I've seen big guys with little chicks before, but there usually bad boys, or rich guys

i seen that too around here but they were rich and using them for money

Don't bother, again...quit staring at ****. It happened, it is in the past, move on and forget about it...even if you knew why it happened...what happened, happened, regardless, you can't do anything about it now but stare at it.

I am on the other side of the spectrum. I tend to feel inadequate about myself because I only weigh a meager 112 lbs. and throughout my life, building mass always was and still remains an arduous task regardless of how much or how little I eat.

like that saying goes **** happens for a reason

Work out, muscle weighs more than fat. Eat more and pack on 2, work out and pack on 20. I can easily go up from 150 to my base weight of 180, and plan to do it before I start training in Muay Thai.

Very common... Like a slender, good lookin dude with a big rich woman

i wanna learn muay thai just for defense purposes

That's the problem...no, it doesn't happen for a reason. It is a personal view of whether it is **** or not, and it is a selfish motive to try and figure out why it happened. It happened, who cares why or how or even when, it happened and it is over. If you don't get past the fact that it happened and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it now, you will forever be stuck griping about how you can't find a woman.

Sorry if I come off as blunt, but it took me about a month to realize this and decide that I didn't give a **** about the reason. She didn't like me, which means the me that I am is not compatible with her...why would I want to strain myself out for someone else?

It has nothing to do with your size.

If you aren't clicking with someone within the first ten minutes, move on. Don't waste time trying to make someone like you. You can't do that. If you vibe, go with it. If not, move on to the next one. And most importantly HAVE FUN!

I appreciate your advice. Nonetheless, I simply do not have inclination nor the desire to exert needless stress on my muscles. I have attempted to do so in the past, which resulted in a minor, increment increase in muscle growth. In essence, the improvement was insignificant.

Furthermore, I cannot not just "pack on 20", let alone 5 lbs. Perhaps you are capable of modifying your weight with chasteness, but unlike you adding weight for me is a laboriously dreadful feat.

I'm gonna ask...they decide to dump on ya because you are a big guy? Or do you act like their friend, and then they see you that way, and when you go to ask them out they just don't want to ruin the friendship? I only ask because I have seen this happen many times before. It is very common to see a big dude use this play with a girl he really likes.

Hang in there you are still young. When you get a little older, and the girls also, the ones that like you for who you are will care less about wheater you are Adones looking to their friends and wheather you appeal to them. Some women actually perfer a guy with some size to them. While I would not be going for a guy my kid's age a big guy has and probably always will be my preference.

Maybe they are not intentionally leading you on....maybe you're seeing things that aren't there to begin with....reading a little too deep per se

Then don't complain about your weight. The improvement is as significant as your work out. More work, more improvement...just how it works.

Wow with all this whining I should have brought some cheese. Sorry yes there are some that weight is and issue but not all that is just their preference and one others must deal with. But I promise you that is not the only factor keeping them away. It could be ones attitude the ohh me ohhh my pity party moments makes one look weak.

Sorry myself I want one that can not only act like a man but is a man. Sure everyone needs to show their soft side at times no one wants a total jerk. But one must know how to make decisions and be able to carry through with them.

No one wants a doormat either or they would go by a rug!

Personality means a lot and the way one carries themselves. Dress accordingly no one wants to see someone that is heavy with their belly hanging out or they look like they are wearing a tent either.

Smile be happy be your self no one likes to see others with a frown all the time.

Hey I'm a full figured woman and sure at times the ones I would love to get to know I don't interest them. That is life you move on until you find the one that when you look at them they look back.

You misunderstood the message I conveyed, it wasn't intended as a complaint. I was simply trying to relate to the circumstances of the situation he's currently in regarding his search for a romantic partner. I am perfectly content with my frail body frame, and I think he should be too. Perhaps I should of rephrased the portion of the sentence where it states "tend to feel inadequate about myself" to "use to feel inadequate about myself". I initially thought of wording it as such. Although I thought that if I used the latter, it would invoke more of an emotional impact. I apologize if it seemed confusing.

I am not going to sugar coat this since I think that would do more harm than good.
How do you know your size is what is the deal breaker in these relationships. I know many couples where one is considerable larger than the other one.

I am wondering if somehow you have this is the back of your mind and are shooting yourself in the foot before you are even out of the gate so to speak. This is all about attitude and how you feel about yourself.

I have a daughter that is well larger than alot of people she started this with me one day I just looked at her, and told her, she was more aware of her size than the rest of us. It is in presentation and what is inside. Sure the physical is going to be the first thing people noticed.
So in saying they physical is what they notice first and you they way you are talking you have had dates... The problem is something else.
Easy to blame it on weight, height, baldness, sagging breast what ever than the real issue. Ones personality.

My moobs are sagging a bit

I stopped dating two large men. The first one had very little if any personality. I kept trying to find one, but he really was apathetic about most everything. It was hard to have fun or talk about life in general as he really just didn't care. So, his size had nothing to do with it.

The second large man I stopped seeing was due to intimacy. He was like a 16 year old and cared nothing for my pleasure. As well, he refused to disrobe and didn't want me too either as he wouldn't. So, I chose not to date someone who refused to seek true intimacy with me and was selfish. It was really too bad, but it was an issue he refused to even discuss.