Do any of you ever feel like your life is a prison? I'm 24 years old and have never lived away from home for very long at all. I've never had any relationships last long, I've been stuck in the same way of living for far too long. Against my will, I have to help take care of my nephew b/c nobody else will. Its not that I don't love him, I do very much. Its more that I wasn't the one who got knocked up by some druggie at 16 y/o, and I'm resentful to my sister for allowing herself to be around ppl who would take her from us once she had her son. She was killed 9 years ago, and yes its every bit as unfair, more so actually, to my nephew than it is me. It doesnt' stop my pain though, and it doesn't make it fair that I gave up my youth for a child I didn't have.

I feel my mother has trapped me, she never taught me to drive or took me to get a license. She some how winds up with work hours that keep me from being able to look for a job b/c she IS my transportation. We live in a town way too big to walk to work, and even if it wasn't big its still not safe at all b/c of how crazy ppl drive. I don't even know if this post will stay up. Last time I posted for help or advice I got deleted b/c they said it might upset ppl. I dont' want to upset anyone, I just want someone to understand and hear me. Thats it. I desperately need a friend, any gender, any age. Just someone who can be there for me b/c I don't have anyone right now.

I know how it is! In a similar boat, one of the big reasons I'm off to the army

I raised my neice for 11 yrs off and on...

No regrets at all!

its worse where i am.
always remember when you are down n out look to someone worse off than you. it wont be so bad then.

Jayme, no one can make it happen for you; somehow you need to find strengh within yourself to do what is necessary. Take small steps, and one day at time. Set very small goals, and as you accomplish them, set a higher one. Is there public transportation where you live? How about restaurants (a server job to start)How about hotels (front desk clerk)?
If you need someone to talk, I am here for you.

lc

find a friend that will help you get your license
how old is your nephew
perhaps you can talk to your mom or another family member and have them help you take care of him so you can have some of your own time.
try to explain it to them

you can break free from it all...seems you just have to make some decisions

I have no friends here, no bike, no public transportation. If there was public transportation, I still couldn't afford it...lol. I keep trying to find some way to do it, but so far I'm coming up empty handed. I need help to do it, but the only person I talk to is my mother. Literally... I have NO friends here. None, zip, nada.

Let me start off by saying "Be thankful that there is still a part of your sister around to love"

Next you have to find the time yourself to get a job, there are some jobs that you can even do from home.

Well enough advise from me, I just hope that you will try to look on the brighter side of things


Have a wonderful day


HUGS

Good for you. On my end however, I was forced at the age of 15 to take care of him, and from then on just never have been able to find a way out.

Jayme, there is public transportation where you live. Maybe if you spend a little time online looking for venues to find a job you will find them. Maybe you want to try to call some of the churches, and let them know you need help to find a job, and for transportation.

As I said before, only YOU can make it happen.


In May 2006, Jonesboro began a major public transportation system known as the Jonesboro Economical Transportation System, or JETS. The system began running routes in May 2006 to various places in Jonesboro. The system is made up of 5 buses that travel all over the city.

Do you know how much hard the "get a job" thing is to do than to say? I have NO businesses in walking distance! I have NO transportation during hours of business. Do you know how often I hear the words "get a damn job"? I have to rebut with the question "You gonna drive me?"

I've lived here 6 months and never seen them, there are no bus stops, so how was I supposed to know that? How dare you say that like you're judging me, I didn't know.

I am not judging you; I am informing you that there is public transportation where you live, since you did not know. That is all...

It doesn't stop close to me, its basically all about the college and the mall and shopping area. Believe me, if I lived close enough to get ON one of the busses, I'd be close enough to WALK to town.

You know, when that special someone comes, and he says he is taking you, you will have to go. Don't run circles in the hamster wheel, that's what I call "Hell". Repetition over an over and it hurts.

If the special someone doesn't come, it's time to be brave and make a move. Risky and you might get hurt a bit, but later you will thank yourself for doing it.

I wanted to give you my advice but then I do not believe you.

Your picture is not of some victim, it is of a dominatrix who lathers in pain and proxy pain. How can you drive to the CVS to get all that makeup if you arent able to drive?

Not buyuing it. If i am wrong than i shall burn in hell.

I didn't say I was a "victim" I said I hate my life. Its a daily feeling that I try really hard to get out of. Whats the crap about a dominatrix? LOL... If I was a dominatrix I might not be so broke...

As I asked in the email I sent you and never got a response for, how does being able to buy makeup have anything to do with me having a car? I DID have a job just 2 months ago... and am having NO luck finding another with the hours I need to be able to get there and back. I actually did just get repayed some money that a friend owed me and bought myself all new makeup for christmas... My mother is my transportation at the moment, and I do go to the store with her occasionally... I love playing with makeup and taking pictures, whats wrong with that?

On the one hand, I might ask if your mom is also feeling similarly trapped.

If you can agree to that, together, then you have the communication established that one or both of you will change your circumstances.

Changing your circumstances changes things for each person that you are with. They do not have to agree, or to help, but simply to understand that you are changing your life.

I have to believe also the comments that others have said..........I dont live next to a bus stop and i have to walk more that half a mile with a three year old.............so im not buying the whole pity party thing..............JMO