this is actually not about me, although I am very curious. Of course I am implying that you have to physically meet someone to be IN love with them.

I disagree. How can you truly know someone, when, IMO, love is of the mind, body, & soul? You are loving the "idea" of love. We all feel that at some point. But is is not lasting. How can it be? It is an "idea", brought on by perceptions and not based in reality. It is like saying, I love George Clooney. It is your "belief" that you love him, but that is an illusion. You may lust after him, base on your perception of who his is, but perceptions change all the time, based on more information. The physical is not only about sex, it is about the connection through sight, touch, and all of your senses. To define the physical based only on sex is one dimensional, and naive.

Ya but Buttah

How can you say your love for a "person" is true just because you have met them?

You mean you justify that bc you say by meeting someone you "know who they are"?

I don't understand what you're getting at

Let me explain. It is not that you will love the person when you meet them, but it is the only way, IMO, that you will know whether you do or don't. You cannot know by chatting or phone calls.

Eh

I getcha...

But, tell ya what Buttah?

I think, maybe what Alz and I are getting at is this: and sorry Alz if I am wrong

LOVE? Well love is soooooo hard to find, since it really isn't "real" anyways....

If you wanna talk to someone far away, via typing or chatting or calling or whatever.....Go for it...Cuz being happy is what matters

Love? I mean, seriously...Love is like a rubix cube. Its impossible to figure out and if you do...nobody would believe you anyways

Oh I see, thank you.

Well in my experience I have fallen in love with someone who lived in another country, had a long distance relationship, and married them.

yes I believe it is possible.. do I reccomend allowing yourself this.. Big fat NO.

I'm not saying that chatting and believing you are in love is a bad thing. I am saying it is not based in reality. I think if you believe you love someone from chatting, then do what you think is right. I don't care what a person does, actually. It is just a topic for discussion or feedback and reflection, that is all.

Now, call me so we can get that lovin feelin from phone sex

So, how long did the long distance relationship go one before you married them? Did you meet them once and say, lets get married?

How long did the married last? Sorry if too personal, I am just curious about this.

Yes it is though Buttah

What you are saying...is you need to see someone for "love" to be legit?

That would bring up all kinds of things

Like saying blind people cant fall in love.

But on THAT note

I'm going to watch football

Bye Buttah

No no no, reread my previous post about all the senses. It is the connection when meeting.

Good point.

I like that. Because thinking about it...The woman I loved most...I did use "all of my senses", if ya know what I mean?


And I'm being for real...sight, touch, sound, smell...whats another one?

But...still, I dunno about all of that lol\

K I'll be around bye

I believe love here is possible, but yes, for sure you really dont know a person til youve met them in person.. and have seen first hand how they live, who they are.. what they do.

You just dont really KNOW them.. believe me.. i have first hand experience with this one.. o LAWD! ha ha

And that Earthy is one smart chick!

I believe that many of us are in love with the idea of being in love. And then desperation and lonliness rear their ugly heads with the result of all sorts of nutty nonsense and neuroses. Often We are products of our childhood fantasies, Barbie and Ken and all of the Happily ever after stories. The reality is, is that any relationship is a matter of give and take and generally a lot of compromise and submission to each other. In other words: hard work. Love in an agape meaning takes considerable time and a large measure of invested energy. It is not to be taken lightly and those magical words, I love you, are an affirmation of considerable courage before the consciousness of man, and God. To love someone and then meet them, and then not love them is not love, but simply a symptom of ones own ignorance of self realization.

God bless your soul.

Like everything in life love is there one day and gone the next.

I can fall in love with a person I have never met in person and once i meet her all my feelings might have been wrong but they could also be so right.

You might need to be face to face to confirm that it is love in all aspect and not just loneliness or your imagination but you can also say the same thing about being face to face with the person from the start and after you feel love at the beginning love goes away the more you know them.

I feel love when my heart feels love and I do not need to touch her to feel love, will that love last or just leave who knows like all relation love is there one day and gone the next and it is not because you feel it when your face to face that it is real love.

I respect others opinion but mine is that yes you can love without ever have met.

In your face!

I think I'm with my bootilicious buddy Buttah...if you haven't yet met, how might "pheromones" be allowed to work between you?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pheromones
(scroll down to "Human" please, unless you want to be compared to a sow, sea urchin, or Japanese beetles!)

There's even a song which had been written about pheromones, likely before such a phenomena had even been suggested:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NNC0kIzM1Fo

thank you baby


btw, I am really a Leatherback turtle

Yes.


I have beautiful and loving friends all over the world...incredibly gentle, joyful REAL people, whose very spirit shines through their thoughts, their words, their INTENTIONS......how could one not love that?


I feel very real and deep love for many people I have not met physically.