Recently I have discovered that I move too fast. Not only with my
feeling but physically. I like a guy, we hit it off, we kiss, and then
bam were skrewing before we even know each others last names. Why when
it feels right is it so wrong and makes a bad immage for yourself?

Because most people have a desire for instant gratification.

If you are only looking for sexual gratification..go for it..but use
protection.

If you are looking for something different..perhaps slow down.

Only you get to choose how fast you travel.

well not only pleasure but someone to be with. Why is it so bad to have
sex so soon. Does it really end the whole prospect of a relationship?

Honey, don't feel bad. I've done it too. We all have. Just don't do
like one of my friends did and just be learning each other's names IN
THE MIDDLE OF SEX....

and you can take it as slow as you want. I've had to make myself decide
that if they can't get at least a promise ring on my hand they aren't
gettin sh*t from me. If they are truely worth your time, they will wait
till ur ready.

Test your self..No sex for three months with a guy you are dating...and
don't tell him.

Make the decision....see what happens...and just say no..when things
start warming up..

Never know..you may meet someone who respects you for you..and not what
you have in your pants.

I hate to tell ya that don't work... I tried it. He still waited around
till he got what he wanted then left. I'm sayin hold out for some kind
of ring, even as small as a promise ring. If they are willing to make a
promise then they probably aren't goin anywhere. Just make sure to tell
them not to make any promises they can't keep.

yep,doesn't need no rush.You always need to know the other person better
before to move to something else ,and if you really like that
person,you need to know how to keep him around you,if you don't and you
just go straight to bed with him,the next day he will not even call
you,or anything and he will be gone forever,and you will still be asking
yourself what did i done wrong to lose him .

If you have ANY doubt, leave.

Men are easy to find, self respect isn't.

<<<Puts on a flak vest.

i agree with that transientmind.thats very true.

Girl, I have been like you for a very long time, I completely understand
where you are coming from. You need to adopt a new attitude about
YOURSELF. Realize its not the sex you're looking for, its the
companionship. Yes, sex is nice, but not as important as you feel about
YOU. Let yourself be JUST friends with a guy for a while, then transit
into something else if it will be that... let yourself have a few male
friends who you know you can count on. That will help. Can I guess you
grew up without a father or with one who wasn't maybe there for you
alot? cus you sound SO MUCH like me its uncanny.

their is no set speed.

When a police car pulls up behide you with his/her lights on and the
dail say 175

Do you have Yahoo girl? I really think we could get farther with this
conversation chatting one on one cus I I really do get the really deep
and painful feelings you are having about this issue.

MY OPINION IS YOU NEED TO DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT TO YOU IF YOU WANT TO GO
ALL THE WAY THEN DO IT,BUT IF YOU ARE NOT SURE DONT .IF A GUY CANT WAIT
UNTIL YOU ARE READY THEN YOU NEED TO ASK YOUR SELF WHATS SO GREAT ABOUT
HIM, IF HES SO GREAT HE WOULD WANT YOUR FIRST TIME TO BE SOME THING
GREAT AND NOT A WAM BAM THANK YOU MAM KINDA THING . NOT ALL GUYS ARE OUT
FOR SEX SOME OF US ARE ACTUALY LOOKING FOR MORE THAN JUST SEX I KNOW I
AM SO THERE HAS TO BE MORE GUYS WHO WANT MORE THAN SEX . ALL I CAN IS
YOU CANT BE HAPPY WITH YOUR SELF IF YOU CANT BE HONEST WITH YOUR SELF .

... your motorbike stops when you hit a barrier and you dont!