Met someone like in emails and this is a first meet..Then I say no to a ride together. Meet in a very public place just to be on the safe side.

I am so glad to see that I am not the only one that gets the willies.

Just keep in mind this is the person you have made a connection to on the internet and you are just putting a real live face to it.

Go for it. Let us all know how it went..
Good luck

No just exasperated.....


am having a fabulous day!!!!!


and I want for Tammi to have OPPORTUNITIES to be a person aside from a mother, not scare the heck out of her...she deserves some joy.

I watch COPS and there are a lot off crazy people in the states

Take a look at her post below.

I did.....and she can read all of everyone's posts and mail people to ask their advice for how to go about it...


and my post is waaaaay before hers....therefore I didn't ASSUME she is incapable of her own personal safety.

Make yourself available

A couple weeks ago I went to spend a weekend at a woman house that i have been talking to for about two months, she was funny, interesting and intelligent.

10 Minutes after she pick me up i was already regretting my choice, she had road rage and was cursing at everybody on the road.

We get to her place and have supper then her son comes over and war almost breaks open the guy is 5 times my size and seemed like a raging bull and she was even worst.

The next morning I made up an excuse (felt sick) and she took me back.

That's one date I would not wish on anyone.

But then I had others that were great and no problem good people (didn't work in the end) all that to say YOU NEVER KNOW SOMEONE UNTIL YOUR FACE TO FACE.

serial killer

hide this in your garter

damn... I'm a guy, 180lbs... in decent shape, and I don't get in the car with a strange woman ROFLMAO...

If she were comfortable, she would not be posting... I don't think anyone said anything about rapist... I think everyone was saying "go for it, but be smart about it"....

double post (damn wireless network!!)

It really comes down to what you are willing to risk.

Since you only know what he wants you to know I would consider that risk level VERY high. My word what can you possible know about this guy in that short of time?

If he does not care about your safety to reveal himself in a public and safe enviornment I have to wonder how commited he is to your future. Or what he is hiding.

No offense to you but he sounds a little desperate and stupid to invite a total stranger into his life so easily. He doesn't know if you are married, being pimped, an addict, or even a convict. I kind of doubt you are going to let him pat you down for a weapon but he is as much at risk as you are if he gets in a car with you.

Has he told you his full name, address, and possibly sent a photo ID? Those are basic precautions you demand to cash a check isn't your future at least as important. If he has nothing to hide what is going to be so bad about googleing him to see if he has a police record, a job, a residence, a license? That doesn't even get into the whole thing of them having other relationships, addictions, no insurance, no spending money, or a terrible personality. In a car is a real bad time to find out this kind of information.


Because you hopefully have never had to endure a robbery, beating, sexual assault, or someone attempting to take your life it is not likely that you can really assess the threat. How it will effect your sense of self, the ability to relax, or even maybe recover. Much less keep a job, possibly drive, marry, and or have children. It is not likely that you have seen the degree of injuries that are possible. The most severe survivors tend to become homebound or even instituionalized. The less severe survivors often keep it "secret"; sometimes slipping into addictions in an attempt to escape the painful memories, shame, and self hatred. Victims rarely plan to be victims.

I might add being a victim previously does not somehow make you immune to being a victim again. That you maybe have had and "unpleasant" experience can not prepare you for a more violent attack. Never kid yourself lightening can strike twice.

Something to consider is how will a laisa fair attitude be taken by someone making a judgement about you. No one probably wants to pretend to be. or even be, totally scared that all men are going to be able to over power them and do terrible things to them but guys know how many sleezy guys are out there; that don't take no for and answer, and talk about women like dogs. They have seen the stats. Most have probably seen a situation where some woman has been taken advantage of. Do you want them to think you are so caught up in the fairy tale Princess Charming scene that you refuse to be smart enough to acknowledge the facts. Stupid is not attractive. I would recommend a smart decesion to say "I think you are so sexy you make my teeth sweat but I am going to respect us both and stay within some boundries." A good man will respect that. Even if he is so horn*y he's about to climb the wall.

Or do you think (this is retorical not personal) that you can walk on the wild side and then settle down and find a nice guy after you have had a little fun with a bad boy? Believe me someone will Rat you out.