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i didn't think men listened at all - never mind whether or not they were talking at the same time.
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listening....true listening is a skill that need to be learned. Most people are just waiting for their turn to talk.... as for gender biases.....Women ARE more verbal than men...so maybe you have a point. Allan Pease,co author of "Why men need sex and women need love" conducted a series of EEG's, PET scans and other tests to demonstrate that neuronal activity in many parts of the brain was at a very low level when a man was actually speaking and that there was totally dissimilar neuronal activity when a woman was speaking forcing him to conclude that there are considerable differences, (aside from the genitalia, as one person pointed out,) in actual brain activity during periods of speech and listening between men and women. What was the pool of people tested? See, this is why I hate these stupid "studies"...10+ years of college and this is the best they can do? How dare you question "science." |
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Men switch off when it comes to both talking and listening, women can both talk and listen at the same time. Anyone with comments?? Sorry I have no idea what you are talking about since I am typing (talking) to you right now. |
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personally ,be it men or women i don't have a problem talking or listening to either one..it depends on what they say and whether i find it interesting as to what degree i'll listen..and if a woman is talking and it doesn't seem like i'm listening it's probably because i'm busy looking at her girl parts..but i can look at girl parts and listen too..i am a multi tasker...
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I suppose I should add that I really don't have much experience with this, because whenever I'm talking to a guy I really like, I'm too busy listening to him (being enamored with the very timbre of his ultra sexy, toes-curling, dirty thought-provoking, silken voice) to say anything, so who knows if he'd listen to me?
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i didn't think men listened at all - never mind whether or not they were talking at the same time.
Men tend to use assertive and straight forward language and it is their language of speech is an action to get things done whereas women tend to use language as a more nuanced and subtle form geared towards rapport and relationship building and thereby achieving some form of consensus, perhaps. |
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i didn't think men listened at all - never mind whether or not they were talking at the same time.
Men tend to use assertive and straight forward language and it is their language of speech is an action to get things done whereas women tend to use language as a more nuanced and subtle form geared towards rapport and relationship building and thereby achieving some form of consensus, perhaps. Are these your opinions, or stuff you read? And if you've read it, what are your sources? |
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What gets under my skin is when somebody accuses me of not listening because they are'nt getting the response from me that they wanted to hear. Understanding is one of my strong points. I want to learn, I want empathize with people, and I enjoy being corrected when I'm wrong because I want to grow.
Sometimes I make the mistake of offering a comment or advice when a woman just wants to use me to vent. I'm working on that, but more often than not, being accused of not listening means not completely agreeing. |
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i didn't think men listened at all - never mind whether or not they were talking at the same time.
Men tend to use assertive and straight forward language and it is their language of speech is an action to get things done whereas women tend to use language as a more nuanced and subtle form geared towards rapport and relationship building and thereby achieving some form of consensus, perhaps. i always thought that men just say what women wanna hear to get into their pants. |
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i didn't think men listened at all - never mind whether or not they were talking at the same time.
Men tend to use assertive and straight forward language and it is their language of speech is an action to get things done whereas women tend to use language as a more nuanced and subtle form geared towards rapport and relationship building and thereby achieving some form of consensus, perhaps. Are these your opinions, or stuff you read? And if you've read it, what are your sources? I read, I analyze in the light of my own nutty nonsense and neuroses and I form an opinion. Now whether that conclusion( or opinion) is the socially correct one or not, it is mine to own until such time as I reexamine the issue based on better or more reliable data. |
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i didn't think men listened at all - never mind whether or not they were talking at the same time.
Men tend to use assertive and straight forward language and it is their language of speech is an action to get things done whereas women tend to use language as a more nuanced and subtle form geared towards rapport and relationship building and thereby achieving some form of consensus, perhaps. Are these your opinions, or stuff you read? And if you've read it, what are your sources? I read, I analyze in the light of my own nutty nonsense and neuroses and I form an opinion. Now whether that conclusion( or opinion) is the socially correct one or not, it is mine to own until such time as I reexamine the issue based on better or more reliable data. This, to me, is called learning and growing. |
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i didn't think men listened at all - never mind whether or not they were talking at the same time.
Men tend to use assertive and straight forward language and it is their language of speech is an action to get things done whereas women tend to use language as a more nuanced and subtle form geared towards rapport and relationship building and thereby achieving some form of consensus, perhaps. So if I put in my profile that I'm a good listener, women should just assume that I am full of **** or a liar. And they may be right, either way. |
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i didn't think men listened at all - never mind whether or not they were talking at the same time.
Men tend to use assertive and straight forward language and it is their language of speech is an action to get things done whereas women tend to use language as a more nuanced and subtle form geared towards rapport and relationship building and thereby achieving some form of consensus, perhaps. So if I put in my profile that I'm a good listener, women should just assume that I am full of **** or a liar. And they may be right, either way. You only offer two assumptions. The third assumption is that you are a good listener and be extrapolation a truthful man. |
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If it was on The View, then I might care.
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i didn't think men listened at all - never mind whether or not they were talking at the same time.
Men tend to use assertive and straight forward language and it is their language of speech is an action to get things done whereas women tend to use language as a more nuanced and subtle form geared towards rapport and relationship building and thereby achieving some form of consensus, perhaps. So if I put in my profile that I'm a good listener, women should just assume that I am full of **** or a liar. And they may be right, either way. It does sound a little like the sort of line a guy might use in order to convince women that "I'm not like everybody else." Most of the women I've known seem to have had little or no experience with males who actually listen. On the other hand, there are some men who are good listeners. I rarely see "I'm a good listener" in women's profiles, though. |
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I love internet philosophy, it is just as amusing as midget (sorry, "little people") wrestling.
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I love internet philosophy, it is just as amusing as midget (sorry, "little people") wrestling.
Except that there doesn't seem to be any World Championship belt for internet philosophy. We may be missing the boat on that one. |
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I love internet philosophy, it is just as amusing as midget (sorry, "little people") wrestling.
Except that there doesn't seem to be any World Championship belt for internet philosophy. We may be missing the boat on that one. Still, the matches are top-notch...I mean, you can't get better than this even with a belt on the line. 
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i didn't think men listened at all - never mind whether or not they were talking at the same time.
Men tend to use assertive and straight forward language and it is their language of speech is an action to get things done whereas women tend to use language as a more nuanced and subtle form geared towards rapport and relationship building and thereby achieving some form of consensus, perhaps. So if I put in my profile that I'm a good listener, women should just assume that I am full of **** or a liar. And they may be right, either way. It does sound a little like the sort of line a guy might use in order to convince women that "I'm not like everybody else." Most of the women I've known seem to have had little or no experience with males who actually listen. On the other hand, there are some men who are good listeners. I rarely see "I'm a good listener" in women's profiles, though. You have said that women have told you that you are a good listener and I have absolutely no reason to doubt that this is the case. So I commend you for being a rarity.I tend to think that most men listen but sometimes fail to actually hear the subtlties and nuances that are being both verbally and physically offered in spoken communication. |
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I love internet philosophy, it is just as amusing as midget (sorry, "little people") wrestling.
Except that there doesn't seem to be any World Championship belt for internet philosophy. We may be missing the boat on that one. Still, the matches are top-notch...I mean, you can't get better than this even with a belt on the line.
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