Topic: Why men sometimes say mean things
Selya's photo
Sun 02/22/09 08:58 PM



Mars? Venus? Perhaps, but it's usually much more simplistic than that. We (men) are taught at an early age to not show weaknesses, so instead we hide them. So when we get hurt we counteract that emotion by showing strength, i.e. anger.

A real man never takes that anger to physical extremes (toward a woman or anyone) but that's why we say those hateful things....because we are protecting ourselves and our feelings. Does this make sense to anyone on a Sunday night?


Exactly. It's a defense mechanism. It's also a means to put a point across when we're given a bunch of malarkey to deal with as well.


Women do it too for the very same reason, as a defense mechanism.

He calls her a b!itch. She calls him an azzhole. (or whatever words you want to insert) Both are doing it as a means to defend themselves from the hurt that was inflicted from the other person. Right?


offtopic Are those two guys on your photo?

MsCarmen's photo
Sun 02/22/09 08:59 PM




Mars? Venus? Perhaps, but it's usually much more simplistic than that. We (men) are taught at an early age to not show weaknesses, so instead we hide them. So when we get hurt we counteract that emotion by showing strength, i.e. anger.

A real man never takes that anger to physical extremes (toward a woman or anyone) but that's why we say those hateful things....because we are protecting ourselves and our feelings. Does this make sense to anyone on a Sunday night?


Exactly. It's a defense mechanism. It's also a means to put a point across when we're given a bunch of malarkey to deal with as well.


Women do it too for the very same reason, as a defense mechanism.

He calls her a b!itch. She calls him an azzhole. (or whatever words you want to insert) Both are doing it as a means to defend themselves from the hurt that was inflicted from the other person. Right?


offtopic Are those two guys on your photo?


laugh No.

no photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:01 PM


So, since it is not okay to beat up a woman with your fists, you beat her down with harsh words?
An unconscious defense mechanism, never said it was ok



Whether you are male or female, it's still a choice,

awolf1010's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:04 PM


what thye hell is that supposed to mean???

Hey wolf.. kindof quite... Why dont you pick a topic?.. I need a laugh..:smile:

what the hell...now Im only cheap entertainment for you!!!!


and you said it was special.....bloody hell!!!

IndnPrncs's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:05 PM



So, since it is not okay to beat up a woman with your fists, you beat her down with harsh words?
An unconscious defense mechanism, never said it was ok



Whether you are male or female, it's still a choice,


I don't completely agree.. Some people do it before they realize they're doing it.. It takes practice to not react.. With some it's insecurity... Loads of reasons why.. Not so different from a physical abuser you are right but if it's not too harsh which is what I believe Peccy meant then it's just a harsh reaction not an abusive one... I learned to curb my tongue a long time ago but pushed to far and I can slash...

Peccy's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:05 PM
Edited by Peccy on Sun 02/22/09 09:06 PM



So, since it is not okay to beat up a woman with your fists, you beat her down with harsh words?
An unconscious defense mechanism, never said it was ok



Whether you are male or female, it's still a choice,
Oh I agree, but in the heat of an argument who stops and makes that choice? It's easy to say sitting behind a computer.

MelodyGirl's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:05 PM

Mars? Venus? Perhaps, but it's usually much more simplistic than that. We (men) are taught at an early age to not show weaknesses, so instead we hide them. So when we get hurt we counteract that emotion by showing strength, i.e. anger.

A real man never takes that anger to physical extremes (toward a woman or anyone) but that's why we say those hateful things....because we are protecting ourselves and our feelings. Does this make sense to anyone on a Sunday night?


Cue blanket statements: "Women always" .... "Men" always ...

It's fun to stereo type! whoa

MsCarmen's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:06 PM



what thye hell is that supposed to mean???

Hey wolf.. kindof quite... Why dont you pick a topic?.. I need a laugh..:smile:

what the hell...now Im only cheap entertainment for you!!!!


and you said it was special.....bloody hell!!!


OMG, you said the same thing to me. I feel used! rant sad laugh

awolf1010's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:07 PM




what thye hell is that supposed to mean???

Hey wolf.. kindof quite... Why dont you pick a topic?.. I need a laugh..:smile:

what the hell...now Im only cheap entertainment for you!!!!


and you said it was special.....bloody hell!!!


OMG, you said the same thing to me. I feel used! rant sad laugh
no you both told me it was special!!!:tongue: :wink:

RKISIT's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:07 PM
the thing is what is it that you will accept,so tired of what women want what men want sh!t...it's simple it's like sub atomic particles its all around you,we(meaning men and women want each other)thank you anymore then i have to charge $99.00 an hour:smile:

MsCarmen's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:07 PM




So, since it is not okay to beat up a woman with your fists, you beat her down with harsh words?
An unconscious defense mechanism, never said it was ok



Whether you are male or female, it's still a choice,
Oh I agree, but in the heat of an argument who stops and makes that choice? It's easy to say sitting behind a computer.


Isn't that the part where we let our mouth override our azz?

Peccy's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:08 PM


Mars? Venus? Perhaps, but it's usually much more simplistic than that. We (men) are taught at an early age to not show weaknesses, so instead we hide them. So when we get hurt we counteract that emotion by showing strength, i.e. anger.

A real man never takes that anger to physical extremes (toward a woman or anyone) but that's why we say those hateful things....because we are protecting ourselves and our feelings. Does this make sense to anyone on a Sunday night?


Cue blanket statements: "Women always" .... "Men" always ...

It's fun to stereo type! whoa
no fair.......lol........she's adding fuel! laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

MsCarmen's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:09 PM





what thye hell is that supposed to mean???

Hey wolf.. kindof quite... Why dont you pick a topic?.. I need a laugh..:smile:

what the hell...now Im only cheap entertainment for you!!!!


and you said it was special.....bloody hell!!!


OMG, you said the same thing to me. I feel used! rant sad laugh
no you both told me it was special!!!:tongue: :wink:


I did? Let me get back to you on that. :tongue: laugh

Peccy's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:09 PM





So, since it is not okay to beat up a woman with your fists, you beat her down with harsh words?
An unconscious defense mechanism, never said it was ok



Whether you are male or female, it's still a choice,
Oh I agree, but in the heat of an argument who stops and makes that choice? It's easy to say sitting behind a computer.


Isn't that the part where we let our mouth override our azz?
In a matter of speaking yes..........lol

Selya's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:09 PM

Mars? Venus? Perhaps, but it's usually much more simplistic than that. We (men) are taught at an early age to not show weaknesses, so instead we hide them. So when we get hurt we counteract that emotion by showing strength, i.e. anger.

A real man never takes that anger to physical extremes (toward a woman or anyone) but that's why we say those hateful things....because we are protecting ourselves and our feelings. Does this make sense to anyone on a Sunday night?


Exactly. It's a defense mechanism. It's also a means to put a point across when we're given a bunch of malarkey to deal with as well.


Women do it too for the very same reason, as a defense mechanism.

He calls her a b!itch. She calls him an azzhole. (or whatever words you want to insert) Both are doing it as a means to defend themselves from the hurt that was inflicted from the other person. Right?


offtopic Are those two guys on your photo?


laugh No.

oops

RKISIT's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:11 PM
empty sorry yall feel that way:smile:

MelodyGirl's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:12 PM



Mars? Venus? Perhaps, but it's usually much more simplistic than that. We (men) are taught at an early age to not show weaknesses, so instead we hide them. So when we get hurt we counteract that emotion by showing strength, i.e. anger.

A real man never takes that anger to physical extremes (toward a woman or anyone) but that's why we say those hateful things....because we are protecting ourselves and our feelings. Does this make sense to anyone on a Sunday night?


Cue blanket statements: "Women always" .... "Men" always ...

It's fun to stereo type! whoa
no fair.......lol........she's adding fuel! laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh


:laughing: Me?? I would NEVER!! :laughing:

Although, it is fun to read people arguing on an internet forum. Being different isn't enough; someone always has to be right. :laughing:


RKISIT's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:15 PM
always if you never had the ones that were always right then we would have no humor:smile: drinker

Peccy's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:15 PM
LOL true but this is how I see things and if someone can prove me wrong, I'll concede graciously.

IndnPrncs's photo
Sun 02/22/09 09:22 PM




Mars? Venus? Perhaps, but it's usually much more simplistic than that. We (men) are taught at an early age to not show weaknesses, so instead we hide them. So when we get hurt we counteract that emotion by showing strength, i.e. anger.

A real man never takes that anger to physical extremes (toward a woman or anyone) but that's why we say those hateful things....because we are protecting ourselves and our feelings. Does this make sense to anyone on a Sunday night?


Cue blanket statements: "Women always" .... "Men" always ...

It's fun to stereo type! whoa
no fair.......lol........she's adding fuel! laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh


:laughing: Me?? I would NEVER!! :laughing:

Although, it is fun to read people arguing on an internet forum. Being different isn't enough; someone always has to be right. :laughing:





THAT is hilarious... laugh laugh laugh laugh