*ahem*

**** you tall mother****ers.
I'm 5'10", love playing basketball, and haven't succeeded in dunking yet.

Just joking. Everyone with sight is prejudiced by their visually based conclusions. The question becomes, "Are you discriminatory based on your visual prejudice?"

Being a big guy myself, it all has to do with self confidence. If you don't have confidence in yourself, women notice this. I am happy being a big guy( I'm 6'1 260lbs) and yes some women do prefer bigger men, but its also the caliber of women that you are attracted. There has to be a physical attraction without a doubt, if its only a one sided attraction it will never work out to its fullest potential. I have dated several very petite women, as well as the full spectrum, its all in having confidence in yourself, your abilities. And as far as learning Muay Thai for self-defense, personally, I'm a Correctional Sergeant by trade, go with Brazillian Ju-Jitsu, most of your fights will end up going to the ground anyways, work on your ground game first and then work on your standup. But thats just me.

very well put!! i totally agree but honestly it all depends on the women your goin for and if she cant see what she has in front of her then its her own fault let her go youll find better!

I agree. It depends on the woman. I`m tall and curvy so it`s hard for me! I like guys to be bigger than me, a lot bigger wich narrows my chances but i don`t give up. Don`t give up either. And try not being too nice. We usually like a little of bad boy charm.

Big guy mean gay.pls shw me where to get one

its all in a person's preference... hang in there... she will come your way

Guys do the same things to girls man. But people are entitled to their preferences. Unfair as it may seem.

you say they 'egg you on' 'making you fall for them'.....quick question...how long does it take you to 'make the move'? there is a VERY small window open of oppurtunity before you become the 'friend' where if you don't make it before then you screwed yourself...next time don't wait...ask them out BEFORE you are their 'best buddy' if you get rejected who cares..then you know UPFRONT that you are a friend and can try somewhere else instead of hoping for something you know already wont happen.

Personally, I like bigger guys. But there is a difference between being bigger and taking care of yourself, and just being big and not living a healthy lifestyle. Personally, the latter wouldn't work for me. I try to be healthy and take care of myself, and would like the same for my partner. Everyone has their own preference though

Usually when we get played it is a lesson we need to learn.

First off there are women and men who do that same thing to others no matter if they are big or not. They are called players.

If you take your time and not trust people until they show SHOW you on more than one occasion they are worthy of trust, you will usually weed out these people who play on others emotions. Do not try to be the knight in shining armor, the go to guy, the "I'm always available" guy, etc...

How do you feel about yourself? Is your self esteem in the toilet? If it is then you should be working on yourself and leaving the ladies alone until you can say that you love yourself just the way you are and you are deserving of respect and love. Then slowly try to date.

Scammers and players are everywhere and we are all prospective targets for them if we don't love ourselves and are looking outside of ourselves for love and acceptance.

You have to love yourself before anyone else can.

Good luck.

Aot of girls like bigger/ taller guys. ITs the whole teddy bear thing. If you have the confidence and mind set of your fabulous, then it will be ocntagious, and you will attract people to you. Its all in the attitude. darlin.

The only thing big on me is my.......Ego!

I'm big and don't have a problem with women, just depends on who you are hanging with at the time. Be confident and remember that they are no better then you, they're just people.

happy birthday to this thread it's now a year old

I hadn't noticed, good call.

Everyone just likes different things.


I'd go for a tall and chubby guy (around my age, and not just black lol) over a short and skinny one anyday. I just prefer guys like that. But that's just me.

Like there's guy players, there's girl players too. It happens.