Topic: Why Nice Guys Often Do Finish Last
lilith401's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:34 AM


Here is a fricking clue:

Don't call yourself nice. It's not for you to decide. It's NOT rocket science! Not to mention the fact it is a generic and worthless term, such as good or bad or big.... come on.


lilith401's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:34 AM


Here is a fricking clue:

Don't call yourself nice. It's not for you to decide. It's NOT rocket science! Not to mention the fact it is a generic and worthless term, such as good or bad or big.... come on.


Fade2Black's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:35 AM

Nice guys don't finish last.

Losers finish last.

Nice guys finish where they want to be, have the nads to go, and the desire to get there.

From what I have seen guys that claim the title 'nice guy' are con-punks...

Nice guys are. They have no need to claim the title it is theirs by right of action.



well stated

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:37 AM

I keep a handy dandy old post in my docs for such threads, as they appear often. This post is not referring to you, but rather goes towards generalities of such discussions.

Here is my stance, and a summary of these type threads:


1. If a guy isn't into a girl, he says he is not looking for a relationship.

2. If a girl isn't that into a guy, she says he is too nice.

3. Nice doesn't really mean nice.

4. All men and women are different, not to be lumped together.

5. If you keep meeting the same types of girls and guys.... it's not them, it's YOU




I love this and have seen you post it on every nice guy thread (which of course are in abundance *rolls eyes and sighs*) ...

((( Lilith )))


Ready4U46203's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:37 AM

No, its not their fault. It is the FEAR that causes them to feel that way. All I need is one woman who is UNAFRAID. That is very hard to find in this frightening and frightened point in history.

bet lots of women are unafraid.

bet lots are also uninterested in the whining, complaining, and bemoaning that 'nice guys' do.

why ARE you internet dating anyway? i mean, if it's so hard to prove yourself as being nice online, why aren't you able to do so in real life?


I am Internet dating because I have a physical disability and walk with a cane, and it is difficult for me to get around in bad weather, and as for the charge of being a wimp or wussy, I direct street and mission outreach for my church, and go into the streets and the missions and get people OUT. A wimp or a wussy would not survive doing what I do.

Filmfreek's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:38 AM
Try going to church. Some of those girls appreciate "nice" guys.


I'm not religious myself, so I'm S.O.L.


happy

lilith401's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:40 AM

I love this and have seen you post it on every nice guy thread (which of course are in abundance *rolls eyes and sighs*) ...

((( Lilith )))




:heart: Thanks, Fade, I really keep it in my documents....

jdcolvin's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:40 AM
ladies please try to understand...When I lick your face or sniff your but or shove my nose in your crotch Im just trying to be nice and make friends Its a doggie style thing

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:41 AM

Perhaps that is why Internet dating is so ineffective, nobody can actually see the actions of a nice guy on the Internet, and the women I have met so far are too afraid, somewhat understandably, to meet anyone and find out.





I've met dozens of guys off the internet. actually a lot of great ones. So ya .. that's not really a viable excuse.

I wouldn't say the guy I'm talking to now would refer to himself as 'nice' .. but he sure is.


He is military. He is brave. He is amazingly smart, strategic, sure of himself .. a manly man.

He also would never start a 'who doesn't like nice guys' thread. Ever. He's out there just bein a MAN. love

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:42 AM


I love this and have seen you post it on every nice guy thread (which of course are in abundance *rolls eyes and sighs*) ...

((( Lilith )))




:heart: Thanks, Fade, I really keep it in my documents....



YVW .. and ya it's a good one to keep. You rock girlfriend smokin

Riding_Dubz's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:44 AM
Boom the rock boy is in the room,

:banana: :banana: :banana: :banana: :banana:


nice guys don't finish last flowerforyou

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:44 AM


No, its not their fault. It is the FEAR that causes them to feel that way. All I need is one woman who is UNAFRAID. That is very hard to find in this frightening and frightened point in history.

bet lots of women are unafraid.

bet lots are also uninterested in the whining, complaining, and bemoaning that 'nice guys' do.

why ARE you internet dating anyway? i mean, if it's so hard to prove yourself as being nice online, why aren't you able to do so in real life?


I am Internet dating because I have a physical disability and walk with a cane, and it is difficult for me to get around in bad weather, and as for the charge of being a wimp or wussy, I direct street and mission outreach for my church, and go into the streets and the missions and get people OUT. A wimp or a wussy would not survive doing what I do.



My ex husband is 100% disabled for both PTSD and a disability he needs a cane for too.

He remarried 5 years ago. He had no problems meeting her and they are great together. He never thought of his cane as a 'handicap' to be with a woman. It never became one.

:wink:

Ready4U46203's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:46 AM
Well, this proves my point. Most of you seem preoccupied with calling me names and judging me hastily. But all I need is one woman who will look at my heart and not just cut and paste her favorite "nice guy bashing" post.

Riding_Dubz's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:47 AM
some times woman abuse that nice guy card,

keep your eyes open and be alert,

shocked shocked shocked

what's that sayin,

don't be someone priorty when your there option,

something to that affect :banana:

lilith401's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:48 AM
If you stopped taking what I'm saying personally, you'd figure out I'm actually trying to give you a heads up. Read what I wrote, don't personalize it.

Ready4U46203's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:49 AM



Here is a fricking clue:

Don't call yourself nice. It's not for you to decide. It's NOT rocket science! Not to mention the fact it is a generic and worthless term, such as good or bad or big.... come on.




And I call myself nice because I AM nice. So I really don't care how often the word gets used. The word "woman" gets used a lot too, but I bet you still call yourself a woman, because you ARE one.

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:49 AM

Well, this proves my point. Most of you seem preoccupied with calling me names and judging me hastily. But all I need is one woman who will look at my heart and not just cut and paste her favorite "nice guy bashing" post.




Oh please. Don't put your lack of luck on us sir. frustrated

I look at guy's hearts all the time. They just don't feel sorry for themselves.

Confidence is HUGE. Women are extremely turned off by ANY guy, nice or not, who makes "woe is me" statements.


Sighohwell

Now back to your regularly scheduled programming.

Etrain's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:50 AM
Dude...stop feeling sorry for yourself and grow a pair...your whining is giving me a headachefrustrated frustrated frustrated

Riding_Dubz's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:52 AM
Here...((sprays))

shot of cologne,

throw in a new piece of gum, get back out there tiger, and go get em,


Nice pep talk wasn't it?! :banana:

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 01/07/09 11:53 AM

Dude...stop feeling sorry for yourself and grow a pair...your whining is giving me a headachefrustrated frustrated frustrated



Loosely translated:

PUT YOUR BIG BOY PANTS ON :wink: