...and to a point we all are. (don't try and deny it, or you're lying) ... i want my mate to be attractive. and i'm not saying attractive to everyone else in the world, i mean to ME. i want to be physically attracted to him... and if i'm not, i don't go for them.

so i'm just curious... when someone messages you and you are far from attracted to them ... do you ignore the message or tell them you're not interested for "whatever" reason? OR do you keep talking to them, not letting them know they are wasting their time?

regardless of how shallow a woman can be, I believe out of common courtesy she should e-mail the guy and say she is not interested in a nice way!

I answer everyone that emails me I can always be friends with them

I'm courteous, respond to messages before I check their profile and sometimes don't even check. Even though I'm an older guy, there's still gotta be something ageless in the attraction.

There ya go!! You said it yourself.

i've hardly ever had an instant physical attraction to someone.

my level of interest, and his attractiveness, increases as i get to know him.

whether i continue to write, or even reply, depends on the content of the email.

I just don’t reply any more. Before the chorus of "what a B1tch" commences, let me explain that when I first joined this site I was polite and said "no thank you" to everyone but the problem with that is the guy takes that as a signal to pursue it and he will keep responding.

Since you are being honest well so will I,

I would love to have a hottie for a GF but also I would like her to be able to sing and have some artistic talent.
Being a head splitting martial artist would be a HUGE plus for me.
I like wise would be extremely impressed if she could even arm wrestle me and give me any measure of competition.
The money end of it does not matter as much as if she can just tow her own line. If she was rich well, good for her!
On top of that she needs to have some kind of personality besides looking for the next big thrill.

Not to be crude but if I am going to have kids by anyone I want them with the best woman on earth or at least the one I think is the best!

I am a quality over quantity man hands down.


Share the love everybody!!!

Same here.

I agree with mirror, heck I even took an IM from somebody I put no to on Mutual Match.

I answer all emails...if i'm not interested I politely let them know.

Apparently he thought no meant yes

The Canadian I can understand, but you're from the south. We always have embers burning - nothing instantaneous? Blasphemy!

Heh. After the last couple of IMs I have gotten....I actually answer them just for entertainment purposes....lmao

agreed.
if it is apparent that they are emailing with romantic interest,
I won't respond for fear of the backlash that has come from being polite.

I try to be nice and usually they 'get it'...

i want super hot! but i am polite always or at least try to be. sometimes i get pissed and say something, but i try to be polite. Some people wont except a polite no and you just have to be straight up. I am not interested unless i feel they are beautiful and i dont see anything wrong with that!

Sorry, was referring to her last sentece really. I was just being lazy.

I agree. I won’t reply anymore unless I’m seriously interested because of the "friendliness misinterpretation backlash."

There's nothing wrong with that.




Usually, I clue her in and other times I simply don't reciprocate. There's a part of my home reserved for my future family. When a woman sees it and starts doing the math, it's painfully obvious to me that she's not the woman for me. Any possible thoughts on my side take a detour to a non-contact friendship because it's the usual game afoot and as obvious as 2 heart attacks and a triple bipass.