well said md

btw any woman i'm with is the most beautiful to me ,,,,,,,,mebbe not to
others!!!!!

anybody that depends on physical attraction for a mate is superficial to
begin with....their relationships don't last long in most
cases...atleast from my experiances.

Well said bigpappa.

Physical attractiveness
can be a factor.

We can be all 'politically
correct' and say it doesn't
matter, but when push comes
to shove, it often does.

After all, would you
date someone whom you
are not physically attracted to
in some way?

Abstract wrote:
“Can you love someone who is not physically attractive?”

Absolutely. I love a lot of people that I'm not physical attracted to.

Or are you speaking about monogamous romantic love?

Sexual desire is a part of romantic love. If I’m not physically
attracted to someone I’m probably not going to find them sexually
desirable. Therefore my love for a physically unattractive person will
most likely remain platonic.

Romantic love requires sexual intimacy. After all, if there’s no sexual
intimacy then it’s just platonic love right?

So for romantic love to blossom there simply must be physical attraction
(or at least sexual attraction) otherwise the love will remain platonic.

Most people do not want to hook-up with a life-mate in a monogamous
relationship based solely on platonic love. Most people who enter into a
monogamous relationship would like to be sexually active with their
partner. That’s going to require sexual attraction unless they plan on
faking their sexual desire for the rest of their life.

Love alone does not incite sexual desire. We love our parents, our
children, and many friends without ever having sexual desire for them.

But romantic love absolutely requires sexual desire. How can anyone
claim that it doesn’t? It’s the sexual desire of romantic love that
separate romantic love from platonic love.

People who claim that sexual desire is completely unimportant to
romantic love have to be bananas.

By its very definition, the ONLY THING that separates romantic love from
platonic love is sex.

I have to agree with bigpappa4331, as long as you find them attractive
thats all that matters!!

i think in some manner whatever it is you have to find the person
physically attractive to be in love with them! but thats my opinion not
that looks are the only thing that matters bc you definitly can't love
someone just for their looks but it most definitly is a combination of
atleast being decent or having 1 or 2 outstanding physical qualities and
then personality

if they are confident and like themselves suddenly they will
morph into beauty...you will notice things about them that
would seem unlikely at first appearance..its' all about energy..

No Physical Attraction No Date !

=O There goes my date with Styx than =O

I'm sorry Allen...can't help it...

I'm glad friendship isn't based on looks than or I'd be totally screwed
O_o

awww we are friends Allen...and you know that...

As far as physically attractive and can you fall in love with them. That
really all depends on the person themselves. And the person in question.
For somone one could be what some would consider either plain or average
looking. But when you actually start talking to them they have an inner
beauty there personality could shine through. It could be the way they
have an outlook on life, there smile, there laugh,kindness or just the
way they treat others. At times once you actually talk to someone there
personality will make you look at them in a differt light you can see
things about them you did not on the first glance.

But most regardless must have something that draws you to that person to
begin with regardless if it is their looks or personality or what it is.
If you actually take the time to get to know them then yes it is
possible to fall in love with someone that there was not a physically
attraction to begin with.

Beside when you really think about it each one of us is differnt on what
to use is what one might call plain might be what another calls average.

But you can take the most beautiful women or the most hansome man in the
world. Put them in a room with a women and a man that is consider plain
to others. Then add with several others to mingle with them. At first
glance yeah maybe the ones that are the better looking ones will have
all the attention. But if you was to add that the two that are the
better looking are both rude and think they are better than anyone eles
and the two that are average have a great personality and can keep a
converstion going. Hummm then which ones do you realy think more would
end up talking with and enjoy being around more.

You can take the most beautiful person and when they open there mouth
and if they always put others down and always hateful funny how they
don't seem all that beautiful anymore.

And you can take one that is average with a shinning personality and
when you talk to them there inner beauty shines through.

So if you go on stictly a picture or the first glance and never even
talk to them it could be your loss.

For most there has to be an attraction to make you want to get to know
that person better, But it is not always the Physical Attraction
sometimes it is there smile or there personality then after what ever it
was that got you to talk to them and get to know them then it is
posssible to also fall in love with them. But some will never know if
they they are only looking for the beutiful ones only.

Yes, I can and have. I love myself. :)

SheNerd

I have a friend right now who would like to be more, and I like her, but
she's just too heavy for me. What can I say, I'm a little guy. So
there's me being shallow in spite of myself. At the same time, I'm
skinny and stand only about 5'6", so most of the women I've dated
haven't exactly been all over me at first sight. In other words, I've
definitely benefitted from women not being shallow. And then, I know
that people become far more beautiful when you start to love them. It's
complicated.
-J