Well .. I think it's harder to trust again ..

If someone has betrayed my trust I will forgive .. but good luck with gettin trust again ..



You?

same here

Neither. Forgiveness and trust are essentially revoked if I've been screwed by someone.

both actually
depends on the situation

If I can't trust you there is nothing left.

Depending on the situation I can sometimes forgive, forget and eventually give them another chance.

My general motto is:
Trick me once, shame on you.
Trick me twice, shame on me.
Trick me three times, shame on the mortician if he can't give you that *natural* look.

Forget

they may get my forgiveness but they will haveto work hard to ever get my trust again.

ditto

Both...it's hard to trust someone especially when you forgiven them once. How does that saying go? Once shame on you, twice shame on me???? I've had my trust broken far too many times. Trust certainly is earned. Sometimes you just can't earn it back after continuous lying.

The forgiveness is easy for me, because I'm not carrying your crap on my shoulders. The trust part? Forget about it! You're not getting the opportunity to do me wrong again.

Trust has to be earned. I forgive almost anything but you have to earn my trust.

Do you think they are intrinsically tied together?


ie if I don't attempt to trust you again then I didn't really forgive you?

No, because forgiveness allows you to take back the "power" they had over you so that you are not consumed by what they did and all the guilt is placed on them. That's what I meant when I said, "I'm not carrying around nobody's crap on my shoulders." They did the hurting, let them carry the burden.

I have forgiven and forgive everyone for everything. If you'd come and shoot me for whatever reason, I'd probably forgive you as well, but I would really want to know your motives.

Trust is another matter. I don't trust a lot of people, but the ones I do, I give my full trust as well.

Aren't they basically the same thing? Or be too closely linked to do one without the other?

right now it's trusting people

Are you talking about the same person or a different person?

It would depend upon what the person did or did not do.

As for people in general...have a tendency to trust with caution.

forgive. once you blow my trust... its like tryin to grow a limb back.

You asked "What is Easier, to forgive or to trust again?"
This isn't a question that can be answered by just picking one or the other, they both have to be understood.

Trusting someone comes naturally through interaction over time or through reputation.

Forgiveness on the other hand only comes after one has been wrong and is willing to make amends by attempting to restore the relationship.(whether it be between friends, family spouses or neighbors)

Before one can trust again they must forgive to repair w/e relationship was damaged. Next it takes time to repair anything to the "way it was". Even then it's never the same again.

So to go with the flow of things, You have to forgive before you can trust again, Niether is easier then the other but forgiveness comes first.