But really, who needs a man who's an opened book -- predictable and boring -- who represents no challenge, who can be toyed with like a little kid???

The majority of the men aren't satisfied with ladies who fulfill men's every wim, i.e. that may seem nice at the beginning, but -- as soon as guys realize that as a permanent situation, the grow accustomed to it, and the boredom ensues...

Thus, we should always keep 'em on a short leash, and keep on developing our minds -- so they don't get used to our routine!

*** And that is the only way to keep the man from straying away!!!

*** Sure seems like a lot of work, but the only way of keeping them interested/challenged is by KEEPING THEM GUESSING!!!

the complete oppisite of what she said! Guys are not gonna stay or not stay with a woman based on how fast they have sex! lol... Women think this but it's never been true in my book! You never know how it's gonna go??? sometimes you find someone completely unresistable and things happen and it's wonderful! One thing for sure head games are a complete bad idea like someone above has suggested! that is a for sure deal breaker for most guys! Especially experienced men that have had their head messed with in the past! Just be yourself and do it when your comfortable thats it! Sex is not a tool to manipulate someone with thats a huge mistake some women do it and it will work but not for long! If it does work for long he's not happy and niether are you probably!

... And the same refers to Sex with theStupid man!!!

To me, sex with any chick is ALWAYS better then masturbation, it's the real deal lol

Your friend needs to stop dating, and start talking.
Ya gotta be friends first. Sex is for players, love is forever...

Your first sentence is ridiculas. My life is an open book for anyone I meet, I have absolutely nothing to hide from anyone.
Communication is the most important part of any relationship, and I won't waste even 30 seconds on someone who cannot be totally open and honest. Games are for players...

To a greater or lesser extend, ALL of us are players -- Life itself is a Game, for pete's sake!
However, if you flush all of your trump cards right at the beginning of the game, then what's the point of continuing the game of the relationship -- which is based upon the discovery of partner's true nature???...

And, if you think my first sentence ("But really, who needs a man who's an opened book -- predictable and boring -- who represents no challenge, who can be toyed with like a little kid?") is "ridiculas", that's because you got nothing to hide!!!

Ususally, MEN of substance aren't easy to open up... But they are the most fascinating type of people I usually associate with!!! (sophisticated women love mystery!)

P.S. Nevertheless, the "open book/nothing to hide" guys are usually greate friends! (but nothing more). However, for a dating site, such an attitude is most "RIDICULAS"!!!
(unless that's the game your plaing...)

I think a lot of people (women as well as men) are impatient to find out if they are sexually compatible with someone they're dating before they invest too much time "courting" someone who may not appeal to them on a more intimate level later.

It's no different than every other trend we lean toward these days...fast life, fast service, fast food...it's the instant gratification generation.

I agree completely... Besides, Sex is a great way of GETTING ACQUAINTED!!!

I'm hoping for someone intelligent and committed to a similar philosophy. The physical stuff is nice too, of course. Maybe I'm weird, but I find that relationships based solely on physical stuff to be shallow and die quickly. JMHO.

Just like women, every man is different.

I can go either way when it comes to sex, but the question I would asking here is, are you really attracted to the person or just there body. Just because you think you might be interested in someone sexually doesn't mean when it comes down to it that fireworks will happen. I'm taking a guess on the way the OP posted the last guy. That after having sex with her friend. He wasn't all that interested as he may of thought he was and just wanted sex or after having sex he realized the attraction wasn't there. Think about this for a min or ask your friend. Would she stay with a man that she had sex with that didn't do it for her?

It doesn't really matter How soon one has sex -- the very first date, after 2 or more dates -- as long as it is a mutual agreement, i.e. not pressured.

***But WHAT DOES MATTER is the PERFORMANCE!!! ***
... If your friend id just playing "dead" (i.e. "enjoy yourself, fellow, but I'm outta here...") then no guy will stick around for long.
However, if your friend would forget her inhibitions and give it her best, then (from my experience) the guy would stick around for as long as you (I mean she) wants him to (begging for more!!!)

Tell her to watch a few sex movies -- they can really teach her a thing or two about the technique...

Well said. Ladies..exclude me as well. I won't have sex with you . LOL...sex..women..sound like 20 years ago for me...in a strange and twisted way..I miss it less and less, kinda scares me a bit.

* * * Beware -- as the saying goes:
if u don't use it, u lose it!!! * * * * * * *