Would it really just blow if a guy decided to become Narcissistic, specifically for you, since that's where your magnetic field is oriented?

<<---- arrogant narcissistic conceited jerk....but halfazz nice

Who will win the 2009 "Jerk of the year " award.

I'm hoping this thread will give me the early lead....

No one wants to be a naricissist. Its not particularly pleasant for them at all, despite what outsiders would tend to think. Further, narcissism is formed in our earliest years. One wouldn't be able to make themselves into one.

I'm flattered, though. And, I do notice some "traits" there.

(No one can diagnose without experience, expertise, and time spent with the individual.)

....I'm working on changing my patterns, though. Gently.

11 pages so far, it's possible

Well...........if you're asking me.....which you're not. So, I'll shut up.

I can see where it would be easy to do.

But -- I really don't believe I have a fear of genuine intimacy -- I'm not actually sure it even exists --

If anything, I think I would be more inclined to use it in situations where I felt a need to distance myself from someone due to complete incompatibility right off the bat -- say, a drinker -- but more as a method of adhering to standards than as a way to avoid intimacy....

I am somewhat surprised by this answer, that leads me to a question, If you aren't sure what true genuine intimacy is How can you know whether you avoid it or not?

Therein lies the fear. Does it exist? And, if it does, what the H3LL am I gonna do with it once it lands in my lap?!?

Run
bounce back and forth, confuse your mate, surrender to it, and at least in one point of the relationsip that ensues, scream, at the top of your lungs, "What in the hell have I gotten myself into?"

That sound about right?

Uh huh.

My own (admittedly biased) perspective is that I've never been anywhere near it. All of my relationships, with one exception, have been -- in the end -- short-term, superficial, entanglements of convenience over substance. The one that I THOUGHT was genuine turned out to be nothing more than the fact that she needed me to help her with a number of serious personal issues.

In theory, I would welcome the experience of genuine intimacy -- but, as I have no track record with it, it's very likely I wouldn't know it if it did show up.

But there's no fear there. Curiosity, desire, maybe some confusion -- but no fear. I would gladly give it a shot if there was ever a way to know it for what it allegedly is....

Im a nice guy and I like being a nice guy......I am always right and so therefore I know being nice is best and if you dont agree then kiss my arse

Fair enough. I do have a question for you...something I have wondered before but never posted. You have said previously that you would never date a woman with an IQ of less than 140. My question is, how would you know?

And, when you put that out there, aren't you discouraging intelligent women from contacting you because they don't know what their IQ is? I certainly don't know what mine is.

Someone could very well make the argument Lex that you do set your standards to the point of being unrealistic. Im not sure how much of that you actually buy into or if its just meant in jest for the forums.

I knew there was reason you kept catching my eye.... ;)

Realistically, how many women are there above the age of 33 with no children? I'd wager very few. And, I recently read some statistics somewhere on line (sorry, I forgot the source) that said 50% of all adults have at least one close family member who is Alcoholic or otherwise. A family member who is an administrator at a large local corporation recently said to me that she had to undergo a training to spot substance abuse in co-workers, superiors, and others, because 1 out of 4 people in general has a substance abuse problem these days. 1 out of 4. Those numbers are staggering!