You mean.......people are really trying to find a date on here????

will you date me on this date ... Thursday the 4th

yeah, they misplaced their calenders...

yeah it's kind of pointless to come to a dating site and not post a pic of yourself. "i want someone to know my personality before they see what i look like." um, either way it goes, if they like you enough to meet you they will see your physical appearance, so you might as well just get it out of the way. there is no way in HELL i would ever meet somoene offline without first seeing a pic of them. call me superficial, whatever, fact of life: physical attraction is one of the key elements to a lasting relationship. deny all you want. but you know it's true.

Personal choice, perhaps? Not everybody who joins here considers it to be a "dating" site. Many people are here simply for friends and camaraderie. To consider a site such as this to be only for ONE THING and ONE THING ONLY is ludicrous.

Yeah, and I don't have a problem with people posting pics of things other than themselves -- it gives you a little insight into their interests, hopefully -- but it would be nice, if they're really serious about meeting someone, to have a pic of the real person, too.

A picture of a butt doesn't really tell me anything except that you have a butt, and I would have assumed that anyway.

Ah, chuckle, that's rich! Lex strikes again.
Dry, baby, dry...

It's nice to be appreciated....!

Oh, that comes in spades from here. Trust!

Thank you!!

Not a thing.
It is w/ great pleasure and stripped, bare honesty, Sir Fonteyne.

Bonny, you've been to that site, too, I see....!

No, that's a picture of my next door neighbour

Let me guess where she parks her car.

yeah i don't mind if they have pic of other stuff. you're right, give a lil insight, but have a pic of yourself too. and if you're not going to have any pic, you better have a damn good explaination of yourself in your profile. things that interest you and whatnot. and if ALL your pix have you and another of the same person in them, make sure you inform on who YOU are. that get highly confusing!

The "more-than-one-person-no-clue-which-is-the-person-the-profile-belongs-to" pic is one of my true pet peeves (although I have several thousand others).

SInce I'm not planning on meeting anyone from here, the "real pic" issue is less crucial to me, overall -- but if I was actually going to meet someone in person, I would be unlikely to go through with it unless I had seen a real pic....

yeah but then people get all butthurt "oh you're so superficial" you're damn right. i know what i like and you can be as nice as nice can be and like all the same things i do but if there is no chemistry, how do you expect to take the relationship to a physical level?

Well, do I really care if anyone thinks I'm superficial or not? Not really -- I've been here two years, and I've made some great friends here, and they know who I am. That's good enough.

I have some superficial aspects to me. Who doesn't? Let's stop trying to be all PC and tell everyone "It's only what's on the inside that matters" -- let's face it, if that was really the case, dating sites would be a lot more successful than they really are.

There isn't anybody on this site, as far as I've seen, who would make even a remotely acceptable match for me. OK, I understand that. Should I lower my standards here and be some sort of fake just to get someone to like me so I can say "I met somebody," then be bored to tears in three months, and have a nasty public breakup right in front of everyone on the site?

Nah. I'm not gonna do that.

thank god. someone to agrees with me that the saying "it's what's inside that counts" is kinda lame.... yes what's inside counts, but who cares what's inside if i can't stand to look at you on the outside! lol

It doesn't help anybody to pretend that what we want is NOT what we want.

See, I think that's one of the biggest problems with dating sites -- and I say this as someone who has dabbled with LOTS of them -- people say what they think they're SUPPOSED to say -- God forbid anyone should see them as shallow or superficial, so they parrot the old "It's the inner person that matters, the outside is just a shell" lines forever and ever.

But the reality, being quite different, then creates a scenario where nobody ever actually gets together because nobody is being honest about what they want.

I have seen -- literally -- hundreds of posts from women complaining that they can't find a smart, funny, caring guy. But when that guy shows up, they want no part of him.

Self-deception isn't pretty, AND it really impedes progress....