I can assure you that I am and always will be 28.

I guess I'm just having a little trouble understanding how him being (35) as opposed to (30) makes such a difference. I mean, all the time you've been with him, you were fine with the fact that you thought he was (30), so wouldn't he still be the same person if he was really (35)?

I guess the only time I could really see this as being a problem is if some woman said she was 18, looked and acted 18, but was really 14.

You can blow up, about this or stay calm, talk to him & go from there. With the age spread, he might have lowered his, out of fear the truth would make you go away.

Talk it out,before you blow up.
But it is a red flag, watch for more. If there are, then worry.

I told him from the beginning that age means nothing to me. If I like you then age is just a number. Just be honest with me.

Look, if you are really that upset...wake his ass up throw his sh*t in his lap and tell him to get the Hell out.

If this isn't a life changing revelation...wake him up and discuss it with him.

This ain't rocket science.

That must be a great trick! Teach me!

RUN, RUN, RUN!!!! That was already a gap you evidently had issues with at 17 years. Now a lie on top of that concern??? NO WAY!!! How sad!!!

Maybe he believes those sayings 50 is the new 40

I told him from the beginning that age means nothing to me. If I like you then age is just a number. Just be honest with me.

I told him from the beginning that age means nothing to me. If I like you then age is just a number. Just be honest with me.

If that is the case....I can see the conflict about honesty but, you just kicked your own legs out from under yourself on the age difference thing.

Trust is everything. If he lies about the small stuff, he will lie about the big. Just my two...

really think about this. When you are 38 he wil be 60. when you are 48 he probably wont be alive. I think you should really think this thru and decide if you want a 60 year old man when your 38.

i mean what are you gonna do on long trips? Hes gonna need to pull over every five minutes and you wont. That will get frustrating after a while. but now if you could share the loo together now your talking.

Years ago, I was married. After one year, we brought a beautiful baby girl into this world. When the hospital staff approached me asking me to check for errors on our daughters birth certificate, I had said, "Oh, my husbands DOB is wrong. Please change that." (The gal at the hospital happened to be someone I had gone to HS with. This would add to my humiliation later.)

Well, as she left the room my husband also left to "get some coffee". He returned a short time later saying, "Um, we need to talk. Let's go outside." (Primarily to put me in a public area so that when I freaked out, it was done quietly, I suspect. Keep in mind, I'm still wearing a flimsy gown and robe provided by the hosp.)

Long story short, he admitted to being much younger than he had initially told me. Within a year I found out many other lies but it took the initial shock from the first lie to get me to open my eyes and learn that trust is "earned".

My point? Well, I'm not saying jump down the guys throat. What I am saying is Trust Is Earned. If he has treated you well and has earned your trust in other areas, perhaps he had a reason for lying to you. I suspect it was due to his own personal fears. I truly hope it is not due to anything else.

Good luck with your situation though. I'm wishing you and he the best.

Melissa....

Before you BLOW up at him honey, think about it.I had someone tell me he was 5 years difference, older also. BUT as you said...something so simple to lie about, why do it.

I would consider 22 years a large age gap. What could you have in common with him??

I would really want to know why he lied in the first place...it's not like it's a little lie either...22 years is a big gap.

Okay, so he's 50 instead of 45. -shrug- I've seen much worse from women. Never mind that. Can he, without prompting from you, make your coffee just the way you like it?