One thing that is good about internet dating sites is that you actually get to talk to people. You don't have to go to the clubs, or bars to meet a person. You sit at your computer and you talk (Which is why the forums are great). Yes, there is still rejection, but I find that more women will be more forward on sites like Mingle than they would in another setting (the same is true for most guys too). The downfall is that you really don't see the person (unless you cam) until that first initial meeting, so you could be talking to a crazy person.

Anyways, I feel sites like Mingle make it much more comfortable for a guy to approach a girl on here. And, I am talking about the well written, first email that says something other than "U R HAWT BABE!". There are guys on Mingle who are sincere in that they are looking for someone to share there life with, and these guys will more than likely take a chance to say something to a woman on here than they would if they were out in public.

I've always been told by men that I'm a very approachable person...

after so many times hearing that I asked why... - what about me made them feel comfortable approaching me...?

By far though, the main thing I've been told over the years about why they felt comfortable approaching me, was my smile. I've heard that they could just tell I was a nice person who wouldn't be rude, so they didn't feel nervous to say hello.

So maybe that's the trick - smile more and and for every person to have more confidence in themselves.

A simple "hello" could change your life. The man I was with for 12 years before he died of cancer a few years ago - we met in an airport in Vegas. I was walking to the baggage claim area, and he literally just approached me and walked side-by-side with me - I remember laughing about how bold this stranger was being...I said, "Do I know you?" and smiled, and he simply extended his hand and said "I'd like you to, my name is Mike"...and life as we knew it changed...

Though I lost him, I can not imagine how my life would've been had he not made that bold move in the airport. It was shocking and yes, somewhat out-there for most people to do -- but it's proof that we are all put in certain places/situations at just the right second to meet the right person -- it's up to us to act on it.

I'm so thankful he did...

So maybe the next time someone catches your attention, and you feel a strong pulling to them - don't wonder what to say or how you'll feel if nothing comes of it. Just do it.... life is too short to worry about what might go wrong - every now and then a lot goes right too...

I would have to say bad personality and apperance.

I'm lucky thAt way too!!! (thank god)

Men have always found it easy to come up to me and gab away

They told me I'm easy to talk to
Feel like they know me forever
I love to laugh and have fun

I also have a lot more male friends than female

I think men just feel if your approachable or not I guess

You know, a long time ago, there was this girl that I was really into. We never really talked much, but we always did notice one another. For some reason though (and I just put it to fear) I would never just strike up a conversation with her. In the end, I missed out because I found out that she liked my physical appearance and she was also wanting me to make a move. But by the time I worked up the nerve, another dude came in and stole her heart. I was devestated, but moreover I was mad at myself. I didn't take the chance to talk to her. Who knows? It might have been we never would have dated. Or, we might have been something more. In any case, I learned that you just have to take a chance. You never know what you will find.

I'm gonna go with attitude, Bob. If she's an angry little minx, I'm staying away. If they walk too fast, and have a cell phone glued to their ear, that's a turn-off as well.

what a lovely post. one of my favourites in this thread

I once opened a door for a lady with a stroller and a guy about my age snuck in and cut her off as she was attempting to steer the thing. He said thank you as he went by too. I had a good mental rant then decided to tell him to his face. So, I caught up to him and told him off. That probably makes me sound awful. But, what happened to men being MEN? I know I'm not the strongest, or the fastest- I still like to play sports and show my stuff. And I'll be the first to admit ignorance with tools, cars, and plumbing. In the end I'm always defeated by something I can't reach or a damn pickle jar...

I just don't think that opening a door or helping out is lame. It's thoughtful and dependable.

unapproachable?

For me the sexier she is the worse I am to talk to her as a complete stranger.

There are times however when I feel this attraction between us no matter how sexy she is and that leads to conversation but it takes time usually. So if it was like a one look glance probably didn't make a move but if it was many many many times I probably still didn't make a move, but if it was more than once or she walks near me or she stares into my eyes and stays fixated on me chances are I'll take a shot. Also it depends on who I'm with. If she's too hot for words I probably wouldn't talk to her no matter who was there but there have been occasions where the friends that I have =the communication between her and I. I don't know why but certain people when I'm around them I feel like the entire world is perfect and this angel in front of my eyes that is pure beauty is just meant to be talked to as nothing could go wrong with my wing man in my corner.

Still there are plenty of times that this doesn't happen which is why I got a new tactic and that tactic was how to make women approach me. This tactic works easier. There are still times where it doesn't though. If she's stunning and she approaches me I'm stunned and that's all there is to it. It allows me to keep up conversations though and it allows for ice to break and it definitely allows me to see many many many boobies that I would have never seen without this technique.

I won't approach a woman that looks real good because I feel like she's too good looking to want anything to do with me.Now I will talk to some but I won't try to ask them out because I've got turned down too many times so I guess I'm scared to get turned down,it makes me feel bad and makes it harder to ask one out again.

Methinks Insanity

Dontcha feel like they're looking for the same?

At this point I feel as though I'm too old for that game. I like to smile at people! No matter where I am or what I'm doing I smile at people. Clerks in stores are much more helpful while you are smiling at them. (Ok, not all of them!!) The person ringing up your purchase responds in a positive manner when you smile at them...usually. I am having so much fun with it! So many years of marriage when I could not find my smile anywhere and now I've found it again. I think this makes me approachable. If I'm frowning and grumpy looking I doubt even I would want to approach me.
But I'm not looking for anyone to approach me. I'm healing and practicing my flirting/social skills. Oddly enough I think this makes me very approachable....

Her attitude, way she talks and think.

Does the supermarket pick-up really work? Or is that a myth? So far no luck.

It works!!

I once dated a guy I met at the deli counter!!

Explain, then. I have tried all kinds of approaches and all different methods, but so many women seem to be in such a hurry, they don't want to be distracted from their mission. Maybe it's the wrong time of day. I once helped out this girl in the produce section and chatted her up for 10 minutes but I guess she was just shy or something.

We just started chatting while placing our orders!

He asked me out for coffee and I said yes!!

There is a lot of flirting going on at the neighborhood grocery store if you watch carefully. Haha.

Hey why not!!

Maybe I'll have to go more often then. I'll try your deli idea and an invite to Starbucks and see how it works out. Thanks.