I know, that sucks.

And you never really seem to be able to figure out if they were that way from the beginning or not.

I just assume they were unless someone in their family tells me different.

I know exactly of which you speak.

Recent and in past as well.

And yet I am still amazed at people who arent secure enough in themselves to BE themselves.Esp no matter who they are with or aorund.Its kinda sad really, these games people play.They act one way with one set of people, then another with others.Its sad when they put their very own beliefs and morals and respect for themselves and others in the gutter just to be more pleasing or for whatever the reason be.

Be real.

Be yourself.

And be at peace within.

My ex changed a lot for the worse over the years. But, the red flags were there to begin with. I just chose to ignore them. But, he definitely became worse.

I changed too, however. People do change. It's just a matter of whether they change for the better or the worse.

I agree with some of the above.


Somtimes people see things as the are and claim: Mad Cow!

Sometimes people see things as they never were and ask: Why?

Sometimes people accuse others without ever asking: about the truth!

Still sometimes people see things, yet dont know what they are looking at: Until it is too late, and the monster appears.

Ill agree with the later of the bunch.

It has happened to me several times I think I know somebody until I find out that beneath their too-perfect-looking skin they are actually a reptilian alien

It's better to just stay in your home.

I call that proactive sacrifice. Sad when it comes to that but it beats depending on another person for validation.

I may act differently around other people, but that is only to cater to them. I can't be myself around them, because to be myself means to be alone. It's hard to break that habit.

I agree

I just found out that half of me died,,,,
and now the other half forgot who I was,,,,,
so now I have to spend all night just catching me up on ME,

Life is ununderstanding isn't it? I think,,,not.. lol

Sometimes I think people only let you know what they want you to know. Think about someone that you have been with for a long time and then they did something totally out of character...its because we can not totally know someone ALL the way UNLESS they let us?
I truly believe that when you start dating someone, people tend to put their good side out there and not let you see their bad side. I actually had a guy tell me that he had to watch how he talked around me because he didn't want me to know how dirty his mouth was. Now to me, he was not being himself if he was trying to impress me. I want someone who feels like they don't have to hide things...HMMM I think I am dreaming again!!!

Hello sexy,,,lol how ya been?
THIS you wrote I feel is very true,,and I have had that same from a woman,,,as to her words,used..
And thats why on here it use to be GREAT to read a lady's real words used as in her cussing or swearing,,,
because truly,,,NOW a guy can talk all day on here to a lady,,,then lets just say a couple of weeks talking with her on here in type,,,,and then talk with her in person or by phone,,,and find out she talks like a damn truckers or street hooker,,,,,,lol,lol
NOW THATS scary,,,,,, But TRUE!
True,,,,,wink,lol,lol

I'd like to meet somebody that I felt comfortable opening up to. Most people you meet want to know so much about you.

How do you explain to somebody that you're seeing that they should'nt have any expectations or make assumptions while they are getting to know you? Not really realistic is it?

I have been in relationships where the other person had totally fabricated in her own mind my personality and who I was. None of which was true and yet they confronted me often regarding why I am not the person they thought I was (fabricated).

I am also guilty of not sharing everything about who I am. Maybe for fear of thinking of my feelings becoming trivial if I shared them with enough people.

Hey you!! How have you been?? I don't think anyone would say I talk like a trucker...well maybe my best friend would

I think you are right, I think sometimes when we get into a relationship that people see what they want to see? I think sometimes that we overlook the bad things and then when the "honeymoon" is over, we really take a good look at them and BOOM there is the real person. LOL and its not what you wanted!! I know this has happened to me once or twice...I think we just have to keep things real and keep our eyes open.

I have to agree with you... Especially the last part...

Exactly.