so it IS the women's fault that you're single??

I keep a handy dandy old post in my docs for such threads, as they appear often. This post is not referring to you, but rather goes towards generalities of such discussions.

Here is my stance, and a summary of these type threads:


1. If a guy isn't into a girl, he says he is not looking for a relationship.

2. If a girl isn't that into a guy, she says he is too nice.

3. Nice doesn't really mean nice.

4. All men and women are different, not to be lumped together.

5. If you keep meeting the same types of girls and guys.... it's not them, it's YOU

lots of people seem to confuse being a nice guy with being a wuss

you look so sexy (and so 'un-nice') in that photo

Mingle definition of nice guy= sac less wonder without spine, nerve, or boundaries. Seethes with resentment when things he does are not returned or lavishly praised and appreciated, brought up repeatedly in exulting said nice guy's name.

Nice doesn't mean nice here. It means doormat, wussy, angry bitter LITTLE man.

awwwwww shucks ma'am

you of all people know that I'm not very nice at all. I AM however, always respectful and polite

I won't be wronged. I won't be insulted. I won't be laid a-hand on. I don't do these things to other people, and I require the same from them.

No, its not their fault. It is the FEAR that causes them to feel that way. All I need is one woman who is UNAFRAID. That is very hard to find in this frightening and frightened point in history.

Amen! And, as someone else said, whining and self-pity about it are very unattractive qualities.

If that truly is the Mingle definition, it is WRONG. I will not accept being labeled as a wimp and a wuss just because I choose to be nice.

this is what women want....

mostly so far in this thread you ARE coming off as such however

bet lots of women are unafraid.

bet lots are also uninterested in the whining, complaining, and bemoaning that 'nice guys' do.

why ARE you internet dating anyway? i mean, if it's so hard to prove yourself as being nice online, why aren't you able to do so in real life?

All I need is one woman, so I sure don't care what anybody else thinks. I am not trying to please or impress anyone, just being honest.

Here is a fricking clue:

Don't call yourself nice. It's not for you to decide. It's NOT rocket science! Not to mention the fact it is a generic and worthless term, such as good or bad or big.... come on.

See, that's part of the problem in a nutshell, you NEED a woman. When it becomes WANT and not NEED, the whining and self-pity go out the door along with the need.

Come on don't rag on the guy. Sure there might be tons of nice guy threads...but that's just because there are a lot of guys that just have bad luck in these matters. Some of them might be wussies, others could have a legitimate claim. You never know, right?