Well said Lex.

Regarding the issue of "change" --

The people who seem to be concerned about the CSers coming in and
"taking over" are apparently seeing them as some sort of monolithic and
threatening force, ignoring that these are individuals, just like
everyone else is an individual --

This is a unique circumstance, in my experience. I have never seen this
kind of "mass exodus" from one site to another, and I will be the first
to admit that there may be some unforeseen issues which will arise.

I do not believe, however, that these issues, should they occur, will be
due to the facts that a.) a large number of people have joined more or
less simultaneously, and b.) that the vast majority of these new people
were all, at one time, on a particular site.

If they occur at all, it will be because one or two or three individuals
cannot function within the established JSH parameters, at which time
those individuals will be dealt with accordingly. And, in that event,
it makes no difference if the noncompliant individuals are long-time
JSHers or brand new former CSers. All should be treated identically.

At its root, a website like this one is nothing more than people joining
together for various purposes. Take away the people, and you have
nothing but empty pages. Any change in that website's population, even
one person joining or leaving, changes the makeup of that population,
albeit in a minuscule and mostly negligible way.

Here we have a scenario in which many people have arrived at the same
time. This ostensibly creates the potential for some sort of shift in
the site itself, but nothing that I believe should concern us, until and
unless we have some indication that the newcomers have a pre-existing
agenda to mold the site into something other than what the creators of
JSH had intended.

And there is no way Vanchau and Mike would let that happen.

A website, like any other living organism, will grow and change over
time. It is inevitable. People will leave, others will enter. There
will be assimilation problems for some.

I am concerned with those who seem to believe that change is somehow
automatically a bad thing. In the past (before the CSers even arrived),
I would occasionally see threads about "What happened to my JSH? Where
have my friends gone?"

And the answer is: they have gone on to other things, other facets of
life. Maybe they will be back, maybe not. In the end, the real issue
is how can you -- each individual you -- get the most out of this site.
I maintain that a stagnant, unchanging site ultimately works for no one
except the few who are content to be insular within their own small
group of friends here -- and that, I believe, is where the roots of the
occasionally-referenced "cliquishness" lie.

We have had dozens of excellent new members joining JSH, just in the
four months since I signed up. The site would be poorer without them.
Let us never believe that there must be an optimum number, a point where
there are "enough" people on the site, and no more are needed. Because
more will ALWAYS be needed.

And let us not discriminate against newcomers solely because they come
in a group, or they come from a particular site. Do you denounce
prejudice? Or do you honestly believe this is a "loophole," simply
because it affects "your" JSH, the one you are comfortable with?

Think about it. Your JSH is not yours alone. That sort of
self-centeredness and intolerance is not attractive.

Again, just one guy's opinion.

i think that any of us who have been here for any amount of time.. be it
a day, or week or year, know that mike and van would NEVER let the site
go down hill the way that the other site did.. a good example of this is
spay, and devin... and not to mention that none of us here would ever
want for this site to end up like that ether.. this is a second (or for
some first.. hehe) home to most of us here... and the family here has
done a good job, i feel , in welcoming the csers, or should i say recent
just say hiers, to our home....


once again welcome all..

I like you already Lex

Very thoughtful and articulate and I agree with you.

We have been running a little amok in the Newbie section ... I think
because we are just so happy to reunite with our friends.

Thank you all for your patience while we assimilate into our new
surroundings.

I am a happy JSHer and am grateful for the warm welcome I have received.
I have been one of the newbies exploring some of the threads and have
been embraced by new friends.

BTW I am REALLY REALLY sorry about the number nine pencil incident
everyone - I thought you were kidding about the llama.

I look forward to getting to know you all.

Thank you Lex for your understanding.
naturally enough there are some thinking we would take over.
They should bear in mind that we not always come in bundles
in here. Though we play well together we all can stand on our
own feet without the others.
In the moment we are only exited to be together again,
like a family that was parted for a while.
I feel like home here already and I can't thank you all enough
for your welcome.

Lex -

Two fantastic posts. Thanks so much for making them.

Vanchau and I try to stay out of the way of the discussions most of the
time, but I just wanted to chime in quickly here to make a few minor
points:

- First, all of you are what make the site great. The members ARE the
site - without you guys, JustSayHi would just be a bunch of computers,
and what fun would that be.

- Because you guys are what makes the site run, I can't promise that the
site won't change. It's really up to you guys. When new people come
in, or when old people leave, it's how you treat them and how you
represent yourselves that will make the site what you want it to be.

- The things I can promise are that we will do our best to treat
everyone on the site fairly and with respect as long as they do the
same. We will always have zero tolerance for personal attacks on other
users. We'll never play favorites with anyone, new members or old.
We'll make sure the few rules that we do have are followed at all times.
And we'll do our best to always keep the site a fun and friendly place
to meet new people and make friends or more

Thanks again everyone for making the site what it is. We're really
proud of what JSH has become, and we have all of you to thank for that.

THANK YOU!

Mike & Vanchau

many wise words here

and frankly

if i knew this place was here when i joined cs

i would not be a former cser now

hugs and handshakes to all who wish them

and have a on me

at big g's place




hehe.. couldnt resist..
sorry

Thanks for taking us in...just don't give us sugar

Yeah we appreciate everything. We know it's probably kinda strange
since a whole bunch came at the same time...

Hey katie, how's it going?? like 8 days now or what?

Morning Tom!

7 1/2 days or 180 hours

10,800 minutes


648,000 seconds

Awww...group hug!!!


(((((((((((((((((Group)))))))))))))))

lol, you guys are giving me suspense and I'm not even involved! lmao

Thanks so much Lex...means a lot to us...

Hey Jean! Hey Rose!

G'morning!



I wan't to join the group hug!


(((HUG)))

I LUVVVVV hugs!! Good morning to all you fine people. It's a beautiful
morning here, sun shining and the breeze is a little cool. I am in
heaven.

Lex, we are going to get along well. I love your mind. You are very
articulate and versed in a mannerism that is highly affective.

I wish I had known of this place a year ago. Aaaauuuunnnnd, I wish I had
listened to the few friends that tried to tell me recently.

I'm HOME!!
Kat

Well I have no clue what site is CS. But as far as them coming here hey
the more the better this is a friends and dating site all are welcome.
Just means more opinions and new post in the forums. Always nice to see
fresh ideals from others. So welcome to all the new ones coming in and
enjoy the site.

Thank you so much "Lex"!!!! and everyone else from JSH that have been so
welcoming!

Thanks TxsGal...