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When first meeting someone I don't like it. It's a respect thing for me. Once I get to know someone I don't mind the affectionate little names. As a matter of fact, I use them occasionally when I'm close to someone.
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I always get called hon...around here it seems to be akin to bye, but then again around here everyone speaks english on a first grade level so I can't go very far with it. Still find it f* strange though.
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Pet name don't bother me at all... I grew up around it. However, it can be a little overbearing... I do have a name too..
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Sometimes can you tell by facial expressions if they are taking down no matter what they call you ?
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Edited by
quiet_2008
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Mon 02/23/09 07:13 AM
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I wouldn't worry about it sugar.
In Texas its a common thing to call people sugar or hon or sweetie. It doesn't mean anything and most people saying it would get their feelers hurt if they knew it was offensive I was raised to say ma'am and use it for women in general regardless of age. even my little sister is a ma'am to me |
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Edited by
lovethelord
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Mon 02/23/09 07:12 AM
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Are there any women out there who feel this way? When I meet a man online for a relationship, him calling me "Dear" or "Hon", feels like he's talking down to me. I HATE it when it comes from the mouth of a women... I want to smack her even if its in a resuarant from the server. 
After I get to know you I dont mind... I like being playful etc..  ( guys that is.. )
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I think some of this is from how each of us were taught to be respectful as we grew up Have you noticed as the man is older he is more respectful? uses terms of endearment differently then his younger counterparts? Our society has become one of abuses in our language and terms. look how most younger people talk now? Remember valley speak? ebonics? gangster/ the list goes on and its about shock effect....
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I wouldn't worry about it sugar. In Texas its a comman thing to call people sugar or hon or sweetie. It doesn't mean anything and most people saying it would get their feelers hurt if they knew it was offensive I was raised to say ma'am and use it for women in general regardless of age. even my little sister is a ma'am to me Exactly |
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Are there any women out there who feel this way? When I meet a man online for a relationship, him calling me "Dear" or "Hon", feels like he's talking down to me. Nope. But 'dear' tends to be a term older guys use where 'hon' or 'baby' is younger. It's all in the tone .. and ya you can read a 'tone' online as well .. |
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well seeing as how im very big on using "pet names" for even strangers..especially at work. and Ive been taught to say yes sir or yes ma'am....
i cant possibly get offended by somebody using them for me. or even flattered actually..unless names are used repeatively by the same person. |
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BTW, "Ma'am" or "Miss" are not an insult anywhere that I know of. They are respectful. Tell that to New Yorkers. I offended lots of people up there by using Ma'am. Maybe because it sounds like you're referring to someone older? |
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The only term of this sort that bugs me a bit is 'Dear' cause I do think often it is used in a manner of talking down to or putting someone in their place.
The others, hon, sweetie, babe, etc., I consider the source and that determines how they make me feel. |
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I see it the same way as using a nickname too soon. Say I introduce myself as Emily to someone and immediately they turn around and start calling me Em. Nicknames are reserved for people who have gotten to know me.
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I see it the same way as using a nickname too soon. Say I introduce myself as Emily to someone and immediately they turn around and start calling me Em. Nicknames are reserved for people who have gotten to know me. I agree Em  
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I see it the same way as using a nickname too soon. Say I introduce myself as Emily to someone and immediately they turn around and start calling me Em. Nicknames are reserved for people who have gotten to know me. I agree Em
If I've known someone a while in the forums and/or emailed them some, it's fine. It's the complete strangers who do it that bug me  .
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Are there any women out there who feel this way? When I meet a man online for a relationship, him calling me "Dear" or "Hon", feels like he's talking down to me. I think I've only been referred to as "Hon" or "Dear" by elderly women in a sweet way, and not sure that I've ever run into it in a dating scenario. Maybe it's the age group I'm in, not sure....?
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BTW, "Ma'am" or "Miss" are not an insult anywhere that I know of. They are respectful. Tell that to New Yorkers. I offended lots of people up there by using Ma'am. Maybe because it sounds like you're referring to someone older? Well it's not my fault they took it the wrong way. I was raised to say Ma'am and Sir when I addressed adults as a means of respect, not as an insult. And for me and I'm sure as well as others, when a person addresses you in that way, 9 times out of 10, it's pretty safe for me to assume that they are doing it out of respect because that is how they were raised. |
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BTW, "Ma'am" or "Miss" are not an insult anywhere that I know of. They are respectful. Tell that to New Yorkers. I offended lots of people up there by using Ma'am. Maybe because it sounds like you're referring to someone older? Well it's not my fault they took it the wrong way. I was raised to say Ma'am and Sir when I addressed adults as a means of respect, not as an insult. And for me and I'm sure as well as others, when a person addresses you in that way, 9 times out of 10, it's pretty safe for me to assume that they are doing it out of respect because that is how they were raised. I probably wouldn't get mad about it if someone called me ma'am, but I might laugh about it and ask how old they thought I was. I'd probably never call someone my age ma'am. |
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I'm from the South & usually call everyone "Babe" or "Hon"...it's part of my vernacular. If it offends someone, I try to remember it & refrain...but I also think there are better things to complain about. Krupa is right..."b!tch" or "ho" would be much more distressing...
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Edited by
quiet_2008
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Mon 02/23/09 07:53 AM
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"Heyyyyyy, don't call the ho's b*tches"
-Boyz n the Hood |
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