WOW,,,I soooooo agree..
I just heard that Walmart was going to MAKE you show your penis if you buy condoms there...

Like I was lying about having one,,,,'PLEASEEEE"lol

Then they need to work out their problem with making better choices and having respect for people in general. I don't pay for any sins but my own.

credit ?? what's credit ????
if i aint got cash me dont need it !

Ah, yes, where the truly desperate and needy gather.

Seriously, though, I wasn't implying that everyone who wants to support their partner in finding self-fulfillment is pathetic. But there is a certain type of person I have met who seem to seek out, well, losers, so that they can try to rescue them in order to feel powerful themselves. I was referring to codependents. They are a sad lot. When you spend all of your time fixing someone else, you don't have to look at yourself.

Yeah. We're all one dimensional. No range of feeling is permitted. Um hm, yeah. Can't put people into neat little boxes to suit your needs. We're human. We feel. Sorry some of us dont fit the stereo type of who you think we are or ought to be. Some of us prefer to work on being real, all dimensional, all the layers, every facet. Work on being "known"....good and bad.

Some of us want friends and partners who truly know us for who we are and accept us just as we are; imperfections and all. There is no agenda here at present, just personal growth. Tired of being Miss Nice all the time to bullies like you two.

Don't want to feel? Go ahead, there are plenty of other vices to numb out on or escape with besides relationships....like alcohol drugs, gambling, over-exercising, over-spending, you name it.

Have fun.

Um, well, OK.

well, not lying. Just exaggerating.

Well said

I'm sorry you feel this way, dont know where it came from. But it is completly off topic.

Some of us weren't taught these things growing up; but have only learned them a long the way. Thanks for the reminders. Like affirmations to repeat each day. Oftentimes, as you know, the insight and knowledge is there, but the feelings work needs to be done, worked through. Learning to be still with the pain and loneliness is the only way to get through it.

Thanks, friend.

thanks for killing the thread.

No disrespect here - but was this thread made to make fun of the other thread? I'm confused as to why there are two threads on this.

Most women ( not all ) are looking for a fella that is ' financially secure ' because they want the nice car, they want the nice house.

If a dude doesn't have very good credit, the chances of him being able to provide those things for her are pretty slim.

That means that she is going to go on to the next fella who may be more able to provide those things.

Not to mention....I have yet to hear any woman say " I want a guy that isn't great to look at, who has no money and a bad credit history. That's my dream man. " lol

No it wasn't. I just don't understand why it's that important. When you die, it makes no difference what your credit score is.

I try my best to keep my credit score good now. I didn't do it in my 20's. I like that it helped me buy my little house.

I know it isn't easy. I know it isn't always attainable.

It's about security in old age.

True THIS!!!!!

If somebody I just met were to start digging up info about me, I just might start a round of head games with them just out of spite and to keep myself entertained. Some people ask questions that they have no business asking and that's when they lose their importance imo. Can't we just meet and enjoy one another's company? With some people, apparently not.

Basically the bottom line is that if somebody can't accept me for who I am, then they can screw off. I don't care if the generalizing fools don't know what they are missing. Some people just don't like being compared to other's past failures.