I have a way of thinking that goes like that.

It is not the woman fault if she is not what i am looking for but my own fault for not looking and searching at the right place or the right woman.

I will never say that if I don't find her it is because woman are like this or like that it is my own fault for either being to difficult or not knowing what I want.

If I am still single at 46 it is of my own doing and nobody else.

thats a really good question Lilith,,and I've asked myself it frequently

the only thing I can come up with is because I get BORED if he's too "stable",,


Now THATS messed up

There seems to be ... I think

Somewhere

wow an honest man how refreshing!!

my problem is that i am too nice. I believe people are basicaly nice and make mitakes. I think the problem with this guy is that I did fell in love with him he knows it. But I am also tired of his behavior..

Well there ya go

but look you have the best tool right here right at your finger tips

you can do all your prescreening and eliminating before you ever meet

the key is not to get so hung up on looks and read through the BS lines

and don't be in such a big hurry to be in a relationship once you meet take your time get to know what each other thinks and feels about things

then make decissions with your head not your heart

The head thinks the heart loves and even if you say i will take my time and all that bull**** you never know when your heart will fall in love.

That happens to me all the time.

I have never been hung up on looks. However, all the rest is good advice.

it is true you never know when you may fall for a person but you should be knowledgable enough to say doesn't matter how much I care for this person our lifestyles are so much different she will never be happy in my world nor I in hers so don't let it move farther you just set yourself up for failure

the problem was that each time he has an excuse but i don't know if old age or i am not as naive as i used to be and now i am tired of dating a guy who does not get it it takes 2 to be in a relationship.
and i think it is my time to depart from this relationship.

Exactly. And, one of my biggest mistakes has been to fall in love and then try to make it work no matter what. I have to approach this more logically and that is hard to do being the hopeless romantic that I am. But, I'm learning fast.

there are men out there who are available.... but I have to agree with a comment about what we want... sometime we all both men and women settle for less in hopes of finding love and then it all falls apart "no commitment"... .... but by the same token you really have to work hard at a relationship have a outstanding outlook on who you are and who they are be willing to compromise accept faults weaknesses and yet revel in the positive things and build on that..... personally I wouldlove to meet just one woman who is willing to try that.. so its a two way street...

When you fall in love it doesn't automatically means it will be to the right person but if you look for reason not to your a 100% sure to find one, nobody is perfect, everybody have flaws and are my preconceived way of thinking who she should be the right ones.

Maybe I want one kind of woman but she is all there is wrong for me maybe my screening process should be reviewed, maybe all I want is all there is wrong for me so whatever time I take or see in her doesn't matter because what I want is the completely opposite of what I should have so i will always choose the wrong on and let the right one pass by. So doesn't matter how I use my head I will always be wrong.

Another thing that people don't seem to grasp out here is location they never seem to think when i meet someone who is going to be moving

ask yourself are you willing to up-root your family and move across the country for a person

seems most people think we live right in their living room and can step out of the screem at any moment and live happily ever after

Well, my last relationship was an LDR. It was not an issue in the immediate relationship but I can see how it may have become one in the future. I am not in a position to move out of this area for about 5 years due to my children. At least 5 years. So, you're right. Most of the people we meet here live far away and that's going to be a problem if both parties aren't okay with living far away from each other.

If I were to ever find someone I wanted to be with who didn't live near by, I'd consider moving. Where I'm living now is not somewhere I plan to stay long term. You never know what may happen, though.

They don't and they can't?? SO THAT'S BEEN THE PROBLEM!!!!!!!!!

After much research and participation in these threads I've come to the conclusion that this is a nice way to waste time nothing more and nothing less.

Mitch

was Santa good to you