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my daughter has to meet a lady from the court and she will do a placement report to the courts ware the child should live. how do i tell a 7 year old it is ok to go with her to go out to eat and go shopping and not tell her who she is.i never lie to her and she will ask me and i cant tell her.so how do you tell a child to go with a person she never met.i am at a loss for a good story.
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has any one went through this?
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Why you can't you just say it is someone from the courts? You don't have to go into detail about what purpose the woman is serving, right?
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i agree
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I am about to go thru the same. Why does she have to take her somewhere? I have not heard of that YET!! I have not had anyone come to the house yet but my daughter would be more comfortable here to talk. Someone taking her somewhere would scare her and she is 14!!
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they are an officer of the court
you now kinda like a policeman for the court they want you to go out with them be good and have fun |
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I am about to go thru the same. Why does she have to take her somewhere? I have not heard of that YET!! I have not had anyone come to the house yet but my daughter would be more comfortable here to talk. Someone taking her somewhere would scare her and she is 14!! they want them to not have the child worry about mommy or daddy intimidating the answers |
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Yeah I can see both sides. I am so new at all this. Married for 2 long!! LOL
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they are an officer of the court you now kinda like a policeman for the court they want you to go out with them be good and have fun |
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Why you can't you just say it is someone from the courts? You don't have to go into detail about what purpose the woman is serving, right? |
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I am about to go thru the same. Why does she have to take her somewhere? I have not heard of that YET!! I have not had anyone come to the house yet but my daughter would be more comfortable here to talk. Someone taking her somewhere would scare her and she is 14!! they want them to not have the child worry about mommy or daddy intimidating the answers |
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Just tell her there is a lady that needs to spend some time with her, talk to her about what she does every day, etc. Then let it go at that. I have 3 daughters myself and at that age, just saying the lady is taking her into town, to the mall or wherever should be enough for her. It would have been with mine.
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My girls were 14 and 16 when we divorced, very amicable. Except when it came to custody and visitation. We coudn't go 30 seconds without getting uptight. Its funny now because when we went to Friend of The Court, just having the third person made a big difference. The officer kinda wondered what the problem was because there were no real conflicts in what each of us thought would be best for the kids.
It's just a few hours, it will pass. Tell her as much as she can understand. |
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My girls were 14 and 16 when we divorced, very amicable. Except when it came to custody and visitation. We coudn't go 30 seconds without getting uptight. Its funny now because when we went to Friend of The Court, just having the third person made a big difference. The officer kinda wondered what the problem was because there were no real conflicts in what each of us thought would be best for the kids. It's just a few hours, it will pass. Tell her as much as she can understand. |
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Wow.... theyre gonna put a 7 year old on the stand.. thts UNHEARD of in most states...
Good luck to you !!!! |
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Edited by
lilith401
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Tue 11/25/08 07:19 AM
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No, not on the stand. They are NOT going to put her on the stand.
It is a GAL meeting, if I understand correctly. They will write a report for the courts in regards to familial adjustment and custody recommendations. John, tell your daughter a lady wants to meet her and it is okay to talk to her. Tell her to talk freely and tell the truth, and that she is not in any trouble. When I did this, I told my son she was a friend of mommy and daddy and that we wanted him to talk to her. |
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No, not on the stand. They are NOT going to put her on the stand. It is a GAL meeting, if I understand correctly. They will write a report for the courts in regards to familial adjustment and custody recommendations. John, tell your daughter a lady wants to meet her and it is okay to talk to her. Tell her to talk freely and tell the truth, and that she is not in any trouble. When I did this, I told my son she was a friend of mommy and daddy and that we wanted him to talk to her. |
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Which explains why there is a GAL.I wouldn't dream of putting my child on the stand to diss his dad no matter how I felt about Dad personally.Anyway in NH you have to be 13 to testify about where you want to live.You and the ex need to put aside your hate and work out a plan so your kid can get thru this with as less pain as possible.
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Edited by
Tazz42
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Tue 11/25/08 06:17 PM
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Why you can't you just say it is someone from the courts? You don't have to go into detail about what purpose the woman is serving, right? |
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my daughter has to meet a lady from the court and she will do a placement report to the courts ware the child should live. how do i tell a 7 year old it is ok to go with her to go out to eat and go shopping and not tell her who she is.i never lie to her and she will ask me and i cant tell her.so how do you tell a child to go with a person she never met.i am at a loss for a good story. I'm sorry that she has to go through this, John. 
I've never heard of such a situation. |
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