Umm...you're a guy and she really hates guys right now.

I feel so useless ugh >.<

yeah that's what i'm thinking

Great minds think alike.

Just give her her space. Respect what she wants. That's a large part of any relationship- just friends or dating or whatever. If you can't respect me, we can't deal with each other at all. If she's hurting right now, she needs to deal with that, she doesn't need another guy coming at her for whatever reason, and totally ignoring what she wants/needs. She knows you care for her, she knows she can count on you. Give her what the other guy didn't and let her heal.

What more can I do?

You're not listening to anyone. You're asking for advice, and we're giving it, but either you're not getting it or you're ignoring it. There is nothing you can do. How would you feel if you were in a bad situation and asked to be left alone and a "friend" totally disregarded your wishes because they wanted something else? I'm not trying to be mean here, but you asked for advice, and we all gave it, basically telling you to back off, and now it's up to you.

Either respect what she wants, or totally disregard her feelings because of what you want. It's up to you. Good luck with what you come up with.

there is no real easy answer. Without knowing her myself, giving advice is tricky as everyone should be treated as the individual they are.
If, after the three days, she wants you to be part of her life, nice one. If the amswer is a flat 'no', then i'm afraid you really should move on (I know thats not what you want to hear, but you will make it worse if you persist.
If, on the other hand, she is uncertain, then give her breathing space. Definatly let her know that you're there for her, but do not push too hard (see above).
Emotions are tricky, and, as i've said, each person is different. Hope this helps

CleanBathroom said it well here:


You seem well-intended but I wouldn't force the issue by using the aforementioned "plan." I'd just give her my number and tell her to fire off a call whenever she wants to talk/vent, etc. Let her know you really hope she calls but want to respect her need for some space.

If she wants you, she'll call.

Ill give her some space ^_^
Sorry, I'm just a bit distressed...forgive me.

SAY WHAT!!!! her mother.. omg... i would disown my own mom..THATS GROSS

yeah it is

This is the duality or paradox of the chivalry issue.Your noble desire to "save" her could be your downfall.SLOW YOURSELF!

People that want to save other people are considered to be co-dependent. Just saying.

I am...
Ill slow down and just let it slide for now.
Sorry for sounding like I was ignoring anyone.
Thank you all.

Leave,

It's okay, I've been in a situation sortof like that- well not exactly of course, but I wanted one thing and the guy wanted another and I keep trying to insert myself in his life and I only made it worse. So I learned not to do that anymore. I really do hope it works out for everyone in the end.

Just live your life.

Help her when she needs help IF she asks.

When she is ready.

She just might.

Make sure you help her AS a friend.

Cause if your ever going to be with her you need that first.

well said

The girl said she doesn't want a man in her life. She should have been saying she didn't want a man in her...PERIOD! This is a lot of drama. She probably doesn't want you around because she doesn't want you to get killed! Run for your life. Find someone without the baggage.