Topic: a question about smoking status.
coyuz's photo
Fri 01/02/09 03:58 PM
I'm a longtime smoker who quit about a month ago. I'm dedicated to the decision, but I am hesitant to change the status on my profile since obviously quitting is tough and most who try end up going back. So how much 'probation' do you guys feel is honest and acceptable to go ahead and present yourself as a nonsmoker?

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Fri 01/02/09 03:59 PM

I'm a longtime smoker who quit about a month ago. I'm dedicated to the decision, but I am hesitant to change the status on my profile since obviously quitting is tough and most who try end up going back. So how much 'probation' do you guys feel is honest and acceptable to go ahead and present yourself as a nonsmoker?


5 YEARS

hgraham88's photo
Fri 01/02/09 04:00 PM
I think if you are serious about it quitting then I would change it. Don't be negative its either you have quit and aren't going to smoke again or you are going to smoke again.

Wanderwhere's photo
Fri 01/02/09 04:00 PM
What does it matter? That is something you can cover when you start talking to someone. Don't sweat the click of a button.

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Fri 01/02/09 04:00 PM
If you haven't smoked in a month, change it to non-smoker. You will be reminded you are now a non-smoker. Re-enforce yourself this way, and perhaps, ladies who prefer a non-smoker will come into your life and thus re-enforce it all the more.

That is so great and you are one tough bird to get to this status, so congratulations!!! drinker

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Fri 01/02/09 04:01 PM
5 YEARS FOR SMOKERS , UNLIMITED FOR CHEATERS flowerforyou flowerforyou

misstina2's photo
Fri 01/02/09 04:01 PM
think positive untilyou light up again out nonsmokersmokin

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Fri 01/02/09 04:02 PM

I'm a longtime smoker who quit about a month ago. I'm dedicated to the decision, but I am hesitant to change the status on my profile since obviously quitting is tough and most who try end up going back. So how much 'probation' do you guys feel is honest and acceptable to go ahead and present yourself as a nonsmoker?
If you have smoked for 20 years then in twenty years you will be a none smokernoway noway noway noway

But to be real,,,I would say a year would be to have beat it,,,if your happy.drinker

Skad's photo
Fri 01/02/09 04:02 PM
I smoked for 15 yrs, quit for 3. When I dated a guy who smoked, I started the habit again, but put it back down rather easily when we broke things off. I call myself a non-smoker. (that and, even when I was a smoker, I was a closet smoker, rarely subjecting the people around me to my fumes)

coyuz's photo
Fri 01/02/09 04:07 PM
"What does it matter? That is something you can cover when you start talking to someone. Don't sweat the click of a button."


That's actually my main concern since if a lady flags her profile to not respond if you're a smoker, you can't actually correspond with her. Since it's one of those up front criteria, I think it's important to be as honest as possible.

Blaze1978's photo
Fri 01/02/09 04:08 PM
If you're serious about quitting and would label yourself a non smoker, then I guess technically that makes you a non smoker.

Good luck.

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Fri 01/02/09 04:08 PM
non smoker all most 1 yr now. good luck to ya

freeonthree's photo
Fri 01/02/09 04:11 PM

I'm a longtime smoker who quit about a month ago. I'm dedicated to the decision, but I am hesitant to change the status on my profile since obviously quitting is tough and most who try end up going back. So how much 'probation' do you guys feel is honest and acceptable to go ahead and present yourself as a nonsmoker?


I know guys who have quit for a few years and still smoke. If ya love someone, and ya havnt smoked in a while, and she dont smoke, I would think you could stay quit out of love and wanting to be with her for as long as possible withot any tubes up your nose. smokin

njmom05's photo
Fri 01/02/09 04:16 PM

I'm a longtime smoker who quit about a month ago. I'm dedicated to the decision, but I am hesitant to change the status on my profile since obviously quitting is tough and most who try end up going back. So how much 'probation' do you guys feel is honest and acceptable to go ahead and present yourself as a nonsmoker?

Maybe mention it in your profile that you have recently quit.

MsCarmen's photo
Fri 01/02/09 04:21 PM
I'd say if you quit, then you are a non-smoker and you should check that box. If you go back to that habit, then change it back to smoker, but make sure you are honest with the person you are going out with that restarted. That's only fair to them.

Congratulations and keep up the good work! flowerforyou

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Fri 01/02/09 04:29 PM

I'd say if you quit, then you are a non-smoker and you should check that box. If you go back to that habit, then change it back to smoker, but make sure you are honest with the person you are going out with that restarted. That's only fair to them.

Congratulations and keep up the good work! flowerforyou


:thumbsup: :thumbsup:

nogames39's photo
Fri 01/02/09 05:22 PM

"What does it matter? That is something you can cover when you start talking to someone. Don't sweat the click of a button."


That's actually my main concern since if a lady flags her profile to not respond if you're a smoker, you can't actually correspond with her. Since it's one of those up front criteria, I think it's important to be as honest as possible.


Look man, you can't make people want you. They either do or don't. If someone believes that smoking is that important, may-be you don't want to be with them anyway.

Who know, may-be they are right. Sometime when they are single with kids, they can at the very least say: "Good thing he wasn't a smoker!"

Rockmybobbysocks's photo
Fri 01/02/09 05:34 PM
why don't you just just click non smoker (because you really did stop right???) and in your profile put, "I proudly quit smoking on this day after this many years"??

that way its out there ya know :)

no worries ... after so long.. and you quit. thats awesome

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Fri 01/02/09 06:30 PM
That's why I put "occasionaly" on my profile...I've never been THAT committed to non-smoking...biggrin