Well, that's something I've always said facetiously because it's impossible to know that sort of thing. Unless I want to stand around and watch her take a bunch of tests, which, now that I think about it, is strangely compelling....

But seriously, I use the numbers as a sort of hyperbole (like the 897,000-mile distance thing) to make a larger point -- that being that I've spent 95% of my relationship-time with people who would lose a maze race to an amoeba, even on their best day. I do need to find someone with some intelligence -- not the statistically-measurable kind, necessarily, but someone who has more to offer than the people I've been with in the past.



It's a kind of filtering process, I suppose. I really wouldn't want her to contact me if she's not secure with own intelligence level....whatever that might be. A lot of the stuff I say here is really just intended to serve as a sort of suggestion -- i.e., "Don't waste your time and mine if you can't hang with me." That's not a put-down (although overly-sensitive types might see it as such), it's just a matter of efficiency.

Anyone can go around proclaiming to be a "Nice Guy" or "A Jerk", it seems on the internet i'm finding it more and more.

Actions tend to speak louder then words. Those actions will let people make their own judgements of you. Proclaiming what you are for most people is just another mask to wear.

Unlike a true peacock spreading it's tailfeathers, i'm finding more and more chickens with feathers glued to their A$$e$.

Just my two cents-

That's a fair statement; and, believe me, it's entirely deliberate.

And the answer to the second part of your post is "both."

And it's even harder to find them on line than in real life, in my experience. I have some theories about that, but we don't need to get into that here.



But entire believable, from where I sit. Just reading the threads here, I see topic after topic, initially being about anything imaginable, redirected to being about alcohol. People post "I'm drunk" as if it's a badge of honor. I have to believe there are far more efficient and faster ways for someone to destroy their synapses and neurons, if they're really committed to doing so.

OK LEX????

Why did YOU have to start a dam post about ME FOR??????

THIS IS NOT FUNNY!!!!!!!



YOU WAIT TIL I FIND A MOD BUDDY!!!!!

























LOL, The folks are reading this and THINKING,,,WTF???

GREAT POST Lex,wink,,,lov ya man...lol,lol

I remember seeing a dating site for IVY League graduates somewhere, a while ago. Isn't there also a MENSA club?

Hmmm....thinking back to High School, I'd say there were only one or two people in my graduating class with IQs above 140. What are the odds of meeting someone with no substance abuse issues, an IQ of 140 or thereabouts, and with no children. Then, factor in other things like chemistry, physical compatability, shared goals, values, ethics, etc.

You may be setting yourself up for the impossible.

Needle in a haystack. Is love meant to be so hard to find?

Probably not. But, what do I know.

Terry, I've kept it quiet long enough!



Thanks, buddy!

truth is Lex.....

somewhere......who knows where

but somewhere.....

there is an attractive,intellegent 40 ish lady writer, hoveled at her pc, in some unheard of dating site on the web, who has no kids and thinks just like you,

Kismit just aint caught up with you two ....


yet...........

....and she's a lesbian....

OUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay I see now. I thought you were serious about the specific number.

Nah, I don't think the raw numbers really mean much. I see them as one indicator out of many -- with a relatively minor weight overall.

I mean, I suppose if you had someone with a 75 IQ and someone with a 140 IQ, there might be some compelling and noticeable differences -- but that's an extreme case.

Take, say, 105 and 120 -- would you be able to tell? I don't think so, not without some real research. And would it make any difference? Not really, not to me, provided the other stuff was right.

And IQ is only one factor -- hypothetically, I could meet someone with a 200 IQ, but if she has no sense of humor and no communications skills, the attraction is going to be rather fleeting.

Well that certainly makes sense.

Barbara De Angelis, American researcher ~

"You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back."

Actually, Lex, I don't think it is really your undeniable writing talent that comes off as intimidating. I think it's the sharp, sarcastic tone ( ) of your profile. You mention repeatedly the fact that you have been on this site for so long, yet you haven't found anyone intellectually suitable (romantically), and it made me, for one, wonder, "Will this guy even be interested in saying 'hi' to me?"

Then, because I also belong in this thread, I thought, "What the hell? Of course he will say 'hi'!" I am pleased to have been validated, as I love talking to narcissistic, conceited, arrogant jerks! Though I must say, that is not exactly how I would have classified you...but that really isn't the point of this thread.

Bump for Lex

haha

the mystery deepens.

an uninteresting one at that.

Lexy, I think the difference between a 90 IQ and a 120 IQ would become apparent in the first few conversations. Don't you think?

And for all those folks who are caught up in the classification and depth of narcissism, here is an easy definition:
narcissistic - egotistic: characteristic of those having an inflated idea of their own importance.

Of course there are variations and degrees along a dichotomy, as with any other trait or characteristic. But let's not get mired up in the extremes or say we are throwing the word around carelessly and therefore ignorant. That wouldn't be narcissistic, now would it?