Mr. whatssuup...

So Why is it that the Only Guys I'm Attracted to Live in Calgary?!?!?
WTF is Wrong with this Picture?!?!?

Each man is different as to their own individual desires. What one needs the other might not need. You want to satisfy him show him how to meet your needs. Each guy is gifted in one way or another. The more of your needs that he can meet the happier he is. With that said the more you nit pick and complain and complain he will start to look else where not because he has a desire to cheat but because he will feel that he will never be able to meet your needs. Honest and trustworthy men often will end a relationship prior to starting this. But unfortunately a lot of people are not honest and trustworthy. So to sum it up to meet your needs is one of the main desire of any man. Most issues they have revolve around this.

I cannot stand female arrogance and conceit.

THAT RARE, PRECIOUS "GEM"...
I am very strongly attracted to a woman who possesses what I call "an aura of gentleness". Her sweet and gentle nature is so evident as to surround her like an aura. I have met such women, possessing great beauty (of many colors, sizes, etc.) though not spoiled by it, resisting societal pressures to be arrogant and conceited. Were they angels in disguise, to have such stern command over their attitudes? Such an "angel" welcomes the statement by a man who claims he "worships" her...another kind of woman will warn him she is in no way deserving of worship (if he is lucky). Hey, at least she's honest there. A wise man will take the hint...

"LOSERS VS. QUALITY":
I recently saw a column on a very popular site, displaying yet another supposed "dating expert", mentioning, "losers" (but meaning, "guys with low paying jobs), and "quality guys" (meaning men with high-paying jobs) primarily.
Hey, ladies, I understand this completely. Most women, certainly, and big-busted women, especially, are tired of being seen as sex objects (unless, as SOME women see it, this leads to a hook-up with a "quality guy"...).
But guess what? MEN are tired of being seen as a meal-ticket, a stepping-stone, etc.

SEX...MORE VERSATILE FOR THE WOMAN?
A MAN can use a WOMAN "for just one thing", sure.
A WOMAN can use a MAN for MANY THINGS.
Ironically, sex is the ONLY THING where there is a mutual trade...sex for sex. However, as a baby or STD can result, and while, traditionally, a man must REQUEST SEX, while all a woman has to do is SNAP HER FINGERS ("Hey, big boy! Come and get it!), it may be fortuitous that a woman can afford to be choosy.
However, this power to choose can be the "absolute power that corrupts absolutely".
"The hand that rocks the cradle, rocks the world."
So true...oh, so true.
WISE men know this, and secretly tremble.
Ladies, you may loose your fiery darts now...

IS THERE HOPE FOR ANY OF US?
SOMEWHERE between the proverbial "gold-digger", and the "womanizer" are people WHO WILL find TRUE LOVE. But it takes stamina, and a thick skin. And sometimes, a man or woman who has been proactive in his/her search for too long, needs to just sit back, rely on themselves for a sense of self-esteem, and allow fate to intervene, as far as finding true love goes. This is where I'm at right about now; so to, IMHO, for many minglers.

"DO-IT-YOURSELF" COMPLETENESS...
You have to be willing to "complete" yourself. You can do this. If the person you eventually find is considered to be he/she that "completes" you, imagine the gaping, bloody hole in your heart which will result when/if they are suddenly gone, SINCE YOU HAD NOT FIRST COMPLETED YOURSELF?

It was a re-occuring subject, back in my bar-hopping days: when you're NOT LOOKING, that's when they'll find YOU.

There is a very good book that covers this subject (as well as what women want) called "The Rad Queen" (sex and the evolution of human nature) By Matt Ridly. I'll attempt to condence it down to a few words. But, you may not like it.

Every emotion we have is there for one of two reasons.

1. To help us to survive as long as we can.

2. To help us to find a good mate and give birth to the next generation.

Men are therefore programed (by evolution) to be attracted to women that will likely bare them healthy children. These include a hip to waist ratio of 0.7 to 1, long thick hair, clear eyes etc.

Even if a man doesn't want children, he is still attracted to women with the above traits. It is his nature.

Looks are much more important to men than they are to most women. Men generaly do not care about how good you are at your job or how much money you make or your artistic ability. We simply want a woman to have sex with that won't drive us crazy.

I would rather have a woman that was natural, than with fake boobs or Botox. I think woman do that for there own self esteem.

They do!!

I have a lot of male friends

They ALL hate implants!!!

NOW hold on there little lady,,,,,,,,,,lol
I;m a friend, and I could NEVER hate ANY HOOTERS....wink..
Real or fake, THEY are a part of that person, and to like or love
that whole being, to my eyes, THEIR ALL, is worth seeing.

So be them fake, real, big or small, this man here.
LOVES THEM ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!wink,lol

Well my male freinds ALL say.....

In the sex dept

They don't feel good. But if your in love you can look past that

But they say sex is better when they are real

LOL,ok,,,first off,,I'd say ya got some real deep THINKERS there,wink,lol
But to me,,thats also to piercing the tounge ADDS to the sensual sensations of oral play,,, lol

NOT ON MY END,,,lol It makes me feel IT MIGHT SNAG!!!

And to SAY real boobs make real sex FEEL BETTER is like NUTS to me,,,as MANY ladies only have so much sensations of pleasure through their breasts, the rest comes from below and through actions of words and ways,,but (in my experiences) NOT a BIG DEAL to her breasts being real or not,,,to the MAN FEELING or HAVING A GREATER ORGASIAM????? Irrelevant in MY MIND...
In THAT philosophy a woman who had both breast removed would not find sex exciting anymore...right?


BUT,,,,I LOVE POLLS,,,,,
COME ON PEOPLE,,,,,TELL US your views to this.....??

No the guys said they just didn't feel good to them

That's all

They didn't get all deep onto it

I don't think they're capable of gettin to deep wink.

(just kidding boys! )

OHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, well now THAT'S A VERY deep dependency
or a shallow way of THINKING,,,lol




DAMN,im GOOD,,,,wink,lol

Terry

Sometimes ya make me think....

Even when I don't want to!!!!!

[edit] :)

Is THAT really a BAD thing???lol

ANYTIME I can make a young lady THINK,,,,,

I NEED a drink,,,,,,, lol,lol


Just don't ever let me pisssss ya off,,,cause,,if I affend,,,,I didn't write it RIGHT,or you read ME wrong,wink,,,lol
I sometimes have hit folks the wrong way,,,so know,
I AM FULL OF SHlT, wink and then ,,,READ me,,,lol,lol,lol

There is a woman at my gym...I find her strikingly attractive. Short, wavy dark hair, bright, green eyes...AND NO BREASTS WHATSOEVER. NONE. NADA. ZERO.
But she has an INCREDIBLE derierre (spellcheck?)
She came around the corner abruptly as I was lifting weights one day...dressed in a very classy red suit. I just stopped and stared at her.
One day she was walking up the stairs (metal grating stairs), and I could look through them directly at her overhead as she walked. She looked right back at me...we looked deep into each others' eyes, until she finally disappeared, reaching the floor above.
O-M-G...major, major attraction.
But then there's the little issue of the giant rock on her finger...
...which was absent today, as she climbed atop an exercise machine right in front of me as I was stretching.
Was she trying to indicate her availability?
Sounds like trouble brewing, right?
>SIGH< If the ring doesn't reappear, I will have to be satisfied with a furtive glance in her direction every now and then. If her ex is indeed an ex, he likely works out at this gym, as well.
I don't care for any drama.
POINT: I AM ABSOLUTELY CAPTIVATED BY A WOMAN WHOSE CHEST IS NO BIGGER THAN MY OWN.
But she got some junk in 'dat trunk!

Good for you!!

Ladies show those butts!!! LOL.



Jk

I may not be a man, but what I think a man wants would be for a woman to make him feel free. In my opinion, a woman should make her man feel like a man, and when a woman makes her man feel like he has freedom, then why would he look anywhere else, freedom to be himself, freedom to explore the life that he wants and when he has that freedom in a serious relationship, most likely he will want to share that freedom with the woman he is with.

Am I off base? or is there some truth to it?

maybe for some guys but often if a guy wants freedom why is he in a relationship. keeping a relationship growing takes work. add sex and it gets more complicated. Make him feel like he meets all your needs or teach him how to and he will not stray. when he cant satisfy your needs he feels like a failure and often will look for someone whose needs he can satisfy. Now some men may not admit this. others may not even be aware of this. So what is important is watch for the reaction. if you can train a dog, you can train a guy. if you are happy to see him when you see him he is not going to leave. but if you complain and whine all the time when you first see him well he just may start looking elsewhere because its obvious to him you are not happy that he is there. think about it.

If you don't know the answer by now , you will never know

BEAUTIFUL, PATIENT, UNDERSTANDING FEMALE ALIENS WALK AMONG US!
...and you're not taken? Are there more like you? Where? IMHO, many of us ming-men would love to know!

WOMEN CAN EASILY BE MADE TO FEEL IGNORED...
It seems a woman is so easily threatened by her mans' "extracurricular" interests...and I don't mean other women.
I've noticed this in as simple a scenario as me inserting earplugs so as to listen to my iPod. Inevitably, though there are several people inside the car, the woman chooses to speak with ME, consistently, just minutes after I insert the earplugs.

THOU SHALT NOT IGNORE THY FEMALE...OR THERE'S HELL TO PAY!
If a man is restoring an old car...it seems that soon, this car becomes an object of contention.
If a man is an artist, and attempts to paint, this, too, becomes an object of contention.
Even his hunting dog is not safe.
And televised football? Oh, that's a hot button issue there...
Granted, a man can get so involved in something he's into, tuning out everything, and everyone, including his wife/GF.
But again, as I mentioned before...

WIRING OF MEN AND WOMEN 101...
THIS IS THE WAY WE'RE WIRED...WE SUPPLY THE DRIVE TO GET FROM POINT "A", TO POINT "B" (the beginning of the game, to the end...)
Women, and this is just a theory, may not be so adept at tuning out everthing other than the interest at hand. Again...
WOMEN ARE DETAIL-ORIENTED...every point from point "A", to point "B"...and not necessarily issues associated with the game on TV.

THEN THERE'S THE DRAMA...
Therefore, conflict can arise. "Honey, why don't you come watch the game with me?" "But I don't like football...", she says. He replies, "Well, do you mind if I watch it?" This thin layer of patience can only stretch so far, burdened further with every passing weekend in the Fall of the year.

AH...THE BLISS! ONE WHO FINALLY UNDERSTANDS! I SHALL LAY FRUIT AND FLOWERS AT YOUR FEET, MY GODDESS!
Deterring this conflict may be as simple as remembering how men and women are each "wired" differently, SO THEY ACTUALLY FIT.
You seem to be on to this. Good for you!
You're covering your 50% investment quite well. Now, it's up to HIM to offer his own 50%.
You're on your way to a very blissful experience with a newfound soulmate!