i'm not about that, but if the girl craves more, or is bi, and if it is done, it has to be in european style, and i think the woman should call all the shots, period....guys get too rambuctious, and screw it up. just my observations on others, but me? i don't care one way or the other for them, but my partner, when i have one, is more than enough to keep me occupied... i'm a one on one type of guy

I am crushed!

Open relationships are not my thing, but if you feel, for the moment, it works for both of you, then do it.
An open relationship IS a relationship, perhaps not a healthy one, but a relationship nevertheless.
The only so called "open" relationship I would have, and I would have to think about it, is to play together as a couple not individually.

This is one of those "don't read any comments...just post your gut reaction to the OP," and my gut is that open relationships are asking for trouble.

I know of only one "open relationship," and it's not really open. It consists of a woman who has been separated from her husband for going on 20 years now, and she's been involved with the same man for all that time. The same holds true for the husband in this situation. They have a pretty good bit of money that's tied up in the fact that they are married, and that's the only reason why they are still legally married.

For the most part, couples are playing Russian roulette when they seek to make their relationship open to others. It's just the first step down the slope to parting ways.

Open relationships are detrimental to the two adults, and they can be devastating to any kids stuck in the middle.

yikes! Was that for my post?

In this arrangement it sounds like your girl and you are really more only kind of room mates and last ditch sex partners than in a relationship.

Sooner or later one of you is going to find something you really want enough to step out of the only what feels good at the moment and one of you is going to end up ditched.

Maybe it will be and accidental pregnancy or contracting an STD or even something as simple as one or the other hitting a dry streak on the out side playmates while the other doesn't want to be bothered.

I am glad you are not personal friend of mine because I have seen how what wasn't a big deal gets to be giganticly so.

The incedential variables you seem to be ignoreing don't always play by the "rules" that make you happy.

My first gut instinct says STD'S, and I don't care if you think you are using protection because we all know it's not 100%. An open relationship to me is not treasuring each other and it just seems a bit selfish. I'm all for honesty, and I guess to each his own.

no it was for ppl in open relationships

You're both grown up and can make that decision. PERSONALLY, I could never 'allow' my man to be intimate with anyone else while we were together. Just me. To each their own.

How refreshing! What a man you are!

If it works for you then go for it. I believe a majority of people do not want to be in this type of arrangement. I do not think people are outraged ( I think the word is too strong) but just do not want this kind of relationship.

Sorry, not my cup of tea.. Best of luck to you is all I can say...

for the vast majority of people, sexual intimacy as lovemaking requires total personal commitment for it to be satisfying,
emotionally safe and secure. this is also what i need to be really
happy - a one on one relationship with that total commitment.

i have seen some couples who do appear to have a very strong
commitment to each other but who share an interest in sexual
escapades with other couples or individuals by mutual consent
and who do not get terribly jealous or have their open relationship
wreck their close bond. in fact, their mutual interest in multiple
sexual partners is a big part of their bond. in some cases these
people are even polyamorous - having multiple lovers with
commitment to each other. this is exceedingly rare and does not
work at all for the vast majority of people. even for most of those
who think it is going to work for them.

however, if you are one of these rare couples then you will find
others who share your interest - they will be few and far between
in the general population so your best bet is likely to be through the swingers community where all of the people involved already have an open attitude towards multiple sexual partners.

personally i am straight and serially monogamous but i understand that dubz is potentially up for a new experience.

I think it ok to have ane open date i ben dump tease and name called somany time it ok to have and meet new people

If you are genuinely "okay" in an open relationship, then it really doesn't matter what other people think of that scenario. As long as you are honest (and safe) with your partner and with any other partner you may have and nobody has expectations of more...

One other question I have. if this is such a great thing and you are secure in the relationship and you are sure nothing is going to go wrong, then why are you asking us? I think there may be some underlying issue that you need to have answered. you may want to work that out before continuing in this type of relationship. If it is right you do not need others to confirm it.

You shouldn't wonder what other peoples opinion of this is.
The question is how do you feel about it. People have no right to be outraged or opinionated about someone else doing what is confortable to them.

Everyone has a diffrent comfort zone and view.
Me personally I don't do open relationships because I like exclusivitity between me and a proper m8.

JERRY!!! JERRY!!! JERRY!!!

s1owhand ~~~~~~ what he said...