Actually I was. Once. I just didn't know it. When I found out I was the "kept" woman in an apartment I was mortified & that was the end of the story.

For me.

His will go on into eternal hell though.

You can be my other woman anytime Judy

If he's legally separated, there is no problem. In that case, its out in the open and there is no question of infidelity.

Now a married man is bad news and I wouldn't willingly become involved with that situation however, I was tricked once by a man who claimed to be single. That can happen if you arent paying attention. I cut it off immediately upon discovery.

You too? I wouldn't ever knowingly put someone in that position cuz it was a lousy place to be...

He looks gay.

Oh yea..thats the one, by Sugarland. Its funny, the first time ever hearing that song I was with him and I just started crying. He asked what was wrong, I said "didn't you hear that song? Didn't you listen to the words, its me/us to the letter!" I hated that song for a long time, now I can listen to it and know it doesn't fit me and never will again. Especially the very end where it talks about if he wants to leave her bed to just STAY!

I finally used some common sense and wised up. If he would cheat on her with me, then he'd cheat on me with someone else. I couldn't trust him walking out the front door. Its been a year and I don't regret my decision of ending things. Smartest thing I ever did next to leaving my abusive spouse.

Nope. Married to Elaine since 1994.

Not in HELL, because I know too much how it hurts and affects life to be the one on the receiving end of the betrayal and pain cheating, deception, and lying causes. It isn't something that ends when the relationship or cheating ends. It erodes trust and self-esteem. You can carry it with you the rest of your life, painfully and destructively, without help to regain your self esteem and sense of trust in the world and others.

I'm also not capable of sharing my partner. I'm basically monogamous and need that in a partner, as well.

I never date separated or newly divorced men. If someone was divorced, I should think he'd have no issue providing his landline phone number or home address. He would also have no issue with accepting calls after work outside of specific windows of time, barring any childcare responsibilities he might have.

What makes women accept or tolerate being the other woman or sharing their partner if the women are not polysexual or polyamorous? Curious.

Thank G_d I recently escaped a fate like that! I could never tolerate it.

Then show them the legal separation papers and make sure both parties speak or know about each other, at the very least.

Only if you 'keep' me well baby .. I do have expensive taste

Someone older and wiser once said to me, "if he cheated on his wife of x number of years, what makes you think he wouldn't cheat on a mere girlfriend. A dog doesn't change its spots".

It would be hard, but I would gather up the strength to get him out of my life. I might falter, but I would eventually rid myself of the "infection in my life" that I view as him.

wtf??? Well, I'd still leave; and he'd be paying child support, that's for sure. I left my marriage when I was two months pregnant by my husband because of his cheating.

Hell NO! Its not over till its over, babe.

Sometimes we know and unconsciously deny, minimize, rationalize away the truth, for whatever unconscious/subconscious emotional reasons. Its not always as clear cut as just "knowing" for all women. Although, some can be gullible even at advanced ages.

The phrase is actually "a leopard can't change its spots", mainly because their rosettes on their fur comes from their skin, but I digress.