Unfortunately, we all deal with those flakes Honey. All reasoning goes right out the window when someone takes it upon themselves to be spiteful and evil for selfish and possessive manipulative reasons.

From a guys perspective...it is always humorous when a woman's jealous ex wants to bow up on me and I am a full foot taller....for some reason, it never helps when I am laughing at them.

I can't control my ex...


despite breaking up with her every time i see her, she still comes back and stalks me and tries to start fights with every girl I interact with.


It's annoying and there is nothing I can do about it without breaking the law. Restraining order will make her go even crazier


what makes things worse is she is the mother of my baby.

I would LOVE for HER to play in traffic.

THIS IS THE EXACT SITUATION HE IS FALLING INTO

...sad thing is, I gave him the link to this chat because I wanted him to see what others thought about the ex and he thinks it's a direct attack on him. He feels as though I am making him out to be a liar.

Bottom line is, I stated in my profile:
"I am only here for friendship but if more emotion happens to evolve, I wouldn't be a fool and push it away..."

He seems like the type that is considered a "good catch". He makes an Excellent friend.
...UNFORTUNATELY, he comes with a little bonus, his ex wife.
She shouldn't be in the picture any longer because she has been "X'ed" BUT he has a little boy with her.
Unfortunately for him, that woman will ALWAYS have an attachment to him. She clearly doesn't want him to be happy...and to be honest, I WON'T willingly walk myself into a situation like that. She is more than a red flag- she a burning heat lamp that consumes him.

Thanks.
Not worried about it...
Just here for the conversation.
...The "butterflies in the stomach" when you might have met someone that could be more is just a bonus.

Thank you ma'am

Actually the longer she is around, it's a constant reminder for him to be loyal to you. He doesn't want two of them.

He'll probably thank you and appreciate you at a more elevated level if you stood up to her and ignored her.


If he's serious about you, I wouldn't give him up because of his gf. I would laugh at her every time she called me and I would research "your mama" jokes on the internet to rebutt everything she says.

I wouldn't treat people the way she does.
There isn't a shot in hell I would ever be another "her".
I agree ignoring her and laughing at her are good ways to piss her off but I don't want to start out things that way. That requires WAY too much effort from me (for the wrong person)... all those games just so she leaves "us" alone...?!?
I don't think so.

By the way, we were just really good friends. We looked forward to each others conversation daily. It was nice having someone around that actually cared how my day went.
I am sure if more time were allowed we would have eventually developed feelings...He is just "that" kind of guy

oh so you don't want the guy even if he didn't have that crazy ex?






that's a different story

I didn't say that.

Yes, I would have liked for him to stick around.
Yes, I would have liked "more" from him...eventually.

No, I refuse to place myself in a situation where things start off hostile with an EX. If later down the road, I did something to offend her or upset her, then an apology is due.
I can't see myself getting involved with him anymore if she still runs his life.

SHE isn't worth the hassle

omg your situation sounds like me and my best friend.

him and i have been friends for 7 years. we live states apart. his wife insists i want her husband and so i should leave him be.


well im not going to let that tear up our friendship so we are friends behind her back.

and its purely friendship.

so she found out the other day and was threatening me. and im scared of her why?!?


stupid drama lol.

I don't have a problem with my ex harrassing my girlfriend

now if I could just get my mom to lay off

I agree with you...she should never have even gotten your phone number to text you.....still this guy sounds nice since he is genuinely interested in you....you might want to reconsider or at least discuss it with him & then decide

Yup.

DRAMA!

Similar situations EXCEPT she is an EX.
She shouldn't have ANY say what women he involves himself with- friendship or not.
He told me he had several female friends before the marriage but because she was insecure, she had him sever all ties with his female friends.

^^^
If he is allowing that female to run him into the ground like that...I can't help him.
He needs to learn to stand up for himself and those he cares about

I talked to him but I didn't give him a chance to change my mind.
Things have to change with his EX and within himself before he can change my mind.

what are you talking about "within himself"


he can't control his ex, why are you blaming him

He allows her to treat him this way.
Most people have boundries and he hasn't established those with his EX.

maybe she's not so "ex"

...some women...
gives the rest of us a bad name that one...

You really need to be friends so much with someone that you'll go behind the back of their supposed life partner? No matter how petty she is being, he chose her and it seems pretty disrespectful of both of you to continue on behind her back. I would say why not get to know her as well and maybe she won't feel threatened by you. Then you get an added friend and get to keep the man friend as well. I just think that would be so much better for all concerned.