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longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Mon 10/27/08 12:05 AM
In my experience its a tradition to embarass a man. Had 2 runaway brides in my life. Won't be a third. Fck marriage. Wish I had all that money back. More so I wish the two twits could have made their minds up before the money was spent and plans were made. I didn't see a clause in the marriage vows that said "I reserve the right to change my mind at any given moments notice and force you to accept my decision and pay all bills incurred therein for my mindless behavior". Fck marriage. First time- shame on you. Second time- shame on me. There won't be a third time. And you wonder why I'm so selfish? Because I was led to believe in you womens fairytale bridal dreams bullsh!t twice just to get cold feet at the last minute leaving me embarrassed in front of my family and huge bills for a wedding that never happened. F*ck you runaway brides. sorry about that Kyle... some women are just soooo bent on being bad and insist on trying to give other women and marriage a bad name ... but not all women are like that & it does go both ways men can be just as selfish & deceitful yea, there are some men like that ...not when their checkbooks writing the check. Never hear the term "runaway groom".

Rapunzel Joined Tue 08/22/06 Posts: 16246	Mon 10/27/08 12:06 AM
but then there are some real sweethearts too.... and we all need to be nicer to each other & lay down the arms in the gender wars... people are going to get to fed up with the whole mess and are going to give up trying as we see demonstrated in these threads... so let us all appreciate one another and quit hurting each other.... don't predatory people realize that they run out of bridges to burn ??? i like the way this lady thinks thank you, Sweetie

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Mon 10/27/08 12:10 AM
Yeah money, money, money gypsy. I really enjoyed working my ass off for two years for nothing. I really did. It was great. Highlight of my life. Had a lot of time to think about marriage.

Rapunzel Joined Tue 08/22/06 Posts: 16246	Mon 10/27/08 12:11 AM
In my experience its a tradition to embarass a man. Had 2 runaway brides in my life. Won't be a third. Fck marriage. Wish I had all that money back. More so I wish the two twits could have made their minds up before the money was spent and plans were made. I didn't see a clause in the marriage vows that said "I reserve the right to change my mind at any given moments notice and force you to accept my decision and pay all bills incurred therein for my mindless behavior". Fck marriage. First time- shame on you. Second time- shame on me. There won't be a third time. And you wonder why I'm so selfish? Because I was led to believe in you womens fairytale bridal dreams bullsh!t twice just to get cold feet at the last minute leaving me embarrassed in front of my family and huge bills for a wedding that never happened. F*ck you runaway brides. sorry about that Kyle... some women are just soooo bent on being bad and insist on trying to give other women and marriage a bad name ... but not all women are like that & it does go both ways men can be just as selfish & deceitful yea, there are some men like that ...not when their checkbooks writing the check. Never hear the term "runaway groom". my Son sure did an < about face > when it came to rehearsal time just before his scheduled wedding 3 years ago he just couldn't go through with it the bride to be was toooooo controlling and he thought he was in too deep.. i told him he wasn't in too deep until he walks down that isle & says I do sooo, he didn't go through with it and i am happy he didn't... cause she was a Capital B word although he was responsible & paid all the fees anyway and let her keep the ring...

RareEntity Joined Mon 09/01/08 Posts: 23676	Mon 10/27/08 12:12 AM
but then there are some real sweethearts too.... and we all need to be nicer to each other & lay down the arms in the gender wars... people are going to get to fed up with the whole mess and are going to give up trying as we see demonstrated in these threads... so let us all appreciate one another and quit hurting each other.... don't predatory people realize that they run out of bridges to burn ??? i like the way this lady thinks thank you, Sweetie pity theres such a big distance

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Mon 10/27/08 12:14 AM Edited by Gypsy41 on Mon 10/27/08 12:14 AM
I had second thoughts with my marriage....I called my dad, crying.......I didnt want to get married to him but the plans were all set......so I just went through with it.

Rapunzel Joined Tue 08/22/06 Posts: 16246	Mon 10/27/08 12:14 AM Edited by Rapunzel on Mon 10/27/08 12:18 AM
yeah...in age and in miles but you can admire me from afar... My kids are in their early thirties ~ Sweetie

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Mon 10/27/08 12:15 AM
My freinds tell me-"Oh kyle, marriage is great! You don't know what you're missing!" I tell them "What am I missing? Divorce? Child support? Alimony? Debt? Sounds like fun to me!" And these same people sleep on my couch, eat my food, drink my scotch, and cry on my shoulder when their marriage fails. Cry on this shoulder because the other ones wet already.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Mon 10/27/08 12:15 AM
So let me add to this due to a point brought up earlier. Does me not wanting to get married in some way, shape, or form make me less desirable? Are people really going to go "oh, he doesn't want marriage...well we can't have that"? Don't tell me people are void of learning about someone before they say it isn't going to happen...

RareEntity Joined Mon 09/01/08 Posts: 23676	Mon 10/27/08 12:17 AM
yeah...in age and in distance but you can admire me from afar... yea, i can do that :bushing:

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Mon 10/27/08 12:17 AM
So let me add to this due to a point brought up earlier. Does me not wanting to get married in some way, shape, or form make me less desirable? Are people really going to go "oh, he doesn't want marriage...well we can't have that"? Don't tell me people are void of learning about someone before they say it isn't going to happen... To be honest....alot of women will avoid you for that reason especially if they are in their child bearing years....

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Mon 10/27/08 12:18 AM
In my experience its a tradition to embarass a man. Had 2 runaway brides in my life. Won't be a third. Fck marriage. Wish I had all that money back. More so I wish the two twits could have made their minds up before the money was spent and plans were made. I didn't see a clause in the marriage vows that said "I reserve the right to change my mind at any given moments notice and force you to accept my decision and pay all bills incurred therein for my mindless behavior". Fck marriage. First time- shame on you. Second time- shame on me. There won't be a third time. And you wonder why I'm so selfish? Because I was led to believe in you womens fairytale bridal dreams bullsh!t twice just to get cold feet at the last minute leaving me embarrassed in front of my family and huge bills for a wedding that never happened. F*ck you runaway brides. sorry about that Kyle... some women are just soooo bent on being bad and insist on trying to give other women and marriage a bad name ... but not all women are like that & it does go both ways men can be just as selfish & deceitful yea, there are some men like that ...not when their checkbooks writing the check. Never hear the term "runaway groom". my Son sure did an < about face > when it came to rehearsal time just before his scheduled wedding 3 years ago he just couldn't go through with it the bride to be was toooooo controlling and he thought he was in too deep.. i told him he wasn't in too deep until he walks down that isle & says I do sooo, he didn't go through with it and i am happy he didn't... cause she was a Capital B word although he was responsible & paid all the fees anyway and let her keep the ring... ...ouch. Expensive lessons learned.

RareEntity Joined Mon 09/01/08 Posts: 23676	Mon 10/27/08 12:18 AM
So let me add to this due to a point brought up earlier. Does me not wanting to get married in some way, shape, or form make me less desirable? Are people really going to go "oh, he doesn't want marriage...well we can't have that"? Don't tell me people are void of learning about someone before they say it isn't going to happen... honestly, i hope not. namely since im very undecided on it. not too mention procreation.

Pjinkysmom63 Joined Tue 11/13/07 Posts: 331	Mon 10/27/08 12:20 AM
LongHairBiker there is one thing I will say...it sounds like it was a blessing you did not marry these people...they were not good enough for you. To walk away that easy...no they were not good enough. A divorce would have cost allot more than a wedding. Divorce is a very hard pill to swallow especially when kids are involved.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Mon 10/27/08 12:20 AM
So let me add to this due to a point brought up earlier. Does me not wanting to get married in some way, shape, or form make me less desirable? Are people really going to go "oh, he doesn't want marriage...well we can't have that"? Don't tell me people are void of learning about someone before they say it isn't going to happen... To be honest....alot of women will avoid you for that reason especially if they are in their child bearing years.... So they really are void of learning about someone before committing a choice? That seems...well, illogical actually. Well it seems that is why I am single, apparently why I will probably stay single...rather be happy then terribly distraught anyway.

Rapunzel Joined Tue 08/22/06 Posts: 16246	Mon 10/27/08 12:21 AM
My freinds tell me-"Oh kyle, marriage is great! You don't know what you're missing!" I tell them "What am I missing? Divorce? Child support? Alimony? Debt? Sounds like fun to me!" And these same people sleep on my couch, eat my food, drink my scotch, and cry on my shoulder when their marriage fails. Cry on this shoulder because the other ones wet already. that sucks Kyle... You are too nice... kick them to the curb and tell them i told you so I am for marriage but i am not one to just jump into it... i've tried that before & it doesn't work either...

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Mon 10/27/08 12:22 AM
So let me add to this due to a point brought up earlier. Does me not wanting to get married in some way, shape, or form make me less desirable? Are people really going to go "oh, he doesn't want marriage...well we can't have that"? Don't tell me people are void of learning about someone before they say it isn't going to happen... ...YES!!! They will accuse you of not being willing to commit because you won't submit to their childhood dream of a bride in white and a grand expensive wedding.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Mon 10/27/08 12:27 AM
So let me add to this due to a point brought up earlier. Does me not wanting to get married in some way, shape, or form make me less desirable? Are people really going to go "oh, he doesn't want marriage...well we can't have that"? Don't tell me people are void of learning about someone before they say it isn't going to happen... To be honest....alot of women will avoid you for that reason especially if they are in their child bearing years.... So they really are void of learning about someone before committing a choice? That seems...well, illogical actually. Well it seems that is why I am single, apparently why I will probably stay single...rather be happy then terribly distraught anyway. Self prophesizing......will get you EVERYTHING that you want!

Rapunzel Joined Tue 08/22/06 Posts: 16246	Mon 10/27/08 12:28 AM Edited by Rapunzel on Mon 10/27/08 12:28 AM
give them some tough love Kyle... people need to suffer the repercussions of their poor choice of action oftentimes, cause if they don't they won't ever learn & they'll make the same stupid move & then cry the blues to you & impose on you as they gobble up all your food & try to drink away their foolish behavior the way you describe them is not the way real friends should treat their friends

Down2earthdebbie Joined Tue 12/05/06 Posts: 6097	Mon 10/27/08 12:29 AM
Marriage is a commentment betwen 2 people & a bond of LOVE although that bond may not last FOREVER I believe being married gives you the power to make things work rather than giving up! Also it's what the BIBLE sais, we need to do! I am aware that the way the Laws are it is hard to trust someone else just because you love them it does not give them the right to take everything that that person has or has worked for their whole LIFE! It is very complicated I think that if it des not work out in the end then both parties should leave with what they came into the relationship with. And then splitting what they got together! I believe that prenumps are the only way to protect yourself! LOVE ME HATE ME that's just how I feel Having raised 2 grown girls on my own!