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i used to date a woman who had her 6 front teeth on top knocked out in a horse riding accident. she wore a partial and took it out at night. never phased me a bit. if she wouldntve worn it ever though, or not cared, it mayve been a problem. so i do see where youre coming from on this exactly..... oh, btw, thanks for the flowers can I get you some coffee while Im up? |
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i used to date a woman who had her 6 front teeth on top knocked out in a horse riding accident. she wore a partial and took it out at night. never phased me a bit. if she wouldntve worn it ever though, or not cared, it mayve been a problem. so i do see where youre coming from on this exactly..... oh, btw, thanks for the flowers can I get you some coffee while Im up? certainly, black please |
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Well they do say never look a gift horse in the mouth, but lost teeth in a fight could be a deal breaker. I could see it if he was a hockey goalie that forgot to wear his mask one day but bar fights are a real red flag. And what if one day you go to all the trouble of making him a really good sandwich and he couldn't eat it? And a fight breaks out and ...............
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Edited by
Mr_Music
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Sun 09/27/09 08:55 AM
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Yes, it does make you shallow. Your opening sentence reads:
talked to a guy for a few weeks, slowly building anticipation to meet him,
This leads me to believe that up until this point, he appeared to you to have all the qualities in a man that attract you. Then: turns out he has no teeth! WTF?? it turned out to be a deal-breaker for me.
So, now that you know that he suffers from this personal affliction, he's no longer attractive to you because his physical appearance isn't up to your personal snuff? People suffer from lack of teeth for a variety of reasons. It isn't always due to being in a fight. They could've been in an accident. They could be a victim of a hereditary degenerative disease that they have no control over. Hell, it could be something as simple as not being faithful with their toothbrush. In any case, it does not detract from the person they are. Either a person is a good person, or they're a jackass, and it goes for women as well as men. Perhaps he honestly COULDN'T afford to get them fixed, and they DON'T pose an issue for him. That's still no reason to reject him if he's a decent person otherwise. Granted, physical appearance is probably the biggest initial attraction for anyone (let's be honest), but personality always trumps looks. |
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Thanks anniepie. I think it's the game where a bunch of guys in tights run one way and some other guys in another color tights run into them and knock each other's teeth out. at least thats better than a bar fight...... and i would have his nfl salary to comfort me :) Ahhhhh, so materialism plays a part! The truth reveals itself. |
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Well they do say never look a gift horse in the mouth, but lost teeth in a fight could be a deal breaker. I could see it if he was a hockey goalie that forgot to wear his mask one day but bar fights are a real red flag. And what if one day you go to all the trouble of making him a really good sandwich and he couldn't eat it? And a fight breaks out and ............... and to never be able to enjoy a good slab of ribs?? |
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Thanks anniepie. I think it's the game where a bunch of guys in tights run one way and some other guys in another color tights run into them and knock each other's teeth out. at least thats better than a bar fight...... and i would have his nfl salary to comfort me :) Ahhhhh, so materialism plays a part! The truth reveals itself. I have to admit he got my attention....but not in a good way. I can't imagine being gummed |
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i used to date a woman who had her 6 front teeth on top knocked out in a horse riding accident. she wore a partial and took it out at night. never phased me a bit. if she wouldntve worn it ever though, or not cared, it mayve been a problem. so i do see where youre coming from on this exactly..... oh, btw, thanks for the flowers can I get you some coffee while Im up? certainly, black please careful, its hot |
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OMG this whole thread has me
The fellas on here can defend this guy all they like, let THEM meet a hot chick who cracks a toothless smile and see how quickly THEY run haha! Fact is, if this isn't one of his "priorities" to get dental work, then you pretty much know the kind of life you'd be in for with this critter. "Ay baby go fetch me a Bud!" |
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Truth be told, I HAVE dated a lady who had partials, both upper and lower, due to an accident she had been in. Just because a person may be missing some or all of their teeth does not automatically equate them to being a buckwah.
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agreed...yep teeth are important..If not doing a second date because he has no teeth makes ya shallow...call me a shallow b!tch.. |
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Isn't it ironic that so many women whine and complain that they're "only looked at because of their looks", or they're "treated like an object....why can't men like me for ME??", etc., ad nauseum.
But let a GUY have a physical discrepancy, and suddenly he's "beneath" them. Double-standard, anyone? |
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So you wake up one morning and see your man next to you. You know that he was the one and you made the right choice as your partner. When you look at him it makes you feel so goooooood! So good in fact that you decide to get up and go make him breakfast in bed. As you start to walk down the stairs, you slip and fall hittin your pretty face on the railing and five of your front teeth get knocked out.
Weeks after the incident you find out you will require partials for the rest of your life. Your husband leaves you because you are missing most of your front teeth and will need to wear a partial from now on. Do you agree with his decision to leave. Is he shallow? |
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Isn't it ironic that so many women whine and complain that they're "only looked at because of their looks", or they're "treated like an object....why can't men like me for ME??", etc., ad nauseum. But let a GUY have a physical discrepancy, and suddenly he's "beneath" them. Double-standard, anyone? Look, teeth are important..that's just the way it is. Were not talking about a limp, a bad arm or a big scar here were talking about no front teeth. If I'm with someone and they have an incident where they lose teeth..well that's one thing..Or fake teeth..no biggie.. But a first meeting, a toothless smile..no. I'm betting 99.9% of the people on here feel that way, whether they say it or not.. It's not about being "beneath"....it about what is attractive to one. I like a nice smile, I find it attractive..without teeth that wouldn't be there.. |
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I dont see why you have teeth or not being an issue aint it the personality of that person that attracts you? Anna x
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Isn't it ironic that so many women whine and complain that they're "only looked at because of their looks", or they're "treated like an object....why can't men like me for ME??", etc., ad nauseum. But let a GUY have a physical discrepancy, and suddenly he's "beneath" them. Double-standard, anyone? Look, teeth are important..that's just the way it is. Were not talking about a limp, a bad arm or a big scar here were talking about no front teeth. If I'm with someone and they have an incident where they lose teeth..well that's one thing..Or fake teeth..no biggie.. But a first meeting, a toothless smile..no. I'm betting 99.9% of the people on here feel that way, whether they say it or not.. It's not about being "beneath"....it about what is attractive to one. I like a nice smile, I find it attractive..without teeth that wouldn't be there.. So why don't you just come right out and say it then? You're more impressed with someone's physical appearance rather than their personality. |
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Well I do believe I would date a person with false teeth..I have dated 2 men that where in wheelchairs..the 1st when I was 14-teen the other I was 31..Just the person ..I try to see..
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Well I do believe I would date a person with false teeth..I have dated 2 men that where in wheelchairs..the 1st when I was 14-teen the other I was 31..Just the person ..I try to see.. Good for you! |
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Isn't it ironic that so many women whine and complain that they're "only looked at because of their looks", or they're "treated like an object....why can't men like me for ME??", etc., ad nauseum. But let a GUY have a physical discrepancy, and suddenly he's "beneath" them. Double-standard, anyone? Look, teeth are important..that's just the way it is. Were not talking about a limp, a bad arm or a big scar here were talking about no front teeth. If I'm with someone and they have an incident where they lose teeth..well that's one thing..Or fake teeth..no biggie.. But a first meeting, a toothless smile..no. I'm betting 99.9% of the people on here feel that way, whether they say it or not.. It's not about being "beneath"....it about what is attractive to one. I like a nice smile, I find it attractive..without teeth that wouldn't be there.. So why don't you just come right out and say it then? You're more impressed with someone's physical appearance rather than their personality. [/quot] That's not true, personality is important to me..more than you will ever know...first impressions are important whether we like it or not. His personality would have to be spectacular for me to be able to look past no teeth.. |
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