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Topic: Do men ask women on dates anymore?
JustAGuy2112's photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:31 PM



QUOTE:
Well......you should already know that.....and I'd rather not tell you.....considering the weird *** relationship we have formed


Cuz I read Hemmingway at the bar? laugh



That up there^^^

No idea what it has to do with anything Snark -- But you reading Hemmingway -- that is sexy

As to this --"ETA: Billy, why would taking a woman home be easier than asking her on a date? In my expereince, it's the same thing, only asking her on a date is WAY more respectful..."

WHAT!?!?

If you make yourself not "approachable" for a date and a guy decides to take you "home" that means he wants to have sex

ya get it now?

respect doesnt have anything to do with it. but where did we veer off? at you making yourself not approachable. and you proved that. by saying, "it's the same thing" that one is WAY more respectful. and guess what? we know that

so, miss snarky twain who reads hemmingway, youre smart

you think about what i am saying


But if I'm approachable for sex, I should also be approachable for a date...? WTF?

Men confuse the HELL out of me! frustrated sad


Most of the guys that would approach you for sex wouldn't do so for a date because they have the mistaken impression that anything other than sex obligates them to something more than just getting laid.

JustAGuy2112's photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:33 PM
Thank you. :blushing I dunno... every guy who talks to me at all wants one thing.


Ummm....excuse me.

Would you mind rephrasing that statement???

snarkytwain's photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:33 PM
Thanks for the honesty, babe. There HAVE to be SOME decent men left!

I mean, I know there are from being here at Mingle but... left in Spokane? I dunno. They probably all moved to Portland...

mathew420's photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:38 PM
Oh and another thing that all of you ladies should remember...

Guys feel the same way about rejection as you do. It is hard for the to be rejected as well..

You are stuck with a double whammy...

One the double standard of the guy being the one who is supossed to be the one to ask, personally I have always hated that and think it is BS... Ladies it is a new century it is OK for you to ask...

The second is your beauty, guys tend to see your beauty and think that you must already be with someone. So they won't bother to ask.
Especially the "nice guys" that you are looking for. After all they tend to be shy, or they do not want to offend. Not to meantion the fact that they feel insecure and afraid of rejection.

It is OK to ask, in fact in a lot of cases you MUST be the one to ask. DO NOT sit around waiting, its a waste of time and you will miss out on a lot... You could very well miss out on someone who is perfect for you. Just because you were both afraid to ask... such a shame...


Balky's photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:39 PM

Thanks for the honesty, babe. There HAVE to be SOME decent men left!

I mean, I know there are from being here at Mingle but... left in Spokane? I dunno. They probably all moved to Portland...


There still is decent guys out there. I can proudly and honestly say that I've never cheated on an ex girl before. I still believe in courtship, foreplay and romance. I'm not perfect but at least I know how to treat a lady, I live in Los Angeles.

no photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:40 PM

Oh and another thing that all of you ladies should remember...

Guys feel the same way about rejection as you do. It is hard for the to be rejected as well..

You are stuck with a double whammy...

One the double standard of the guy being the one who is supossed to be the one to ask, personally I have always hated that and think it is BS... Ladies it is a new century it is OK for you to ask...

The second is your beauty, guys tend to see your beauty and think that you must already be with someone. So they won't bother to ask.
Especially the "nice guys" that you are looking for. After all they tend to be shy, or they do not want to offend. Not to meantion the fact that they feel insecure and afraid of rejection.

It is OK to ask, in fact in a lot of cases you MUST be the one to ask. DO NOT sit around waiting, its a waste of time and you will miss out on a lot... You could very well miss out on someone who is perfect for you. Just because you were both afraid to ask... such a shame...





new subject:

(since snarky just isnt getting me as always)

matthew guy..........women will never ever get it..........ever...........you will find a couple, but generalizing "women" into a group......that is just a bad idea

if you want to wait around until a woman asks you out on a date...ya may as well start buying cats

mathew420's photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:40 PM

Thanks for the honesty, babe. There HAVE to be SOME decent men left!

I mean, I know there are from being here at Mingle but... left in Spokane? I dunno. They probably all moved to Portland...


I used to live in Spokane, I wentto Shadle Park High. happy

no photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:40 PM


Thanks for the honesty, babe. There HAVE to be SOME decent men left!

I mean, I know there are from being here at Mingle but... left in Spokane? I dunno. They probably all moved to Portland...


There still is decent guys out there. I can proudly and honestly say that I've never cheated on an ex girl before. I still believe in courtship, foreplay and romance. I'm not perfect but at least I know how to treat a lady, I live in Los Angeles.


balky

its guys like you who make me do this

slaphead

galendgirl's photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:41 PM
Edited by galendgirl on Sat 08/01/09 05:41 PM

Oh and another thing that all of you ladies should remember...

Guys feel the same way about rejection as you do. It is hard for the to be rejected as well..

You are stuck with a double whammy...

One the double standard of the guy being the one who is supossed to be the one to ask, personally I have always hated that and think it is BS... Ladies it is a new century it is OK for you to ask...

The second is your beauty, guys tend to see your beauty and think that you must already be with someone. So they won't bother to ask.
Especially the "nice guys" that you are looking for. After all they tend to be shy, or they do not want to offend. Not to meantion the fact that they feel insecure and afraid of rejection.

It is OK to ask, in fact in a lot of cases you MUST be the one to ask. DO NOT sit around waiting, its a waste of time and you will miss out on a lot... You could very well miss out on someone who is perfect for you. Just because you were both afraid to ask... such a shame...




The interesting thing is that I've heard men talk about the double standard and wanting women to ask them out or pay for dates or travel to see them, etc... But given that exact situation, they are often uncomfortable with the reality of a woman willing to do that. The means the double edged sword cuts both ways.

Rejection stinks no matter which way it's flying...

snarkytwain's photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:41 PM

Thank you. :blushing I dunno... every guy who talks to me at all wants one thing.


Ummm....excuse me.

Would you mind rephrasing that statement???


You don't TALK to me, you TYPE to me. laugh

mathew420's photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:41 PM


Oh and another thing that all of you ladies should remember...

Guys feel the same way about rejection as you do. It is hard for the to be rejected as well..

You are stuck with a double whammy...

One the double standard of the guy being the one who is supossed to be the one to ask, personally I have always hated that and think it is BS... Ladies it is a new century it is OK for you to ask...

The second is your beauty, guys tend to see your beauty and think that you must already be with someone. So they won't bother to ask.
Especially the "nice guys" that you are looking for. After all they tend to be shy, or they do not want to offend. Not to meantion the fact that they feel insecure and afraid of rejection.

It is OK to ask, in fact in a lot of cases you MUST be the one to ask. DO NOT sit around waiting, its a waste of time and you will miss out on a lot... You could very well miss out on someone who is perfect for you. Just because you were both afraid to ask... such a shame...





new subject:

(since snarky just isnt getting me as always)

matthew guy..........women will never ever get it..........ever...........you will find a couple, but generalizing "women" into a group......that is just a bad idea

if you want to wait around until a woman asks you out on a date...ya may as well start buying cats


LoL to true... I would have about 50 by now. laugh

mathew420's photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:44 PM


Oh and another thing that all of you ladies should remember...

Guys feel the same way about rejection as you do. It is hard for the to be rejected as well..

You are stuck with a double whammy...

One the double standard of the guy being the one who is supossed to be the one to ask, personally I have always hated that and think it is BS... Ladies it is a new century it is OK for you to ask...

The second is your beauty, guys tend to see your beauty and think that you must already be with someone. So they won't bother to ask.
Especially the "nice guys" that you are looking for. After all they tend to be shy, or they do not want to offend. Not to meantion the fact that they feel insecure and afraid of rejection.

It is OK to ask, in fact in a lot of cases you MUST be the one to ask. DO NOT sit around waiting, its a waste of time and you will miss out on a lot... You could very well miss out on someone who is perfect for you. Just because you were both afraid to ask... such a shame...




The interesting thing is that I've heard men talk about the double standard and wanting women to ask them out or pay for dates or travel to see them, etc... But given that exact situation, they are often uncomfortable with the reality of a woman willing to do that. The means the double edged sword cuts both ways.

Rejection stinks no matter which way it's flying...


I don't I love it, and find it very becoming.

snarkytwain's photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:44 PM

Oh and another thing that all of you ladies should remember...

Guys feel the same way about rejection as you do. It is hard for the to be rejected as well..

You are stuck with a double whammy...

One the double standard of the guy being the one who is supossed to be the one to ask, personally I have always hated that and think it is BS... Ladies it is a new century it is OK for you to ask...

The second is your beauty, guys tend to see your beauty and think that you must already be with someone. So they won't bother to ask.
Especially the "nice guys" that you are looking for. After all they tend to be shy, or they do not want to offend. Not to meantion the fact that they feel insecure and afraid of rejection.

It is OK to ask, in fact in a lot of cases you MUST be the one to ask. DO NOT sit around waiting, its a waste of time and you will miss out on a lot... You could very well miss out on someone who is perfect for you. Just because you were both afraid to ask... such a shame...




I've thought that myself... that a guy must be with someone or too young or out of my league...

Sometimes I wonder if getting a divorce was such a good idea...

galendgirl's photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:45 PM
Edited by galendgirl on Sat 08/01/09 05:48 PM


It is OK to ask, in fact in a lot of cases you MUST be the one to ask. DO NOT sit around waiting, its a waste of time and you will miss out on a lot... You could very well miss out on someone who is perfect for you. Just because you were both afraid to ask... such a shame...

The interesting thing is that I've heard men talk about the double standard and wanting women to ask them out or pay for dates or travel to see them, etc... But given that exact situation, they are often uncomfortable with the reality of a woman willing to do that. The means the double edged sword cuts both ways.

Rejection stinks no matter which way it's flying...


I don't I love it, and find it very becoming.


Don't love what...rejection? Just clarifying - I didn't understand the answer very clearly. Sorry.

no photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:46 PM

The interesting thing is that I've heard men talk about the double standard and wanting women to ask them out or pay for dates or travel to see them, etc... But given that exact situation, they are often uncomfortable with the reality of a woman willing to do that. The means the double edged sword cuts both ways.


I can't address that, because I've been asked out a lot -- this was primarily back in the days when I was actively involved in music -- but I was never uncomfortable with that particular arrangement. I would have been TOTALLY uncomfortable with any OTHER arrangement, actually!

I suppose there probably are guys who are still attached to the old-world mindset about these things -- if I try to imagine my father in that position, I can picture him being shocked and appalled by the very idea! -- but I have no problem with it.


Rejection stinks no matter which way it's flying...


True enough, but isn't it inevitable if people are asking other people out? Sooner or later, there's a pairing that simply doesn't click right off the bat....


Balky's photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:46 PM
Edited by Balky on Sat 08/01/09 05:48 PM



Thanks for the honesty, babe. There HAVE to be SOME decent men left!

I mean, I know there are from being here at Mingle but... left in Spokane? I dunno. They probably all moved to Portland...


There still is decent guys out there. I can proudly and honestly say that I've never cheated on an ex girl before. I still believe in courtship, foreplay and romance. I'm not perfect but at least I know how to treat a lady, I live in Los Angeles.


balky

its guys like you who make me do this

slaphead


I do that to my bestfriend too, he's the player and I'm the good one lol

no photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:47 PM


Thank you. :blushing I dunno... every guy who talks to me at all wants one thing.


Ummm....excuse me.

Would you mind rephrasing that statement???


You don't TALK to me, you TYPE to me. laugh


snark

dont even go there

:wink:

snarkytwain's photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:48 PM
Edited by snarkytwain on Sat 08/01/09 06:09 PM


Oh and another thing that all of you ladies should remember...

Guys feel the same way about rejection as you do. It is hard for the to be rejected as well..

You are stuck with a double whammy...

One the double standard of the guy being the one who is supossed to be the one to ask, personally I have always hated that and think it is BS... Ladies it is a new century it is OK for you to ask...

The second is your beauty, guys tend to see your beauty and think that you must already be with someone. So they won't bother to ask.
Especially the "nice guys" that you are looking for. After all they tend to be shy, or they do not want to offend. Not to meantion the fact that they feel insecure and afraid of rejection.

It is OK to ask, in fact in a lot of cases you MUST be the one to ask. DO NOT sit around waiting, its a waste of time and you will miss out on a lot... You could very well miss out on someone who is perfect for you. Just because you were both afraid to ask... such a shame...





new subject:

(since snarky just isnt getting me as always)

matthew guy..........women will never ever get it..........ever...........you will find a couple, but generalizing "women" into a group......that is just a bad idea

if you want to wait around until a woman asks you out on a date...ya may as well start buying cats


What can I say Billy? You're just so deep!



laugh

I used to live in Spokane, I wentto Shadle Park High.


Better than Ferris!

I'm an LC grad, in case that comment didn't cement that fact. laugh

The interesting thing is that I've heard men talk about the double standard and wanting women to ask them out or pay for dates or travel to see them, etc... But given that exact situation, they are often uncomfortable with the reality of a woman willing to do that. The means the double edged sword cuts both ways.

Rejection stinks no matter which way it's flying...


Word. That is all.

mathew420's photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:48 PM
LOL no I hate rejection as much as anyone. I meant the part about the women who know what they want and are willing to make the first move. laugh

no photo
Sat 08/01/09 05:49 PM
whuts an LC gradspock

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