Still trying to solve this farce you call a relationship.I thought you might have took up the advice you received in the other thread you posted, from numerous people and got rid of this guy.You obviously like to play the victim and the person punishing you is yourself.This will go on and on and on until one of you decides enough is enough

Kiena, why in the world are you still with him? He's a class A, number1, self-centered, egotistical user, and you deserve better than that. Kick him to the curb b4 you get seriously hurt, or preg with his baby, or some other unsavory consequence that you will have to deal with. Really, there are nice guys out there, and it sounds like the best way for you to find one is to learn how to be happy with who you are without a man. Especially a man like that.

Same crap, different day.
Do you really want to be raising someone's kids while he plays with the ex? It makes absolutely no sense that they had to go together while you watched HIS children. You are going to have to grow up and take control of your life. Unless this is the life you wish for. If it is, you have no right to be mad about it.

You are being taken advantaged of and It's not fair to you

Doesn't want sex with you + disappears with ex for 12 hours = ?

I'm horrible at math, but even I can do those numbers. Is being in a so-called relationships and therefore not alone really worth sacrificing your self respect?

Here here !



And Lilith... you are so right, the common denominator in each thread Kiena has made has been HERSELF.

(((((((((Kiena))))))))))

Does anyone here remember when you too, were in love....

in that very first relationship....

and then when you asked for help ....

you too were just bombarded with advice.......

with no compassion showing whatsoever?

Remember?

Thank you.


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You're welcome


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i do remember. and i wish someone would have sat me down and slapped the sh!t out of me until i came to me senses. it seems as if the first love is a lot like brain washing. sometimes you need to be tormented until you start thinking clearly.
(reminds me of indiana jones and the temple of doom when they made him drink that blood concoction and he ended up in a trance like state. the only way out was when the kid burned him with a torch.)


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I too made my mistakes with bad relationships when I was young. And looking back, I would have much rather had someone hit me between the eyes with the truth and hurt me short term than "enable" me with sympathy and let me stay in a dysfunctional situation.

Hmmmm... yes lets all hold hands and sing Kumbyah...

or not.


'Enabling' is the most vicious, cruel and egotistical thing a person can do towards another..it's controlling behaviour, and shows very clearly how little one really feels for another.

Jess....You said in an earlier post....

that if your guy dumped you in the middle of a road,

that you would stay in that relationship anyway.

Cause you love him.

Right Jess?

So..are there finger pointings going on here..because some of us

are actually facing a similar situation?

As Kiena's?

And so perhaps it's easier for us to accuse and point out the situation

someone else is in....

rather than to deal with our own situation?

(((MorningSong))) you are always so sweet and kind and truly deserve nothing but the best of everything...

The problem is the Kiena is only 20 and most of us have done or made crazy mistakes at that age... I wonder how old this guy is...


The truth is that Lilith, Jess, Drew and most everyone that has posted is right.. People will only do to you what YOU let them... If you do not value yourself, why should anyone else? To value yourself does not mean that you sacrafice others (as your boyfriend seems to be doing very well at by sacraficing you!)... To value yourself means to not let others treat you like sh*t, to mistreat you, take advantage of you, etc.

The hard sad truth is he doesn't want to be with you, he wants to use you.. I know you don't want to hear it and it may sound harsh but if a man or woman wants to be with someone else then they are WITH THEM.. They do not use them as babysitters while they're with their EX... They do not refuse sex to someone they are with and SHOULD BE attracted too... There is nothing in all that you've shared that shows or says "RESPECT!".. If you can't be respected by the person you're with or even friends then you don't respect yourself b/c you're letting people treat you disrespectfully...

I wish you luck and pray that you wake up before you end up pregnant and alone once or more times and before you waste the best years of your life lacking confidence and not loving yourself...

You have every right to be pissed. I had a similiar experience with my ex husband where he stayed 2 hours after I left, chatting with his ex wife at a party. I waited outside when he came home escorted him the car (teenager inside home) and preceeded to tear into him. The basic moral I told him..."If you want to socialize with your EX, ya should have stayed married to her!" He never did that again! Getting along with an ex for the sake of the kids is important but socializing....uhhhhhhhh no. If it were me...I would dump him. He seems to using you as a babysitter and comfortable place to stay. No one who loved you would treat you this way.

That's the funniest dribble I ever read. Thanks for all the self induced drama. Its like watching a weekly episode of 'My name is earl'. Must not want to change it because you love this perpetual drama. On and on. Over and over. Step back. Put yourself in our shoes. And read your dramalife with the "clown fiance". Its frickin funny! Thanks!

He's 29.

wake up he banged her please r u dumb ?????lol

Ahh that explains and verifies some of what I was thinking...

"At 11 am my boyfriend tells me that he has to run watch his kids while his ex gets her tongue pierced."


This old Indian say boyfriend speak with forked tongue.