Do some women want a ring worth 3 months of their mans salary even if it puts him in major debt?

Would that cash not be better invested, or just sitting in your bank to provide a little financial security for you both? Or maybe be put into the actual wedding fund?

it should be whatever you can afford...

if she goes by how much you spend on her "ring", instead of how much you love her...

I would rethink the whole engagement thing....

Yes, I totally agree.

I'd rather the money be invested in savings for later.

I would be a little irritated if someone spent more than a few hundred dollars, let alone three months of hard earned income, on a ring for me that I would undoubtedly lose or drop down a drain.

If the three month salary thing is a must, spend a couple hundred on the ring. With the difference, buy "engagement" mud tires, and his and hers new "engagement" four wheelers, and, depending on how much that three months salary is, perhaps a new "engagement" boat and more fishing tackle too.

nope your not the perfect women your looking for someone 35 to 45 im 34

Big weddings and expensive rings may be nice for dreams, but when the reality hits the fan, being able to enjoy luxuries with 0 debt has significantly more value. By choice I haven't owned a credit card in 15 years and I for one like it that way.

I've actually heard 2 months salary but I think even that is excessive.

Depends on whether you even choose a diamond - not all engagement rings have to be diamonds.

I'd ask the girl first, or get some sort of feel, as to what kind of stone interests her before I started thinking too far ahead about cost. We all like to browse through jewellry stores; take her window shopping.

Good point, with a bit of luck she might be into Cubic Zirconia! lol!



Again, i was just wondering after seeing a couple of figures. (I gotta be careful cos my girlfriend is obviously gonna see this!)

I was thinking an 'engagement' 10 pints down the pub with the lads and a curry!

Dan, a ring from a cracker jack box means just as much as a ring purchased with 3 months salary....it's the love behind it and the presentation that matter, at least for me.

Something personable and unique not necessarily a diamond might be more fitting for her. One of the most beautiful engangement rings I ever saw was created as 2 pieces the first engagement part was fitted like a puzzle and at the wedding the 2nd piece meshed with it. No rock whatsoever but handmade and very special.


You should know her tastes buy something you think she would like but don't go broke, especially in this day and age when your job might not be there tomorrow.

As long as it is real precious metal and a real diamond, I would think that whatever you get should be good enough. I have heard it is three months wage to be right. So in other words $6000.00 or more would be about right with that figure.

The ring is suppose to show how much you value her and how much you want her to be your wife. So to some women I suppose that would mean alot of cash to show.

It is probably more important to figure out what you can afford to pay before the marriage. (Because if it is not paid for before she in effect helps pay for it.)

How much to spend depends on your means. If you buy a really expensive ring and are wiping out your savings so that you can not have something to fall back on if you loose your job or some other unexpected emergency that would not be a good idea.

Because it is a symbol of your affection for her it should represent at least some sacrifice on your part. If a months pay is going to put you in financial distress it is not reasonable.

If you talk to your future partner and find out what style of ring you can come closer to pleaseing her. You also might want to factor in what her personality type is. A gal who likes to play out doors and wear it as she raises a family she is probably going to want a setting that is stronger. If she works in an office setting maybe something more delicate. Taking note if she wears gold or silver jewlery will help you to pick a setting metal she is going to like. Might want to find out if she has any metal allergies because if she does you defintely want to buy a setting of higher quality. Sometimes "bargain" rings are
lower quality and will break down faster with dailey wear.

Solitair rings always give you the option of adding a wrap around later but if she is the sentimental type she may want to always retain the ring as is.

Also a lower grade and clarity of the diamond can allow a larger diamond. If you have a relationship with and established jeweler you can order the band and diamond seperately and get a better deal.

What you do not want to do is not know general prices because you can really get taken and sold a highly over priced ring. If you find a ring you like comparison shop. If you walk in with your fiance I can pretty much assure you they are only going to offer you the most expensive or low quality rings they have because they know you are not walking out the door without a ring..

Whilst i believe the ring is a symbol of your feelings, it shouldnt really take cash to show how you value someone, that does make it sound very shallow. In this age of equality what does the women have to do to show how much she values her husband?

tolerate him?

If i were going to buy one, which im not as this is hypothetical, i would no way walk into a shop and buy one like that. I know you can easily be charged thousands above what the thing is actually worth..

I agree. I was just stating possibility of some women's views, from what I have heard, ya know.

It baffles me how an engagement ring is rated on its price, rather then what it means when it is given...