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Emotional breakdown versus rejecting an invitation 
daytime, I like your screenname. this may be part of a destructive pattern, but you can't really get rid of your parents and they are family. I should value something about that. (?) I should not be so concerned with their feelings and reaction, rather my own well-being?? Not at all trying to offend Sava 
When I hear the words emotional breakdown I take that as very serious, some people may have to be hospitalized after a "nervous breakdown". Maybe there are other ways to see your parents, a short trip or get together. I wish you much luck and hope all goes well.
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Personally, I'd have to be busy... I know it sounds bad, but taking care of myself (and kiddos when they were little) has to be the priority. OMG, I hate disfunctional family situations! Unfortunately, hating consumes a lot of energy! I'm trying not to hate. you know, bring a little light into the situation. |
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Emotional breakdown versus rejecting an invitation
daytime, I like your screenname. this may be part of a destructive pattern, but you can't really get rid of your parents and they are family. I should value something about that. (?) I should not be so concerned with their feelings and reaction, rather my own well-being?? exactly. you are the only one that owns your feelings. if its too painful, dont!.....unless you are a glutton for punishment
Well, I can be a little self-destructive but I'm working on that and I will tell you it's taking a stern effort. |
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Emotional breakdown versus rejecting an invitation
daytime, I like your screenname. this may be part of a destructive pattern, but you can't really get rid of your parents and they are family. I should value something about that. (?) I should not be so concerned with their feelings and reaction, rather my own well-being?? Not at all trying to offend Sava
When I hear the words emotional breakdown I take that as very serious, some people may have to be hospitalized after a "nervous breakdown". Maybe there are other ways to see your parents, a short trip or get together. I wish you much luck and hope all goes well.
I am not offended. Your response split me open and forced me to confront the demon. |
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Personally, I'd have to be busy... I know it sounds bad, but taking care of myself (and kiddos when they were little) has to be the priority. OMG, I hate disfunctional family situations! Unfortunately, hating consumes a lot of energy! I'm trying not to hate. you know, bring a little light into the situation. I understand completely and tried that route for years. Now I have to say "no thank you" and stay home. It takes more than one side trying to make things right for the end results to be good - even in parent/child relationships. HOWEVER...do what you can live with and what you can look at yourself in the mirror over. You don't need to add any more emotional fire to the mix you already have. Best regards and good luck! 
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