I am kinda talking to a guy that drove an hour to see me last Saturday, and then turned around and wanted to take me on a lake trip on his boat Tuesday evening. We got back yesterday, and when he dropped me off, he immediately text me and thanked me for the trip. Before all this, I was kind of stand-offish and told him I wasn't really looking for much...he told me he was wanting a relationship. Then we decided to just keep an open mind when we met last Saturday, and then go from there. During our ride home yesterday, I actually asked him if he would like to remain friends, and he told me he had enough friends, that he still wanted more, so IDK if that's something he was just telling me, or what. I haven't heard from him yet today, though he was supposed to be busy all day working on something. If he's into me, shouldn't he be trying to talk to me every chance he gets? Or am I completely off? Just looking for some opinions... If I DON'T hear from him today, should I just shrug it off that maybe he WASN'T so into me? Ahh!

sounds like you were playing him

It seems to me that you made it clear that you weren't into him. So don't be surprised if you don't hear from him.

talk about mood swings

either you want to pursue it or you don't...make up your mind

poor guy he probbally really liked you to,


gotta love the games

I don't care how "into me" a guy gets, but constant phone calls are simply annoying and obsessive. He said he wants more. You said "let's be friends". Even if he's into you, if you won't be more than another friend, he'll be working his way to be "out of you".

Are you thinking you would like a realtionship with him now?

Sounds like he is looking for that....if you told him that you only want to be friends......that may have made him quit talking to you.

But then he is busy today....most guys who are looking for more, and you tell them the "friendsonly" thing will start looking else where.

Good luck!

When he said he wanted more than friends how did you respond?

OK, just going to ignore the caddy replies that i'm playing games. This was a genuine question, wanted a mature answer. OK, about this, yes, at first I was just letting him know basically I didn't wanna jump into anything, but it didn't stop him from wanting to take me out. He should know i'm interested in him, or I would not have gone on the trip.

I said, alright. I mean, this was just a question feeling him out during the end of our time together. I was letting him know "I" would be fine w/that if that's what he wanted.

You said you just wanted to be friends. So, why would you be worried if he's just not that into you?

And maybe he's not playing any games. Maybe he really is busy working on something.

I'm a little confused. Do you want him to be a friend or be seriously into you? You said both?

So you have never gone on a trip with a friend ?

Then just call or text him and let him know you are thinking about him.

This isn't rocket science. He put himself out there, shared his feelings. You agreed to go for it, why does he have to chase you?

I do not carry anyone's golf clubs!!!!

No, I asked 'HIM'.

No, I don't expect him to chase me at all...but proven fact men scare away easier than women...I don't want to feel I am coming on too strong. I'll probably just take my own advice and if I don't hear from him all day, text him tonight and let him know i'm thinking of him. Thanks everyone.

maybe it's better this way, because he may realize that you might hurt him in the long run if he stays. it would be like trying to sail a sunken boat, he would like you as a friend, but we've all been down that road, where we like someone, and they just kinda like us, if you know what i mean, and eventually you get hurt, because they are still looking for greener grass, and won't settle....like you are....if the "one", comes along, you'll stop looking, correct?

ALSO, that's why I kind of wanted a 'man's' advice. You guys know when a girl bothers you or not...When it's nice to hear from her and when is 'too much'