I have seen personal attacks, many disguised a subtleties, as has been referred to here in this thread previously.

Expressing an opinion is well within forum guidelines, but making insulting/attacking remarks is not. Some folks are posting remarks purposelfully just under the radar of the rules and while they may not be directly against the forum rules, they are still discouraging to newbies, and not unnnoticed by the mods/Admin.

I was more subjected to underhanded planned attempts to exclude me rather than a whole lot of verbal abuse when i first came here. Of course i probably gave back more than i got and looked like the bad one. Sometimes new people come on here being abusive, or insulting, and some of us decide it will be fun to put these people in there place. Sometimes things do get said that are wrong, sometimes it is me that says them. Not always though, sometimes these people just get beat down with sense, and wit, and things dont always get personal. But it is always taken personally, by somebody or other.

Its just the dynamics of forums. Newbies and fools sometimes get a rough time. If one person doesnt step in, someone else will. There is no getting rid of it. But it does also need to be controlled, and thats why all of us who break the rules, new or old, get suspended from time to time. I dont think things are any worse here than anywhere else at all. That being said, sometimes we need to step back and think about how we are acting.

Well...things like that depend on a few factors that I cannot mention in a thread because that would be against the rules.

Have we learned anything, all we all enlightened now?

i don't see a problem with disagreeing with someone whether they are a newbie or not...

i mean would you rather we all sugarcoated and agreed with everything they said for their first week in a forum?

i will be completely kind and cordeal to someone whether they are new or not but i will not hold back my opinion in a place made for the expression of just that.

now if its being done just to be a bully and a jerk then there's a problem.

and that needs to be cut off.

Girl, you had me going for a minute there, geeezzz!!!! Teach me to come in at the end of a thread. I saw my name and thought "Who did I/we attack???" -- so had to read back a few pages. Phew!! All better now. I am thrilled to be included in the group that "ganged up" on you.

And I am so glad you did, hon!!

nah i wouldn't do that and i don't bash anyone but if i see they're about to get it,i will at least warn them and then i sit back and watch what happens

I don't attack people on here. I have, in the "olden days" before we had mods, broken up a few fights, but I come on here to have fun, not fight.

Expressing an opinion and/or disagreeing are worlds apart from "ganging up on a newbie" as is the topic of this thread. Expressing an opnion within the forum rules is not only condoned, but encouraged. "Ganging up' on a newbie or anyone else here is against the rules...period.

thats exactly what i was trying to say. :p lol

I have noticed though there are a select few on here that find that if you disagree with their opinion they immediately take it as a personal attack. I've since found myself avoiding threads with them even posting. in a perfect world, all opinion would be respected. but its not always like that.

but yes you said exactly what i was trying to say.

its unfair and wrong to pick on anyone like a freakin kid in a schoolyard. its like grow up.

lilbug you changed your pic! its cute. and i'm not just kissin mod @ss. lol

well i think u are all a bunch of bullies who constantly gang up and pick on me!

dont make me slap you with a fish lol

Oh cut that out or I will make you put on those chaps of yours and spank your tushy!!

see!!and me the quiet shy type too

ooooooooooo yummy

Noooo..............you look yummy in that pic......................















WHO SAID THAT????????????????????

who said that?????

I did!! But I think he --> encouraged me............

the devil, the devil - HAWT!