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Topic: "Hon" and "Dear" terms
Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Mon 02/23/09 07:55 AM
I see it the same way as using a nickname too soon. Say I introduce myself as Emily to someone and immediately they turn around and start calling me Em. Nicknames are reserved for people who have gotten to know me. I agree Em If I've known someone a while in the forums and/or emailed them some, it's fine. It's the complete strangers who do it that bug me . I know .. just bein silly

LindaJL56 Joined Wed 01/21/09 Posts: 3387	Mon 02/23/09 08:31 AM
This has become quite the topic and I'm glad we're all understanding. The way I see it is if you want to be respectful, use their name until you've talked to them a bit.

Zargata Joined Mon 02/23/09 Posts: 8	Mon 02/23/09 08:34 AM
I have to agree, those terms over the internet are just kinda freaky.

LindaJL56 Joined Wed 01/21/09 Posts: 3387	Mon 02/23/09 08:38 AM
it all comes down to respect, whether just meeting for conversation ro a poss. relationship.

quiet_2008 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 11138	Mon 02/23/09 08:39 AM
I wouldn't worry about it hon

LindaJL56 Joined Wed 01/21/09 Posts: 3387	Mon 02/23/09 08:49 AM
I'm not

DragonFlyTat Joined Fri 08/29/08 Posts: 3759	Mon 02/23/09 09:19 AM
That drives me crazy when they say it all the time at convenience stores when getting a fountain drink or getting gas. You don't know me like that so please don't speak to me in such a fashion as if you do.

LindaJL56 Joined Wed 01/21/09 Posts: 3387	Thu 03/05/09 07:17 AM
I guess I wouldn't be so freaked if it was a little old lady who said it. If you're trying to attract me, it'll be like a bull and a red cape. Not much fun.

DragonFlyTat Joined Fri 08/29/08 Posts: 3759	Thu 03/05/09 07:29 AM
I would hope they get to know me first before they started talking to me like that however people from different parts of the states have different usuage of language. It isn't uncommon for someone from down south to call someone hun or honey.

LindaJL56 Joined Wed 01/21/09 Posts: 3387	Thu 03/05/09 07:34 AM
I agree. People in Indiana do it too. I guess I'd have to consider the visual age and if there was a smile with it.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 03/05/09 12:06 PM
Are there any women out there who feel this way? When I meet a man online for a relationship, him calling me "Dear" or "Hon", feels like he's talking down to me. I like to be called poochie coochie.......

chevylover1965 Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 43370	Thu 03/05/09 12:07 PM
darlin' and hun .... are just the way people talk around here ! not trying to belittle some one ????

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 03/05/09 12:11 PM
or I would like to be called " you little chalupa"

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Thu 03/05/09 12:12 PM
you think dear and hun is bad, how about, females, that say stupid things, like U IZ FINE AZZZ HELL, YO WHY YOU SINGLE, DAMN YOUR HOT, etc etc etc

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 03/05/09 12:14 PM
Are there any women out there who feel this way? When I meet a man online for a relationship, him calling me "Dear" or "Hon", feels like he's talking down to me. You dont need to feel that way sweetheart

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Thu 03/05/09 12:14 PM
I like to say, "mon cherie"

luv2roknroll Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 30367	Thu 03/05/09 12:15 PM Edited by luv2roknroll on Thu 03/05/09 12:17 PM
Well, lil honeys...I am screwed! I was born and raised to speak that way......it don't matter if you are 8 or 80...to me you are all still sweeties/honeys/babydolls...you get the picture. But, after 40 years of talking that way...not much chance I can change that pattern now. I can only speak for myself when I say no offence or disrespect is meant by it...I was taught that it was a good thing to be politely complimentary....(and yes, I do remember names) Well, Krupa, it's nice to hear from a man but everyone that understands some of us have a creepy feeling about it, might think about easing up a little for comfort. It'll help a bit Dont you dare change a thing about yourself Krupa. I loooooooooooove pet names! It even says so on my profile. I guess im not in the majority here, but I think its nice to be called sweety, or hon, by a man. Its much better than, "Hey B!tch".... wouldnt you say?

ProteinGirl Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 400	Thu 03/05/09 12:18 PM
nothing worse than a guy sending you an email starting with "hey gorgeous". Whether it's true or not, it's a pretty heavy way to start off. UGH

ReddBeans Joined Sat 10/27/07 Posts: 6930	Thu 03/05/09 12:26 PM
Bein from the south I just naturally call purty much everybody Hun, Darling, or Dear. If it's a child I'm gonna call him/her Baby when I talk to em. It's just the way I was raised and don't know nobody round here that takes offense to it. Now if it's a yankee doin it then I tend to look at him sideways.

LindaJL56 Joined Wed 01/21/09 Posts: 3387	Thu 03/05/09 12:55 PM
So how do you know if the person doing it grew up in the south or north? Do I just assume they're from the south?