Yeah I'm out too...had enough of a couple. Good luck in your decisions.

Kudos to you.

your child has the right to have child support whether you want to be with her dad or not. even if you don't need the money...it would be good to put it in a savings account for her. the courts will do everything...but YOU have to file. if you don't then you can't blame anyone but yourself. Just like condoms aren't 100% and both should have known that....JMO

The only reason you got jumped on so bad is because you grouped men in this. We all respect your opinion. And are here if you need advice on something. Not trying to sound crappy here but you should have just used your ex instead of all babies daddys.

I feel bad this thread went the way it did. But some of us take offense to how you worded it.

I hope you file for child support you baby deserves it and it will help you out. raising a child isnt easy and you need all the help you can get.

I hope things work out for you.

Didn't bother to read the thread....

Kids....really good pressure cooked....meat falls right off the bone....

You know I am just kidding.

Of course I only sell my kids into slavery....30 to 80 grand a pop so don't judge me harshly.

only you krupa only you

I know and to any men who are providing, professing, and protecting, big thumbs WAY up too you.

I am just still very bitter towards him.

I understand you being bitter toward this guy...but I know there are a lot of GREAT dads here....do what is best for your child. I know you love her and you seem to be a good mom. go for child support because she will need it sooner or later. if anything....save it for her and it will help her when she graduates HS....don't forget when she is 16 too. Good luck and fight for yours and your daughters rights

The thing is, I never saw her blame anyone but the guy. First words out of her mouth were FOR EXAMPLE and she talked about her own situation. It was the men in here that tore out on a rant. I really need to stop reading now!

I'll learn to get over it, I'll find a great guy willing to love both my daughter and I.

Heres to all the good men!

Wow reading through this thread people were very harsh. I am sure she understands and admits to her negligence.. but at the same time she is looking for support and understanding ... , But to sit here and point the finger at her, like she was to blame in all this, or had a shared responsibility is nothing but pure BS . . . Who is supporting her child, nourishing her, tucking her in at night, Who is emotionally and physically involved in babies life . . . Her mother (lfer) . . . She is doing what she has to for her daughter and I am quite sure she will travel around the world and back again . . . until you have walked a day in someone else’s shoes you should not judge nor cast the first stone... She was just probably venting out her frustration and I can agree 100% I was in the same situation.. I agree all men are not that way, but a handful is, so maybe that should have been rephrased... The best thing I can say is, you have two option’s either file with your local child support enforcement agency, or cut all ties, But I believe every child deserves a father in their life... But also remember any boy can be a father but it takes a special person to be a daddy.... I understand right now you are angry with him, but you just have to let all the hostility go for the sake of your daughter, if you chose to have him in her life or he chooses so, find a common ground, and call it a day.....

thank you!

your welcome hun... From one single mami to another

Sorry for being over judgemental and harsh Laura

You know my feelings laura through our emails. You need to build your strengths to overcome the feelings and emotions and take those strengths to perservere into succeeding fully. Your daughter deserves no less.

Exactly. She said what happened to her. She did say that the guys who get women pregnant should help take responsibility. If a guy has done that and helps support their child, they're not in that group. Nowhere did she say all men are like that. Wow.. some people here are really quick to judge without really reading first.

i'm still waiting for all my DNA results to come back but i still don't think that little Nigerian kid is mine!

I just read this while thread.

Lfer, I don't understand why you are so hesitate to go to the Division of Family Services and file for child support. That's all you have to do. They do the rest of the work.

well put..