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Don't you find there is a big difference between being alone and lonely? I actually NEED alone time every day for centering myself and getting ready for the day and sometimes for detoxing at the end of it...but after awhile, I am ready for company...and then there is no one there...that's when the lonely comes in How can that be? You are too cute for lonely! |
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who out there like me 50 something and lonely? I just cant find mr right I am 60 something and very lonely. Can not meet anyone nice. Hi((( Dave)))  :flowerforyou
nice to see you
Don't give up you just never know 
Hi Betty, I was told a person needs 12 hugs a day. I have lots of hugs for you. {{{{{{ Betty }}}}}} |
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I think these people are better off being alone. For most of these people, they would rather deal with what they have, then fear the unknown which is sad. For myself, I am greedy, I want it all!! |
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Don't you find there is a big difference between being alone and lonely? I actually NEED alone time every day for centering myself and getting ready for the day and sometimes for detoxing at the end of it...but after awhile, I am ready for company...and then there is no one there...that's when the lonely comes in How can that be? You are too cute for lonely! Flirt alert!!!!! 
Hello Oldie, 
Welcome to the Fifty and over forum stick around and get to know everyone. This group is fun and you may end up with some of the best friends. [we joke alot]. 
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Don't you find there is a big difference between being alone and lonely? I actually NEED alone time every day for centering myself and getting ready for the day and sometimes for detoxing at the end of it...but after awhile, I am ready for company...and then there is no one there...that's when the lonely comes in I think most of us need some alone time. There are times when I just close myself away for a while to be by myself, listen to some blues maybe, and try to become mellow...lol |
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Don't you find there is a big difference between being alone and lonely? I actually NEED alone time every day for centering myself and getting ready for the day and sometimes for detoxing at the end of it...but after awhile, I am ready for company...and then there is no one there...that's when the lonely comes in I think most of us need some alone time. There are times when I just close myself away for a while to be by myself, listen to some blues maybe, and try to become mellow...lol My alone time is in my bubble bath, with candles, wine, music and just soaking. It is good for the mind and body!
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Don't you find there is a big difference between being alone and lonely? I actually NEED alone time every day for centering myself and getting ready for the day and sometimes for detoxing at the end of it...but after awhile, I am ready for company...and then there is no one there...that's when the lonely comes in I think most of us need some alone time. There are times when I just close myself away for a while to be by myself, listen to some blues maybe, and try to become mellow...lol My alone time is in my bubble bath, with candles, wine, music and just soaking. It is good for the mind and body!
HG now you gonna have the men drooling, and that's not good for quiet time..heheehhee. |
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Don't you find there is a big difference between being alone and lonely? I actually NEED alone time every day for centering myself and getting ready for the day and sometimes for detoxing at the end of it...but after awhile, I am ready for company...and then there is no one there...that's when the lonely comes in I think most of us need some alone time. There are times when I just close myself away for a while to be by myself, listen to some blues maybe, and try to become mellow...lol My alone time is in my bubble bath, with candles, wine, music and just soaking. It is good for the mind and body!
HG now you gonna have the men drooling, and that's not good for quiet time..heheehhee. Yeah they drool, but that is about it!!!! They peek but don't email, I guess I scare them away 
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Don't you find there is a big difference between being alone and lonely? I actually NEED alone time every day for centering myself and getting ready for the day and sometimes for detoxing at the end of it...but after awhile, I am ready for company...and then there is no one there...that's when the lonely comes in I think most of us need some alone time. There are times when I just close myself away for a while to be by myself, listen to some blues maybe, and try to become mellow...lol My alone time is in my bubble bath, with candles, wine, music and just soaking. It is good for the mind and body!
HG now you gonna have the men drooling, and that's not good for quiet time..heheehhee. Yeah they drool, but that is about it!!!! They peek but don't email, I guess I scare them away
Naw ya don't skeer em. What I think is, on here we all decide our grocery list, and we refuse to take one item off or substitute one for another. Sigh makes for lonely grocery shopping..lol. I think if we were all meeting in real, then we would be more forgiving. Just my take on it this early in the A.M. Let me pour you another cup of coffee 
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Don't you find there is a big difference between being alone and lonely? I actually NEED alone time every day for centering myself and getting ready for the day and sometimes for detoxing at the end of it...but after awhile, I am ready for company...and then there is no one there...that's when the lonely comes in I think most of us need some alone time. There are times when I just close myself away for a while to be by myself, listen to some blues maybe, and try to become mellow...lol My alone time is in my bubble bath, with candles, wine, music and just soaking. It is good for the mind and body!
HG now you gonna have the men drooling, and that's not good for quiet time..heheehhee. Yeah they drool, but that is about it!!!! They peek but don't email, I guess I scare them away
Naw ya don't skeer em. What I think is, on here we all decide our grocery list, and we refuse to take one item off or substitute one for another. Sigh makes for lonely grocery shopping..lol. I think if we were all meeting in real, then we would be more forgiving. Just my take on it this early in the A.M. Let me pour you another cup of coffee
Good I need more coffee!!!!
To early to think....oh it is not early 
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Don't you find there is a big difference between being alone and lonely? I actually NEED alone time every day for centering myself and getting ready for the day and sometimes for detoxing at the end of it...but after awhile, I am ready for company...and then there is no one there...that's when the lonely comes in I think most of us need some alone time. There are times when I just close myself away for a while to be by myself, listen to some blues maybe, and try to become mellow...lol My alone time is in my bubble bath, with candles, wine, music and just soaking. It is good for the mind and body!
HG now you gonna have the men drooling, and that's not good for quiet time..heheehhee. Yeah they drool, but that is about it!!!! They peek but don't email, I guess I scare them away
Naw ya don't skeer em. What I think is, on here we all decide our grocery list, and we refuse to take one item off or substitute one for another. Sigh makes for lonely grocery shopping..lol. I think if we were all meeting in real, then we would be more forgiving. Just my take on it this early in the A.M. Let me pour you another cup of coffee
Good I need more coffee!!!!
To early to think....oh it is not early
It's still early enough for me. My son went back to bed when they closed schools because of the wind. Wish I could make myself sleep. |
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Have a great day |
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 I'm a little blue today too. You would think that when you reach 50 you would have it all together, but not so. Sometimes you just need to hear a kind word. Anyone out there?
I know what you mean. I finally got it all together, but now I can't lift it/
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I'm a little blue today too. You would think that when you reach 50 you would have it all together, but not so. Sometimes you just need to hear a kind word. Anyone out there?
I know what you mean. I finally got it all together, but now I can't lift it/
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Edited by
carolanne58
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Thu 02/12/09 11:13 PM
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synergized Hello and happy to meet you!
I agree with your statement about our grocery list and hesitation about not wanting to over look items on it.Do you think this is because maybe at our age we don't feel such pressure to be in a relationship? or are we maybe more confident that we don't need a partner? Even though there are many of us who would like that special someone. jmo. Dammed Valinetine's day! Just Kidding! |
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Let's face it, many of us have already been with "the one". We lost them through death, circumstances that led to divorce or maybe we knew they were "the one" but at the time we just couldn't make it work. (I believe that I've had 2 "the one"s. One died much too young and the other came along when my priorities were my children, job and marriage, so I let her go). Anyone we meet now must compete with the memory of those special people in our lives.
We have raised the bar for anyone new in our lives, but lowered the bar for what we expect of ourselves. We look in the mirror and say "this is who I am, deal with it". Then sit in the empty living room stuffing ourselves with comfort food (damn you Pringles). Like it or not, the physical impression is part of the start of a relationship. We may pontificate all we want about not caring about looks, but we do. So do others. We need to realize that and work to make ourselves the best physically as well as mentally to attract the kind of people we want to be with. Lastly, we have all had incredibly amazing experiences. To top our memories, our next love must be even more amazing. When you are 18, and the most amazing night you ever spent was A&W Rootbeer and the back seat of a 63 Chevy out by the airport, you can look forward to life getting better and better. At our age, we've already had what may very well be the most amazing experiences we will ever have. While we shouldn't give up on finding someone that will top anything we have ever done before, we can't set the bar so high that we will never find anyone willing to try. Just some of the maudlin thoughts that sometimes creep into my little peabrain in the wee hours of the morning.. |
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Don't you find there is a big difference between being alone and lonely? I actually NEED alone time every day for centering myself and getting ready for the day and sometimes for detoxing at the end of it...but after awhile, I am ready for company...and then there is no one there...that's when the lonely comes in How can that be? You are too cute for lonely! Good to see you again. Jump in here and keep posting. Have some fun. |
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synergized Hello and happy to meet you! I agree with your statement about our grocery list and hesitation about not wanting to over look items on it.Do you think this is because maybe at our age we don't feel such pressure to be in a relationship? or are we maybe more confident that we don't need a partner? Even though there are many of us who would like that special someone. jmo. Dammed Valinetine's day! Just Kidding! Hi Carolanne! Sorry, I completely missed this post 
Great to meet you too. Hmmm well actually I feel that most of us who have been through a few things have changed our list and whittled it down to a few very important things. The ones who who haven't been through so much or have glided through life are the ones (I think) who still have lists in stone. Sadly there are many people our age who still feel they need to have the 'ultimate body', the 'ultimate sexiness',or the 'ultimate' lover. They forget that the real 'ultimate' is the sharing and caring and the laughter that carries us all through the days. I can allow myself a few lonely valentines days if in the end my (for me) mr. wonderful comes along. 
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Let's face it, many of us have already been with "the one". We lost them through death, circumstances that led to divorce or maybe we knew they were "the one" but at the time we just couldn't make it work. (I believe that I've had 2 "the one"s. One died much too young and the other came along when my priorities were my children, job and marriage, so I let her go). Anyone we meet now must compete with the memory of those special people in our lives. We have raised the bar for anyone new in our lives, but lowered the bar for what we expect of ourselves. We look in the mirror and say "this is who I am, deal with it". Then sit in the empty living room stuffing ourselves with comfort food (damn you Pringles). Like it or not, the physical impression is part of the start of a relationship. We may pontificate all we want about not caring about looks, but we do. So do others. We need to realize that and work to make ourselves the best physically as well as mentally to attract the kind of people we want to be with. Lastly, we have all had incredibly amazing experiences. To top our memories, our next love must be even more amazing. When you are 18, and the most amazing night you ever spent was A&W Rootbeer and the back seat of a 63 Chevy out by the airport, you can look forward to life getting better and better. At our age, we've already had what may very well be the most amazing experiences we will ever have. While we shouldn't give up on finding someone that will top anything we have ever done before, we can't set the bar so high that we will never find anyone willing to try. Just some of the maudlin thoughts that sometimes creep into my little peabrain in the wee hours of the morning.. Now I know why I am alone! I have never had 'the one' who I have been with and shared a life with, and frankly I feel jealousy over the ones who have. I look back now and realize that I did let 2 wonderful wonderful men slip away because my eyes were on something else.(oh to have grown up a little faster!) It would be such a wonderful thing, that I can understand not wanting to take anything less than that. I think it would be very tough to try to share a life with someone who already had something so special. People compare, and when you had wonderful, then everything anyone else does would probably be compared to that. How tough 
I hope you do meet your ms. right!! Life is meant to be shared. |
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Let's face it, many of us have already been with "the one". We lost them through death, circumstances that led to divorce or maybe we knew they were "the one" but at the time we just couldn't make it work. (I believe that I've had 2 "the one"s. One died much too young and the other came along when my priorities were my children, job and marriage, so I let her go). Anyone we meet now must compete with the memory of those special people in our lives. We have raised the bar for anyone new in our lives, but lowered the bar for what we expect of ourselves. We look in the mirror and say "this is who I am, deal with it". Then sit in the empty living room stuffing ourselves with comfort food (damn you Pringles). Like it or not, the physical impression is part of the start of a relationship. We may pontificate all we want about not caring about looks, but we do. So do others. We need to realize that and work to make ourselves the best physically as well as mentally to attract the kind of people we want to be with. Lastly, we have all had incredibly amazing experiences. To top our memories, our next love must be even more amazing. When you are 18, and the most amazing night you ever spent was A&W Rootbeer and the back seat of a 63 Chevy out by the airport, you can look forward to life getting better and better. At our age, we've already had what may very well be the most amazing experiences we will ever have. While we shouldn't give up on finding someone that will top anything we have ever done before, we can't set the bar so high that we will never find anyone willing to try. Just some of the maudlin thoughts that sometimes creep into my little peabrain in the wee hours of the morning.. Beautiful and heart felt thoughts. I agree with you on a lot of points! I was with my husband from the age of 14, married at 18 and had the most wonderful amazing marriage for 29 years before he died. I am always comparing and I realize that it is NOT fair, but how do I not? I had the love of my life and feel so very blessed to have experienced that kind of love, somehow I feel that I don't deserve another love such as that because so many haven't experienced that dept of love, but on the other hand...why aren't I worth it? Guess my bar is really high too but I don't want to just "settle" because of loneliness. So here I sit with my own choice of nummies stuffing my face too! LOL |
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