I have a guy friend who I hung out with for about 6 months. Things ended even though we are still friends. 5 weeks ago he moved back in with his ex-wife because she said she missed her family. He missed his kids and because of money problems he decided to give it another try. Things are not going well for the two of them because she cannot decide if she wants to be with him or her ex-boyfriend. I have very strong feelings for this guy. Do I tell him how I feel or leave things as they are between us and hope that he figures things out on his own. Mind you we still talk and he texts him often.

If he is with her then you don't need to waste your time with him. I know that's not what you wanna hear, but if he felt the same about you as you do him, he would not have gone back to his ex. Move on, stop all contact and live your life

Sounds like a messy situation...If he is still with her don't tell him. That would only confuse him. If his ex goes to her ex bf then I am sure you can tell him then....Or if the situation doesn't change be friends with him but move one with your life. Have fun, go out, be who you were meant to be

I second that

Give him the space he needs to figure out his current situation. IF and WHEN it gets resolved, then you can make a play for him.

You'd probably be better off making a play for her boyfriend.

Seriously, it kinda sounds like he may be keeping you around for option B. Best to distance yourself from the whole situation. Let him work his crap out and make a decision without your involvement. If he gets dumped and runs to you, run the other way. He'll be back with her in a snap if she were to ever change her mind.

I agree with this man!!!

yea, I'm going to agree with the others here, sounds like some time is needed...

Run!!!!!!!!

and don't even think about looking back.

yep, i'd walk away too - before i became 'the other woman' and got too emotionally involved with him to leave.

all i can say is let him make his mind up , if you try give him ultimatium and he leaves wife later he may question that decision
just dont hang around hoping he make his mind up though if someone comes along move on

if he texts you etc...sounds like he has the same problem as his ex! he does not know what he wants either.
think i would walk away, but easy for me to say..i am not in your situation

Very messy indeed. He needs to clean up his own house before moving on to a new one.

I am taking everyone's advice on here. I am no longer going to contact him . If he texts me I am just going to ignore it.

Good for you. I am hoping I can do the same thing

girl, don't let yourself become the second choice. my ex stalker (ha ha) passed on me to work things out with his ex who he'd been with for four years. It didn't last. he tried to come back to me, but I said no way ... I am better than that and deserve better

this is great but if he asks whats up.. he deserves an explination as to your disappearance.

just let him know that with him moving back home with his ex you are no longer comfortable with the situation.

let him know when he gets his life resolved he can contact you.

don't just leave him lost and hanging. that might screw you in the long run.

then you just become one of those people who leave a friend in need.

but then it sounds like you were more than friends.

We were more than just friends. But what bugs me is how is always said she was nothing more than a selfish b****. and then he ends up trying to work out something that even he knows isn't going to work.
And men say women are hard to understand!

Don't even get me going on my story

do tell,perhaps it will help me