commonality, in my mind, is that neither one of us has kids.